You feel like God doesn’t care about you – or maybe even hates you – but deep down you hope you’re wrong. These signs God hasn’t stopped loving you will help you see Him more clearly. You’ll see the truth about about His feelings for you, and you might even find new ways to relate to Him.
“Nobody loves me, not even God,” says Petra on What to Remember When You Feel Like No One Cares. “I have been down and feeling like no one cares about me. All my life I felt like I am nothing and nobody wants me. Reading your stories helped me see we all have a story and we all sometimes feel like God doesn’t care. I just want someone to love me. I want to matter to someone. I want to be important to someone. Right now it seems that God doesn’t love me and doesn’t want anyone else to love me.”
Maybe you feel like God doesn’t care about you anymore – or that He never loved you. Maybe you’ve been sad, lonely or depressed for months. Maybe you’re tired of constantly dealing with loss, disappointment, and heartache. You think God doesn’t care about you anymore. You really think He stopped loving you…or that God never loved you at all.
I don’t know how you feel or what you’re going through, but I remember feeling like God didn’t care about me. I never thought He hated me or wanted to punish me. I just thought God didn’t care. I didn’t think I mattered to Him.
But then I learned more about God’s nature. I spent time getting to know who Jesus really was. That changed everything! I realized that even if God doesn’t show His love the way I expect, it doesn’t mean He doesn’t love me. It just means He shows His love in ways I don’t or can’t understand.
If we understood God, He wouldn’t be God. One thing we know for sure, though: He has not stopped loving us. No matter what we’re going through, we know He cares.
5 Signs God Still Loves You
It’s important to talk through your thoughts and feelings. If you can’t talk to God, feel free to share with me. Your thoughts – big and little – are welcome below! I’d love to hear why you think God doesn’t care. Writing about your feelings can help you figure out what you really feel and think. Writing slows your mind and helps you focus.
1. You’re dealing with problems other people have faced
If your problems are absolutely unique and never experienced by any other human on the face of the earth, then maybe God doesn’t love you anymore. Maybe He gave you this specific problem because He doesn’t care if you live or die, succeed or fail, flourish or falter. Maybe God stopped loving you and just wants you to disappear.
What are you dealing with? What problems, feelings, thoughts and memories are making you feel like God stopped loving you? Write about them in your private journal or the comments section below. Do an internet search for them. Look in the Bible for the problems you’re facing. I will guarantee that you are not the first person to experience this problem — and you won’t be the last. The fact that your problems are not unique mean that God hasn’t given up on you yet.
2. You’re still thinking about God
One of the biggest signs God stopped loving you is His total absence from your mind, thoughts, heart, spirit, and soul. If He truly didn’t care about you, He wouldn’t be tugging on your feelings. If God didn’t love you He would be completely absent from your life. You wouldn’t feel sad or lonely because He wouldn’t be on your mind.
But you are thinking about God. Jesus is calling you. You are yearning for signs of His work and presence in your life, for His voice in your ear, for His Holy Spirit to heal and guide you. You feel like your grief never ends and you can’t reach out to God — just like King David did in the Psalms. You haven’t stopped thinking about God and wishing you could feel His love for one very big and important reason: He loves you deeply and wants to have a better relationship with you. The fact that you are thinking about God means that He cares about you. If He didn’t care, He’d let you go.
3. God is still blessing you with every breath you take
The third sign God doesn’t love you anymore is that He’s never given you anything. Not life, not a body, not a brain, not feet or ears or eyes or a heart that is still beating. If you’re dead and rotting away in your grave, then maybe God really did stop caring about you.
But you aren’t dead. You are alive and you have strong feelings about God. You believe certain things about Jesus and the Holy Spirit. You have received gifts and blessings that I know naught of — but you know some of them. You don’t know all of them; you don’t know what God has saved you from. You don’t have a clue how many ways He has blessed you, and how many times He has shown His love for you. The fact that you are alive and reading these words is a sign God cares about you.
4. You yearn for the love of Jesus
You want God’s love. You wouldn’t be here on She Blossoms if you didn’t care about Him. You searched the internet for “God doesn’t love me” or even “God hates me.” Maybe you believe God stopped caring about you because you did something bad, hurt someone you love, or even stole a life, relationship, or possession. Maybe you were mean, hateful, or evil. Maybe you lied, cheated, and wrecked someone’s life. As a result you feel unworthy and unlovable…and you believe God could never forgive you.
The truth — which you desperately want to believe — is that God wants you back. The fact that you care about God enough to learn more about Him means that He does love you. You wouldn’t have found this article if God didn’t care about you! You’re reading these words for one reason: God loves you and wants you to come back to Him. You care that God doesn’t care…and this means that God really does care.
5. God won’t give you everything you want – He loves you too much
The fifth sign God doesn’t love you is that He gives you whatever you ask for. He answers every prayer with a “yes!” and smites every foe. He immediately grants the desires of your heart and the whims of your impulsive human nature — and this is a sign God doesn’t love you. He always says yes because He doesn’t care how you’re affected by getting everything you want. God indulges you like a spoiled little toddler who has never been taught, disciplined, or truly cared for.
God doesn’t give you everything you want, does He? Nope. He doesn’t give me everything I ask for, either. And this is a sign that He loves us more than we’ll ever know. The fact is that God knows things we don’t know about ourselves, others, and our lives.
When God says no to the desires of your heart it’s a sign He hasn’t stopped loving you. It proves He cares very much how your life is unfolding and what you need. God allows you to experience pain and grief and loss…but He hasn’t stopped loving you. Jesus knows exactly how you feel and what you’re thinking, and He died for you because He wants you to be free from these destructive thoughts. The Holy Spirit is here, waiting for you.
The truth is that God never stopped loving you. Jesus never moved away from you…you moved away from Him. And He wants you to move back, recommit your life, and rebuild your relationship with Him.
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