About Me

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Me, on my honeymoon in St Maarten

My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m a full-time blog writer in Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada. Have you been here? Where in the world are you right now, and how did you find me? Maybe you were searching the internet for a problem I’ve written about – which is why I created “SheBlossoms”! My purpose is to help people cope with difficult problems, such as how to let go of someone you love or thoughtful sympathy gifts for the loss of a mother. SheBlossoms is a series of blogs to help you listen to the still small voice, get out of your own way, and Blossom in your life.

Here’s something incredible: I’ve been earning a full-time living as a blogger and freelance writer since 2008. I am amazed by this, and every day I wonder if today I’ll get fired. I’m not paranoid, but it’s just so wild that I get paid to Blossom! If you have a dream that you’d love to get paid to do, take it from me: it is possible. Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t make it as a writer, artist, doctor, astronaut, preacher, or surfer.





Listen to that still, small voice inside of you. You will Blossom.

Random Stuff About Me

Your thoughts are welcome in the comments section below – but you need to know that I don’t give advice to anyone about anything. I’m a writer and I love to share general insights and wisdom, but I can’t offer personal guidance or thoughts. I encourage people to share their stories because writing is healing, but I don’t tell people what to do with their lives.

Here’s a glimpse into my world…

  • I lived in Kenya, East Africa for three years. I taught Language Arts and Journalism at Rosslyn Academy, which is an American school in Nairobi.
  • My undergraduate degrees are in Education and Psychology from the University of Alberta, in Edmonton.
  • My Master of Social Work (MSW) is from University of British Columbia (UBC), in Vancouver.
  • I started volunteering with the Big Sisters/Big Brothers organization in 2012; my “Little” Sister is now 14 years old. I was a Little Sister myself when I was 10 years old, in Saskatoon, Saskatchewan. I’m still in touch with my Big Sister today! She lives in Toronto, Ontario.
  • As a freelance writer, I’ve written for a wide range of publications, including Reader’s Digest, Woman’s Day, MSN Health, Natural Health, Spirituality & Health, and sometimes More.
  • My dad was born, raised, and currently lives in Jerusalem, Israel. He’s Jewish. I’m Christian. My mom lives in a group home on an acreage outside Prince Albert, Saskatchewan. She’s struggled with schizophrenia my whole life. I lived in foster homes as a child.
  • My husband and I can’t have kids because of azoospermia. We chose not to get in vitro fertilization or IVF, though we did try intrauterine insemination or IUI. We also chose not to adopt or foster kids.
  • I’ve written several ebooks. How to Let Go of Someone You Love: 3 Powerful Secrets (and 75 Tips!) for Healing Your Heart is my most popular.

My purpose is to help women Blossom – which is why I created BlossomTips.com and How Love Blossoms. I love encouraging women over 40 to flourish in a new season of life, to ground themselves in the river of divine love and life, and to know who they are in Him.

After I turned 40, I got my Master of Social Work (MSW), taught myself to play the flute, and started painting with oils and acrylics (a dream come true for me). I also went on my first missions trip to Haiti. The older I get, the happier and more peaceful I become. And the bigger I Blossom 🙂

Other ways to stay in touch with me:

But I spend almost no time on Facebook or any social media site. I’d rather be writing! 🙂





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My Blossom Blogs

Blossom in Love started out as Quips and Tips for Love and Relationships. I “rebranded” and am now Blossom. My purpose is to encourage and empower women in all types of relationship situations.

Blossom in Life was originally Quips and Tips for Achieving Your Goals. It covers everything from overcoming career obstacles to making more money. That blog was supposed to help readers achieve their personal, professional, and financial goals…and my most popular article is 40th Birthday Gift Ideas That Will Surprise and Delight Her.

Blossom in Your Writing was first called Quips and Tips for Successful Writers. It’s the first blog I ever started, back in 2008. I love that blog, dude. It’s all about writing, editing, getting published — and blogging! There, I combine quips from famous published writers with practical writing advice. My most popular article is 11 Types of Articles to Write for Magazines, and I write about everything from “how to grab your reader by the throat” to “reasons book manuscripts are rejected.”

Blossom in Your Health – originally Quips and Tips for Couples Coping With Infertility – was the blog I started when we found out we can’t have kids. Infertility is a drag, but it doesn’t have to destroy our lives! My husband and I are riding the infertility roller coaster, but it hasn’t destroyed our dreams or crushed our spirits. Back in the day, I wrote articles about getting pregnant, dealing with childlessness, and even improving sperm count.

My eBooks

The “quips and tips” in my ebooks are not the same as the “quips and tips” on my blogs! All my ebooks include information and advice from a wide variety of sources. My ebooks aren’t just my tips — they’re me tapping into the brains of smart, experienced, educated, helpful people, and sharing what I learned.

75 Ways to Let Go of Someone You Lovehow to let go of someone you love – to help people let go of the past and move on with their lives. Letting go is one of the most painful things you’ll ever do…but there are ways to make it easier.

How to Survive the Loss of Your Pet – for people who are struggling to cope with pet loss. I interviewed veterinarians, grief experts, and pet owners who loved and lost their animals. This ebook contains 75 tips for healing after pet loss.

75 Ways to Make (More) Money Blogging – to help writers and bloggers make money doing what they love! If you spend time and energy on your blog, you deserve to earn a few bucks for your efforts. This ebook isn’t just about making money blogging, it’s about building a better blog.

73 Ways to Fire Up (or Just Fire!) the Muse – to help writers and bloggers overcome fear, self-doubt, criticism, and uncertainty. After all, who wants to read age 95 and wish they had written that bestselling novel? Who wants to die with unfulfilled dreams and desires? Not me.

80 Ways to Say “I Love You” – was to help people like me, who struggle to find the right holiday, anniversary, and birthday gifts for their partners! This ebook is about more than gifts, though — it’s about saying “I love you” and building a more meaningful relationship in small, incredibly important ways every day.

That’s me, in a nutshell. What say you? Comments and questions welcome below. I can’t give advice, but I’d love to hear from you!

Questions for You:

  • Where do you live, and who do you live with?
  • What are you most grateful for in your life right now?
  • Where in the world do you wish you were?
  • Are you happy?

In peace and passion,

Laurie




xo

17 Responses

  1. Keith says:

    Thanks so much Laurie. I’m sure you’ve heard it a thousand times, but your gentle, positive words have brought me comfort and given me a sense of hope I did not have before. Please keep bringing your light to the world. It is truly a gift you have!

  2. Laurie says:

    Dear Gill,

    It’s great to hear from you… But I wish we were talking under better circumstances! Telling people that you have decided to rehome your dog is hard. There is no way to sugarcoat it. People don’t really understand how painful it is to give up a dog, and what leads people to make this difficult decision. Dog lovers don’t understand because they love dogs! People who don’t have pets don’t understand because… Well maybe they understand a bit better. But still, it’s not easy for people to accept.

    That said, however, everybody that I’ve told in person has been very understanding, probably because I lead with the problems I was having with my dog, Jazz. I said (and still say) that I felt horrible and heartsick about having to give her up, but I couldn’t handle her. I just could not take care of her the way she needed me to. So I had to let her go. It still stings after four years, to tell you the truth, but I had to do it.

    Gill, I think you’ll have to accept that people aren’t going to love the fact that you gave (or are giving) Alfie away. But this is a decision you made, and you need to find a way to be comfortable with it. If you are comfortable with this decision – even though it is incredibly painful, I know! – then people will receive the news comfortably. By “comfortable” I don’t mean light-hearted or joyful…I just mean that you are settled and peaceful with the decision.

    I hope this helps, and I wish I could support you better! But you’re making this decision for the right reasons, and it’s important that you don’t let other people’s opinions and feelings affect how you feel about yourself or your decisions in life.

    Easier said than done, I know. But you can’t live your life based on what other people think you should do, can you?

    Take good care of yourself, for you are worth taking good care of!

    Blessings,
    xo
    Laurie

  3. Gill says:

    Hi Laurie
    Read your post on giving up your dog . I too am in a position that I have decided to rehome my dog {a springer spaniel with boundless energy} I live on my own{UK] and have struggled this passed year. Alfie is adorable but my circumstances are complicated .. 2 elderly parents who need my assistance and are becoming more dependent , I work 1 afternoon a week and although I do have a good friend who tries to have him when she can but due to commitments at work often is unable to help out.
    Reading your post made me laugh and cry all at the same time. Even though I know in my head it would be the right thing to do , my heart tells another story. Pressure from others too play a part as I’m told ‘ but he’s lovely …such a clever dog… Isn’t he a handsome boy’. Yes he’s all these things but he is also very hard work and he needs at least 2 good walks a day . These comments make me feel really guilty resulting in putting the dreaded day off…. You see I love my dog and my reasons for giving him up are true and sincere.. I believe he would, with the right family ,have a much more fulfilled life and that is all I want for him.
    I know you don’t give advice. I just think I am reaching out for a hand to hold and for someone to say everything will be alright It’s the guilt I am having difficulty with and explaining to others the reasons behind my decision . Thank you for taking the time to read this .Sent with love x

  4. Laurie says:

    Hi Katie,

    I wrote that article on May 27, 2013. What’s your assignment about, and how did you refer to my blog post? I’m curious what you’re writing about!

    All good things,
    Laurie

  5. Katie Wells says:

    Hi Laurie,
    I’m an undergraduate using one of your blogs in my assignment and i have to use a Harvard referencing system, I’d like to know if you know when you wrote your blog on “how to cope when your ex finds a new girlfriend” – http://howloveblossoms.com/ex-has-new-girlfriend/ – just so you know which one I’m talking about. Many thanks, kind regards, Katie. York, England.

  6. Laurie says:

    Hi Syed,

    I don’t write for Reader’s Digest anymore, but this article may help you:

    How to Write Query Letters for Magazine Articles
    http://www.theadventurouswriter.com/blogwriting/how-to-write-query-letters-for-magazine-articles/

    Learn as much as you can about the business of writing for magazines, for that is more important than getting an editor’s email address or phone number.

    Good luck!
    – Laurie

  7. Laurie says:

    Hi Tish,

    A bracelet is a lovely gift for your niece; I hope you find the right one! I think it might be easier to have a custom silver bracelet made for her, with the engraving that you want.

    “You are braver than you believe and stronger than you feel” and an inspirational and encouraging message. Here’s a link to a page on Amazon that offers bracelets with custom messages:
    http://amzn.to/2gKFzUo

    I think most jewelers and online jewelry stores – even Etsy – would offer this service. This might be even more special for your niece, for you could include her name on the message!

    I hope this helps, and will keep your family in my prayers,
    Laurie

  8. Tish Sparr says:

    I recently read an article on 17 Gifts for a Women that has gone through a double mastectomy. One of the gifts was a beautiful silver bracelet with the quote: “you are braver than you believe and stronger than you feel”. I love that quote and want to get my niece that to help in her recovery, but all I can find are bracelets with this quote: “You are braver than you believe Stronger than you seem and Smarter than you think”.

    I am hoping you are one of your followers can help me find that bracelet.

  9. Syed says:

    Hi Laurie!
    I’ve been reading your musings for quite some time now and I love your angle on any topic that you touch 🙂
    I recently decided to get a guest post published at RD.com and I was wondering if you can help me get through to an editor.
    Thanks in advance!

    Best
    Syed

  10. Laurie says:

    Sure, Barb, you have permission to publish my article about office politics on your blog. Your website looks awesome, by the way! Well done. 🙂

  11. Barb Poole says:

    Hello Laurie! I write a career blog and have been in practice as a career coach and writer for 30 years. I love your 9 tips for office politics. May I have your permission to put on my blog with full attribution to you, of course! Thank you! Barb Poole, Hire Imaging LLC

  12. Laurie says:

    Dear Gulla,

    I don’t personally have a fund to help women, but I believe there is assistance available, depending on where you live! Here’s a starting point:

    What You Need to Know When You Call a Shelter or Safe House
    http://blossomtips.com/womens-shelter-safe-house-abusive-relationships/

    and

    How to Leave Your Husband When You Have No Money
    http://howloveblossoms.com/how-to-leave-your-husband-when-you-have-no-money/

    What options have you already explored, and what was the response when you asked about funding?

    – Laurie

  13. Gulla says:

    Is there any any fund and shelter for women with you, by which she can be able to live her life after devorce.

  14. The Mercantile One says:

    Hi Laurie, I really love your Quips and Tips blog and wonder if you still accept submissions. Perhaps financial tips from an accountant? Thank you

  15. Laurie says:

    Thanks for being here, Laura, it’s great to hear from you! It sounds like you have many passions, and a very interesting life 🙂

    May God bless your blog and writing career. It’s an exciting journey, and I hope you enjoy every step! It’ll be full of ups and downs, peaks and valleys….but if you enjoy the journey, you’ll find peace and joy in every step.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  16. Laura A says:

    Hi Laurie, My name is Laura and I am a fellow Christian and found your site a while back and was going through my favorites and wanted to comment. I am on my early roads into blogging and writing for my second career. I am an educator (elementary ed) by trade with 2 years left before retiring from my first profession. So I have spent several years, summers and nights, researching my this new world. I am also married, my DH and I have no children as we were almost 40 before marrying for the first time, but we have 28+ nieces and nephews, so family is scattered around America. We are in our mid-50s (celebrating 20 years of marriage next June) and have many animals, one dog and three cats inside, with 5 feral cats outside. My passions are God, health (a wannabe gardener that hates varmits that are ponies or sting), writing, travel, animals, friendships, and reading. And I always read bios of folks that I want to follow to see what their lives are like. Wow, you have had quite an interesting childhood and God has granted you much peace through all that you have gone through. I traveled until I was six, when my Dad retiring from the US Navy. My mom was sickly and sorta went to bed when I was 12 or so, so that the boys and I went to talk with her in bed for a lot of growing up years. She would make our meals, but mostly I remember her being in bed and dad working a lot. I went to church with friends and went on vacations with friends and that is how I came to know Jesus. Then God took me by the hand and i prayed for 30 years for my Dad’s salvation and He answered that prayer, when one day I got a call from my Mom that my Dad had something to tell me. He had accepted Christ as Lord and Savior. I apologize, I don’t normally write a book when commenting on a blog. I just liked your open-ness and wanted to share. I hope to learn much from you. Thank you.

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