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  • When You’re Homesick for Your Old Life
    These four tips will help you cope when you’re feeling homesick for your old life after a divorce, death or diagnosis of a deadly disease. Maybe you miss your old home, pet, or someone you love. You keep thinking, “I want my old life back” or even “I feel homesick, but I don’t know what for.”
  • 10 Gift Ideas for New Mothers After a Cesarean Birth
    These gifts and ideas for new mothers after a cesarean birth will lift her spirits and help her heal. The road to recovery after a c-section can be long and tiring; these gift ideas are inspired by advice from ob-gyns, family doctors and mothers who know about cesarean surgery and recovery.
  • Best Jobs for Introverts and People Who Like to Be Alone
    Introverts have unique strengths and abilities, as you’ll see in this list of the best jobs for introverts and people who like solitude. I also included a quick “introversion personality test” to help you see how introverted you are and make your job search easier. “I’m glad you researched these career possibilities and job types,” said […]
  • How to Know If You’re an Introvert or an Extrovert
    Learning whether you have mostly introverted or extroverted personality traits will increase your self-understanding and improve your relationships. Here’s one thorough “introvert-extrovert test” and two shorter personality tests to help you see where you stand on the introverted-extroverted scale.
  • 4 Ways to Cope When You Miss Your Mom
    “I miss my mom,” was all I could think on the plane from Montreal to Vancouver. It’s not Mother’s Day and I’ve never been sentimental, but watching a French mom soothe her toddler to sleep made me miss my own mother.
  • 17 Creative Ways to Celebrate Your 40th Birthday – Updated!
    Your forties is when you REALLY start to Blossom! These unforgettable 40th birthday ideas are about more than celebrating one night. They’re about honoring and respecting who you are in your fortieth decade of life.
  • How to Stop Thinking About Someone After a Breakup
    No matter how clear it was that you don’t have a future with someone, it’s still not easy to just stop thinking about him after a breakup. These ideas will help you let go of those harmful thought patterns and start changing how you think, feel, and live each moment of your life.
  • What to Remember When You Feel Like No One Cares
    Feeling lost and unwanted – like no one cares about you – is surprisingly normal! Every human being, no matter how loved or happy they seem, feels like nobody cares at some point in their lives. It’s just that most of us hide and bury our feelings because we’re embarrassed or even ashamed. Read through […]
  • How to Deal With Guilt After Your Mom Dies
    When you’re learning how to deal with guilt after your mom dies, remember that she couldn’t love you any more than she did when she died. You weren’t a perfect daughter, she wasn’t a perfect mother, and you didn’t have a perfect mother-daughter relationship. But you had each other…and that has to be good enough. […]
  • Are You Grieving Through the Holidays?
    The holidays will never be the same. After you lose someone you love, you’re not the same, either. These five ways to get through the holidays when you’re grieving won’t erase your pain or bring anyone back from the dead, but they may help you find a little hope, peace, and acceptance. It sucks, I’m […]
  • 5 Simple Ways to Cope With Scary, Overwhelming Grief
    The grieving process is scary! Grief can feel overwhelming – a mixture of fear, confusion and pain that makes you feel like you’re losing your mind or going crazy. But the craziness of grief is essential to healing. You’re normal if you feel scared of the overpowering, overwhelming rush of emotions that grief brings. Fear […]
  • When the Grief Never Ends and You Can’t Reach Out to God
    Many widows never get over the loss of their husbands. Sometimes even the healthiest woman can’t seem to shake the grief and pain of loss. These ideas for coping with grief that never never ends are inspired by a She Blossoms reader.
  • Here You Are…and There You Go
    “What do you want to have spent your life doing?” I wrestled with that question all day Saturday. Sunday came, and so did Pastor Craig’s sermon about where we go (the bad place? the good place?) after we breathe our last.
  • 10 Ways to Know What to Do With Your Life
    These tips will help if you’re wondering “what should I do with my life?” I come back to this question every couple of years; these ideas always help me get back on the right path.
  • 3 Things to Remember When You Want to Go Home
    “I want to go home” was all I could think for three years — the whole time I lived in Africa! “If I was at home right now, all my problems would be gone. I’d be safe and happy with my friends and family.”
  • When You’re Feeling Homesick on the Mission Field
    When I lived in Africa — I taught missionaries’ kids at an American Christian school in Nairobi, Kenya — I was the loneliest, most homesick “missionary” I knew! I didn’t consider myself a missionary at the time, but I was definitely struggling with a bad case of homesickness.
  • An Easy Way to Stop Overthinking God’s Will
    Are you searching for God’s will for your life? You want to follow Jesus but you’re worried you’ll miss the mark. You’re starting to overthink every decision, step, future plan…and you feel paralyzed by indecision and anxiety.
  • Is God Punishing You for Something You Did?
    Feeling like you’re being punished by God is normal for two reasons: 1) life is filled with difficult losses, terrible tragedies, and dry stretches of boredom and loneliness; and 2) you are human, which means you screw up. You make mistakes, hurt others, fail to live up to your own standards, and let people down.
  • A Surprisingly Easy Way to Pray Without Ceasing
    “How can I pray without ceasing, like Paul says?” asked a She Blossoms reader on 5 Ways to Talk to God When You Can’t Pray. “I’m a single mom and I have to go to work, walk the dog, feed my kids and do the housework. How is it possible to keep praying constantly when you have real responsibilities?”
  • Finding Strength to Break a Toxic Relationship Pattern
    Finding facts about how to break toxic relationship patterns is easy; dozens of books and articles teach couples and families how to change bad relationship habits. Much harder is finding the energy and strength you need to put knowledge into practice!
  • How to Love God Even Though He Let You Down
    You had faith in Jesus, but how do you love God when He lets you down? Maybe you hoped a relationship wouldn’t lead to divorce, a loved one wouldn’t die, a home wouldn’t be lost, or a dream wouldn’t be shattered forever. But you lost something you love, and you’re disappointed in God.
  • How I Wasted a Day With the Devil
    I couldn’t decide if I should call this Blossom Tip “How to Stop Wasting Your Life Doing Meaningless Things” or “How I Wasted a Day With the Devil.” As you can see, “meaningless things” won! Which title would you have chosen? I’d love to know what you think in the comments below. Do you prefer 1 (How to Stop Wasting Your Life Doing Meaningless Things) or 2 (How I Wasted a Day With the Devil)?
  • How to Cope When the Past Keeps Returning to Haunt You
    Perfect timing: today I hoped to write about sending past regrets, mistakes and failures off into the wilderness to be forgotten forever, but I couldn’t find the right hook. Then a She Blossoms reader asked what to do when the past keeps returning to haunt you — and bingo! The path became clear.
  • Coming Clean About Your Past
    Maybe you want to be honest and “fess up” (confess) something you did yesterday or years ago. Maybe you want to come clean about your past because you didn’t just tell a lie, you’re actually living a lie.
  • When “I Don’t Want to Be a Burden” Backfires
    You don’t want to burden others with your problems, but you’re struggling to cope. When does “I don’t want to be a burden” become unhealthy? At some point, your desire to protect your family and friends doesn’t just backfire, it creates serious problems in your relationships.
  • Are You Pretending to Be Happy in Your Relationship?
    No relationship is perfect, and brutal honesty isn’t always the best policy. Neither is pretending to be happy in a relationship that needs pruning, weeding, or a fresh new field! To grow and flourish, healthy relationships need to be tended with love and care.
  • How to Move On When You Want to Go Back
    Moving on after you lose someone you love isn’t about “getting over it.” You’ll don’t just get over it and you’ll never be the same. But, you will get through it. And you might even learn how to move on in ways that weave your loved one into your day.
  • What to Do When You Feel Rejected by Everyone
    How do you cope when you feel like everyone is rejecting you? Abandoned by your best friend, betrayed by your husband or boyfriend, rejected by your family members — what to do when you feel like you’re all alone in the world?
  • A Simple Way to Return to God
    Backsliding, wandering, sinning — whatever you call it, you haven’t been walking with God. After falling away from God, how do you return? How do you face your Heavenly Father after being away so long? What can you say to make Him love you again?
  • How Do You Trust God After Losing Someone You Love?
    Trusting God is easy when life is good and your loved ones are within reach! But how do you trust God when you lose someone you love? How do you have faith in a God who lets your daughter die, your husband leave, your sister suffer, your friend abused?
  • 7 Ways to Stop Being Such a Critical Christian
    These tips on how top stop being a critical, judgmental Christian are creative because they don’t revolve around your attitude. Your judgments won’t stop if you focus on “how to be a better Christian” — in fact, the more you focus on you, the more judgmental you’ll be.
  • How to Know You’re Going to Heaven
    Maybe you don’t believe in the “heaven” of childhood fairy tales — but isn’t there a wee part of you that hopes such a place exists? A new creation, perhaps even a new earth, where you meet the people and pets you loved and lost. A place of comfort, peace, joy, rest, play, and even meaningful work.
  • What to Remember When You Don’t Feel God’s Love
    How do you cope with feeling unloved by God? “I believe in Jesus Christ but I can’t feel God’s love for me,” says a She Blossoms reader. “I tell myself God loves me but I don’t feel loved. I can’t believe Jesus loves me the way He loves other people.”
  • How to Stop Doing What You Don’t Want to Do
    It’s a struggle for both Christians and unbelievers: How do you stop doing what you don’t want to do? Maybe you’re like me, and you want to learn how to stop worrying about what people think. Maybe you’re like my friend Sam, and you want to learn how to stop believing lies about yourself.
  • 10 Ways to Strengthen Your Relationship With the Holy Spirit
    As a Christian, you believe a Holy Spirit-filled life gives you strength, power, joy, peace and freedom. But how do you strengthen your relationship with the Holy Spirit? After all, it’s not like you can invite Him out for coffee, over for dinner, or out for a walk.
  • Are You Tired of Feeling Constantly Guilty?
    How do you deal with feeling constantly guilty? Maybe you committed a sin long ago, such as cheating or stealing. Maybe you didn’t do anything wrong and yet you feel constant guilt for some unknown reason.
  • What Difference Does a (Talking) Donkey Make?
    It sounds like a joke or a riddle — “What difference does an Easter donkey make?” — but it’s actually a serious question! Before I tell you about the donkey I met last night, here’s my question: What difference does Easter make to you? How does Jesus’ life, death, and resurrection affect your daily life?
  • How to Say No Without Feeling Bad or Guilty
    Saying no without feeling guilty is hard for many people. For Christians like me, learning how to say no without guilt or self-condemnation is practically impossible! Especially when I could say yes if I really wanted to, because I have resources to accommodate the request.
  • What If It Really Is “All About You”?
    Maybe somebody said, “It’s not you, it’s me” while breaking up with you or ending a friendship. Maybe you yourself have even said it! “I’m sorry, but our relationship isn’t working out. You didn’t do anything wrong. It’s not you, it’s me.”
  • An Easy Way to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Christians
    You’re a believer, a woman of faith, a Christian woman who is growing spiritually…why, then, do you keep comparing yourself to other Christians? How do you stop measuring your spiritual growth against theirs?
  • What Does God Want You to Do Today?
    Figuring out God’s call on your life can be confusing as a corn maze — especially when we don’t have all the rules and instructions set before us. Not like back in the day, in the Old Testament times. I bet Moses and the Israelites never asked, “what does God want from me today?”
  • 3 Simple Ways to Follow Jesus Christ
    What happens when you follow Jesus? How do you hear God’s voice, and will He really grant the desires of your heart? These practical tips and examples of how I follow Jesus Christ will shine a little light on your own path. This article is especially helpful for Christian women who want to follow Jesus but aren’t sure if they’re doing it “right.”
  • Does It Matter What Your Wear to Church on Sunday?
    Of course you should wear “priestly garments” to church on Sunday! After all, you’re coming into God’s presence, connecting with Jesus Christ, and listening for the voice of the Holy Spirit. But what exactly are priestly garments, and how do you wear them to church on Sunday without looking weird?
  • 3 Things to Hold On to When You Feel Ugly and Unloved
    How do you cope when you’re depressed and sad because you feel ugly and unloved? Maybe you feel ugly because someone called you a bad name. Maybe you feel unlovable because of a breakup or divorce. Maybe you feel worthless because you aren’t as pretty or skinny as your sister, best friend, or neighbor.
  • You Can Have a Much More Meaningful Relationship With God
    Having a more meaningful relationship with God won’t guarantee good times, health or wealth. Just the opposite, in fact! The closer you are to Jesus, the deeper your compassion, love and sensitivity to others’ pain and suffering in the world.
  • 3 Things to Remember When Your Family Discourages You
    You finally figured out what you’re meant to do in life (or who you’re meant to marry, or what job you’re meant to have). Maybe you’ve even finally found God’s call on your life! How, then, do you deal with discouraging family members or friends?
  • Are You Scared to Follow the Desires of Your Heart?
    How do you cope with fear of following your heart’s desires? When I wrote When God Says No to the Desires of Your Heart, I focused on the idea that God said “no” to your heart’s desires. Since then, I realized that we put more barriers to our own hopes, dreams and goals than God does! Even Christians who follow, trust and love Jesus tend to love more out of fear than faith.
  • Letting Your Light Shine When People Blow It Out
    The best and easiest way to let your light shine is to be who God created you to be. But this is easier said than done, isn’t it? It’s hard to be your true, natural self and let your light shine when you’re surrounded by people who think you should be who they want you to be.
  • Changing How You See God When You’re Unhappy
    Changing the way you see God will change your life, your relationships, and every experience you have. Yes, you will find happiness and even joy when you change the way you see God! But how do you experience God in a different way? How do you revive a stale relationship with Jesus Christ and renew your connection with the Holy Spirit?
  • If You’re a Christian, Why Aren’t You Happy?
    Unhappy, even depressed Christians are surprisingly common. Believing in God, praying and walking with Jesus doesn’t guarantee happiness. In fact, Christians who believe God will answer their prayers the way they want are even unhappier than unbelievers! Why? Because they’re disappointed when God doesn’t give them what they want.
  • How to Wait on God Without Losing Hope or Faith
    What do you do when you’re waiting for God to move in your life? Maybe you’re waiting to hear about a test result (pregnancy, urine, stool or school), a job interview, a judgement in a court case, or even an acceptance to college or university.
  • What You Need to Know About God’s Will for Your Life
    While deciding if I should be a preacher or a teacher I kept asking “What is God’s will for my life?” If you’re wondering the same thing (not if you should be a preacher or a teacher, but rather “what is the will of God is in my life today?”), then you’ve come to the right place.
  • 3 Ways to See God in Dark Times
    How do you see God in the darkest times of your life? Maybe you’re coping with cancer, chemotherapy, chronic pain, constant suffering. Maybe your child is ill or lost, your husband gone, your hopes and dreams destroyed. Maybe you’ve been left at the alter, or maybe you walked away from a marriage or relationship and now you regret it.
  • How to Surrender Your Worries to God Today
    Surrendering your worries and cares to God seems like it should be easy, but it’s actually quite hard. It’s like learning how to stop worrying what people think – much easier said than done!
  • 3 Ways to Improve Your Relationship With Jesus
    As a child of God, you are saved and set free to live fully, deeply, madly! But how do you grow a healthy relationship with Jesus when you’re distracted by life, work, relationships, family, health issues, money problems, traffic jams, spilled milk?
  • How to Survive Spiritually Dark Times
    Sometimes you can’t fight or overcome spiritual darkness. You don’t have the energy to put on your armor, much less battle the enemy. All you can do is learn how to endure spiritually dark times without losing heart, soul, or faith. And that’s enough.
  • 3 Ways to Focus on What God Wants You to Do
    Accomplishing God’s will for your life is easier – and more enjoyable! – when you know how to stay focused on what God wants you to do. It’s so tempting to be distracted by all the bells, whistles and squirrels in daily life…but those bells, whistles and squirrels are shallow and empty.
  • How to Create Something New in Your Life
    You want to make or do something new in your life – but you don’t want it to be “all about you.” How do you listen to God’s voice and create something new for His glory? These tips are inspired by God’s gorgeous tabernacle in Exodus 25 and my daily struggle to write “She Blossoms Through the Bible.”
  • 3 Ways to Stop Feeling Guilty for No Reason
    You have no reason to feel guilty; you didn’t do anything wrong or bad (at least not lately!). And yet you feel a strong sense of guilt. Nobody is accusing you or trying to make you feel guilty but you just can’t shake your feelings of unworthiness and shame.
  • The Proof You Need That God Cares About You
    How do you know God cares for you? What are the signs of God’s love and protection? Finding proof that God cares about you can be as simple as looking up at the starry night sky, or as complicated as studying the book of Revelation for signs of Jesus Christ.
  • The Best Advice I Ever Got: Start As You Mean to Go
    “Start as you mean to go,” was the first thing that popped into my head when one of my She Blossoms Facebook group members asked, “What was the best advice you’ve ever been given?”
  • Finding the “You” God Wants You to Be
    How do you blossom into who God created you to be if you don’t know why you’re here or what He created you to do? You want to follow Jesus and listen for the Holy Spirit’s still small voice — and you definitely don’t want to fall asleep like the disciples did in Mark 14! — but you’re struggling.
  • What Does God Want You to Do?
    Asking “What does God want me to do?” is normal — especially if you’re trying to decide what to do about a troubled relationship, job, family situation, health challenge or other major life issue. Here’s the good news: figuring what God wants you to do may be easier than you think.
  • How to Be Joyful
    You may have heard the Bible verse, “The joy of the Lord is my strength” (Nehemiah 8:10) – but what is the “joy of the Lord”? And how can you be more joyful when you feel discouraged, confused, tired, doubtful, or angry?
  • 3 Signs of Godly Relationship Advice
    Wouldn’t it be awesome to get relationship advice from God? Good news: it’s not as hard or unbelievable as you might think. These signs of Godly relationship advice will help you see your life and decisions more clearly.
  • Finding Your Lost Life Purpose
    Maybe you once knew the purpose of your life but you lost it. Or perhaps you never figured out why God created you or what you should do in this world. You want to find your life purpose, but you don’t know how.
  • 3 Ways to Cope With Fear of Running Out of Money
    If you’re a single, divorced, or widowed woman, you may often find yourself worrying about running out of money. It’s even scarier if you have dependent children, aging parents, health problems, a low income job, or small retirement income.
  • Prayers for Healing and Recovery for Patients After Surgery
    The book of Psalms is the most popular place to find prayers for healing and recovery, but these healing prayers are from a different book of the Bible. In Why You’re Safe Everywhere – Blossom Tip 56 I described how I fell while running, broke my shoulder, and was in the operating room the next […]
  • How to Blossom Into Who God Created You to Be
    You’re a new creation in Jesus Christ – but how do you actually become a different person and live in inspiration, joy, love and faith? These three tips for blossoming into who God created you to be are inspired by my own recent experience.
  • The Strength You Need When You Feel Weak
    When you feel like giving up because you’re tired, disappointed or heartbroken, the last thing you need is more stuff to do. Instead, here are three things to remember when you feel weak. Reflecting, meditating, and contemplating requires less energy than doing — and remembering can be surprisingly powerful!
  • 3 Ways to Find to Emotional Freedom in Jesus Christ
    What is the true meaning of freedom in Jesus Christ? These three steps to living an emotionally free, healthy, joyful life in Jesus will help you see—and feel, and know, and experience, and live—in true emotional and spiritual freedom. “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free,” says Paul in Galatians 5:1 (NIV). […]
  • How to Deal With Your Anger at God
    Of course you feel angry at God for not answering prayer! He lets bad things happen every day: death, infertility, earthquakes, fires, floods, and even “little” things like depression, divorce, drama at home, work and school.
  • How to See Jesus in Your Relationships
    You believe in God. Maybe you even follow Jesus and pray through the Holy Spirit. But how do you see Jesus in your relationships—especially if they’re difficult, unhealthy, or even abusive? How do you see God at work in your life when you don’t feel His love, presence, or power?
  • 3 Simple Ways to Stop Controlling People
    How do you stop being a “control freak” who wants everything to be perfect? First, be kind to yourself. You’re trying to control people because you love them and want the best for them—and that’s good! There’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for your partner, family, friends and coworkers.
  • Loving God Even When You Don’t Feel His Presence
    It’s easy to praise Jesus when life is good. But how do you love God when you’re coping with cancer, grieving a death, or just not feeling His presence? And how important is it, anyway? After all, it’s not like loving God is a commandment or anything.
  • Are You Tired of Fighting God’s Will for Your Life?
    What if you stopped trying to find God’s will for your life? Imagine the peace of simply entering into what already is. Acceptance brings joy and freedom — and it’s as simple as learning how to stop resisting God’s will for your life.
  • Why You Don’t Trust God – and How to Start
    “Why can’t I trust God?” asked a She Blossoms reader on 3 Practical Tips for Trusting God With Your Future. “I believe in Jesus, I wish my faith was as strong as my family’s but that whole ‘let go and let God’ doesn’t make sense to me.”
  • Is God Putting You Through Hard Times?
    My last article about trusting Jesus didn’t answer the “Why is God making life hard for me?” question. When God puts you through hard times, you aren’t just struggling to trust God with your future. You wonder why He is causing those hard times to begin with.
  • 3 Ways to Stop Struggling and Start Trusting God
    Maybe you’re struggling to trust God because you’ve been hurt by someone you love. You might be dealing with a difficult relationship or coping with a chronic or life-threatening health issue. Or maybe you’re just tired of the daily grind, of dealing with petty problems at work or home, of not knowing what the purpose of your life is.
  • How to Deepen Your Relationship With God
    Whether you’re a new follower of Jesus or an “old-timer” who met the Lord long ago, you want to deepen your relationship with God. You want to feel Jesus’ presence, know God’s heart, and sense the Holy Spirit moving in your heart and soul. But how?
  • Trusting God’s Timing When You Feel Confused and Scared
    You know you should trust God’s timing with all your heart, mind, soul and strength…but you’re confused. Why is life so hard, relationships painful, work difficult, and the daily routine so boring?
  • 3 Smart Ways to Trust God With Your Future
    Whether you’re a brokenhearted believer or a faithful follower of Jesus, you’ll love these three tips on how to trust God with your future. This includes trusting the Holy Spirit to guide and protect your heart, mind, soul and life.
  • How to Live Like You’re Forgiven and Free in Christ
    Believing something is true — such as the fact that you are forgiven if you follow Jesus — is different than living like you really are free. You can believe in God and still live in bondage. Brokenhearted Christians do this all the time.
  • How to Stop Trying to Be Someone You’re Not
    “I’m trying so hard to blossom into who God created me to be,” said one of my She Blossoms readers. “But I don’t even know what that means anymore…and now becoming who God created me to be is harder than ever. It feels impossible. I want to stop trying.”
  • 3 Reasons You Can’t Give Up on God
    Are you ready to give up on God? Maybe you feel like He has already given up on you. Maybe you don’t believe God cares about what you’re going through. Perhaps you want to give up because you don’t feel Jesus’ love, comfort, or presence.
  • Getting Through Hard Times With Your Family
    You’re in “survival mode” when your family is dealing with a health, financial or relationship crisis. These easy ways to get through hard times will help you and your family cope with the most painful, difficult seasons in life.
  • Going Back to School for Women Over 50
    Starting college, getting a university degree, or even going back to school part-time to audit a class can be intimidating and even scary for women over fifty. I’m speaking from experience; I went back to school last week and am surrounded by students half my age.
  • 3 Steps to Forgiving Your Sister for Hurting You
    Your sister hurt you. It won’t be easy to forgive her, but forgiveness is the healthiest choice you could ever make. Forgiving a toxic, unhealthy, or even abusive sister isn’t about becoming a better person or even restoring broken family relationships. It’s about healing your heart, spirit and soul so you can move forward with freedom, peace, and joy.
  • Where to Go When You Can’t Go Home
    No matter how unhealthy or even abusive your family is, your heart sinks when you realize you can’t go home. Your family is part of who you are. Nothing will ever change the impact that your home, home, and childhood had on your life.
  • Increasing Your Faith When Your Heart is Broken
    Your heart is broken, and you’ll never be the same. You won’t get over your loss – but you can get through it more quickly and easily. If you learn how to increase your faith when you’re brokenhearted, you’ll find yourself filled with more joy, peace, and freedom than you thought possible.
  • 3 Tips for Being Happy When Your Dreams Come True
    What do you do when your lifelong dreams become reality, yet you feel unhappy or even empty inside? Maybe you’re disappointed, deflated, or even depressed after the biggest moments of your life or career.
  • 3 Practical Ways to Deal With Terrible News at Work
    You hoped for good news: a job promotion, high sales figures, a business investment…and you were let down. My tips on how to deal with a disappointment in your life (more specifically, disappointing news at work) are inspired by a problem I’m experiencing in my writing career right now.
  • 3 Ways to Get Through the Darkest Season of Your Life
    “The best way out is through,” said Robert Frost. These three tips for getting through the darkest season of your life will show you what this quote means and how to actually apply it. This quote has also been expressed as “the only way out is through.”
  • What to Do When You’re Stuck in an Unhappy Marriage
    If you don’t deal with your unhappy marriage now, you’ll get unhappier and unhealthier as time goes by. Soon, instead of searching for what to do when you’re unhappily married, you’ll be looking for marriage counselors or – even worse – divorce lawyers.
  • 3 Ways to Deal With Family Problems After Your Husband’s Funeral
    A piece of your heart died with your husband, but you’re struggling to grieve his death. You’re upset and distracted because you’re dealing with family problems after your husband’s funeral. You love your family and know they’re grieving, too…but the problems seem overwhelming and insurmountable.
  • How to Respond When Someone Says “I Hate You”
    It hurts to be rejected by a friend or coworker; it’s devastating when someone you love says they hate you! Here’s what to remember when someone you love stops loving you or even starts hating you.
  • Accepting and Loving Your Family for Who They Are
    You love your family, but they drive you nuts! Learning how to accept your family for who they are will help you live in peace with both them and yourself.
  • 3 Signs God Hasn’t Forgotten About You
    When you feel lonely, sad, or anxious you may ask “Did God forget about me?” Maybe you’ve been looking for signs God still loves you, but all you see is proof you’re alone. I’ve been there, believe me. Many times I’ve fallen into the trap of believing God forgot me.
  • 3 Ways to Respond When Your Family Doesn’t Listen to You
    You’d be shocked at how many families don’t listen to each other! Here, you’ll find comfort and support while learning what to do when your family won’t listen to you.
  • How to Start Healing Broken Family Relationships
    In Preparing to Meet an Estranged Family Member we learned how to approach a disowned or divorced relative. But how do you heal a broken family relationship when you’re caught off guard? Many of life’s biggest events — especially pivotal moments that can change everything — aren’t things we’re prepared for.
  • How to Prepare to Meet an Estranged Family Member
    Meeting estranged family members – whether it’s a biological mother, long-lost father, unknown sister or argumentative brother – requires preparation. It also requires a healthy dose of “what will be, will be.”
  • What to Do When You Get Caught Lying
    Getting caught in a “little white lie” is embarrassing. Far worse is when you’re caught lying about something big and bad, such as stealing from your employer, deceiving your parents or cheating in your relationship.
  • How to Cope When You Feel Forced to Stay in a Relationship
    Maybe you feel forced to stay in an unhealthy relationship, unhappy marriage, boring job or broken home. Maybe you can’t leave because you don’t have money, support, strength or willpower. Maybe you feel too guilty to leave, or you’re responsible to take care of your family.
  • 3 Signs You’re Trying Too Hard to Be Loved
    It’s often worthwhile to try to make a relationship work or save a failing marriage. But sometimes we’re trying so hard to be loved, we lose sight of our true identity and self. We put our relationship, husband or marriage above all else…and we forget who we were created to be.
  • 3 Prayers to Soften and Heal Hard Hearts
    These prayers for softened hearts are inspired by the story of Jacob’s ladder or stairway to Heaven in Genesis 28. Jacob’s dream didn’t soften or heal his hard heart, but it did inspire him to make a vow to the Lord. God spoke to Jacob, blessed him, and promised not to leave him.
  • 3 Tips for Getting the Love You Want
    You want a deep, lasting love that doesn’t just make you happy. You want love that fills you with joy, peace, and security. You want love that lasts, that never dies. This isn’t just the love you want…it’s the love you need to be happy and healthy.
  • How to Stop Fear From Controlling You
    Let’s be honest: there are lots of things to fear. The future, family fights, failure, financial ruin, work problems, unemployment, bullies at school and in church…with all the possible problems, how do you stop fear from controlling you?
  • When Life Isn’t Fair and You Can’t Do Anything About It
    You start to think an unfair life proves you don’t matter to God. When life isn’t fair, you question everything: your family, friends, faith, and future. I don’t know exactly how you feel or why your life isn’t fair, but I do know how I feel. I also know what helps. I know what I need to remember when my life feels unfair and unjust. I think my tips — my three things to remember when life isn’t fair — will help you find the hope and comfort you need.
  • 3 Signs You Can Trust God Not to Break Your Heart
    The hardest thing about starting a new relationship – or rebuilding trust in a damaged relationship – is the risk of heartbreak. How do you know if you can trust a man with your heart? What if he leaves or betrays you, stops loving you, or destroys your trust in him?
  • 3 Ideas for Coping With Loneliness After Losing Your Husband
    The days are long and lonely after you lose your husband – and the weekends and nights are longer and lonelier. These three ways to cope with loneliness after the loss of your husband won’t erase your grief, but they may ease the pain. I’m writing this article for women who lost their husbands, but […]
  • How to Trust God When You Feel Scared and Alone
    Maybe you’re worried about your relationship, or you’re trying to trust God though a difficult breakup or divorce. Maybe you’re scared of losing your job, home, family member or even your own child. How do you trust God when you feel scared and alone, lost and confused?
  • Finding the Strength You Need to Continue
    You’re in the right place if you feel like giving up because everything is going wrong! Here, you’ll learn how to find the strength you need to continue, to keep moving forward, to live with hope and faith. You might even find peace and joy, a refreshed and renewed perspective for this season of your […]
  • Are You Tired of Making the Same Relationship Mistakes?
    Learning the reason you keep making the same mistakes in your relationship is the first – and easiest – step. Once you know why you repeatedly cause the same problems, you’ll find it easier to stop making relationship mistakes.
  • 3 Ways to Stop Looking Back and Start Moving Forward
    When you look back at your past regrets, mistakes and failures, you rob yourself of joy, peace, and fully living today. These tips on how to stop looking back so you keep moving forward will help you stay mindful and present.
  • 5 Ways to Talk to God When You Can’t Pray
    How do you talk to God when you can’t or don’t know how to pray? There are no rules for talking to Jesus, and you won’t find rote prayers here on She Blossoms. Instead, here are five tips for talking to God when you’re not sure about praying.
  • Changing the Way You See and Feel About Yourself
    Changing the way you see yourself changes everything: your life, relationships, heart, mind, and future. Learning how to change your self-image also changes the “little” things: your daily interactions with others, mood, attitude, and energy level.
  • How to Stop Regretting a Past Bad Decision
    You did something you regret – maybe you made a bad decision, unhealthy choice, or even a disastrous mistake. How do you stop regretting what you did? How do you let go of the past, forgive yourself, and move forward with your life?
  • 15 Thoughtful Gift Ideas for Missionaries Traveling Overseas
    Practical, thoughtful, creative – these travel gifts and ideas are perfect for Christian missionaries, tourists, and overseas ministry workers. You’ll find the perfect gift in this list, whether this is your traveler’s first or final missionary trip.
  • 3 Simple Ways to Increase Your Faith in God
    You believe God exists, but your faith is weak or even dead. Where’s the joy, life, spirit?! These tips for increasing your faith in God will help you grow stronger, healthier, and more joyful than you’ve ever been.
  • How to Succeed When You Have Nobody to Help You
    “I have nobody to help me,” readers often say on my She Blossoms blogs. “How do I succeed without money, family, friends?” When you have nobody to help you, succeeding feels impossible.
  • Trusting God With Your Future is Easier Than You Think
    Here’s how to trust God with your future plans and take practical steps forward in your life. Trusting God always involves small steps of faith, action, and contemplation.
  • What to Do When You’re Scared to Follow God’s Voice
    You want to start something new — a relationship, career, project, life — but you feel stuck and scared. How do you overcome your fears and doubts? Whether you think you hear God’s voice or you’re “just” following your own desires (which God planted in you from the beginning!), my tips will help you move forward.
  • 20 Sympathy Gift Ideas for Someone Who Lost a Mom
    These sympathy gifts and ideas will comfort and support someone after the loss of a mother. I also included sympathy messages and ideas for condolence cards and funeral or “celebration of life” books.
  • 3 Easy Ways to Start Rebuilding Your Life
    Restarting your life – or starting over after a major loss – involves picking yourself up, learning from the past, and rebuilding from scratch. Unfortunately, restarting your life over also requires strength and power…and those are the last things you have.
  • What to Do When You Feel Confused and Scared
    If you let confusion stop you from growing forward, you’re destined to fail! Here’s how to cope when you feel confused about life – whether you’re confused because of rejection, death, disappointment or heartbreak.
  • Help Figuring Out What God Wants for You
    Asking “What do you want from me, God?” is normal — especially for believers who love God yet feel overwhelmed with pain, grief, abuse and suffering. There aren’t any easy answers, but God make does promises (covenants) that reveal what He wants for us.
  • How Do You Wait on God Without Losing Faith?
    “I’m waiting on God’s timing but I feel discouraged and depressed,” said one of my She Blossoms readers. “How do I wait for God without losing faith that He will provide?”
  • What to Say to God When You Hear Him Calling
    Maybe God is calling you to go back to school, drop out of college, start a business, or end a relationship. What do you do when you hear God’s call and it involves disrupting your life, family, relationships, financial security?
  • How to Know for Sure That God Cares About You
    How do you know you matter in this world? What difference do you make to God and others, why are you here, and what is the meaning of your life?
  • Are You Really Walking in Faith With God?
    You believe in God, but are you actually walking in faith? If your walk with Jesus is consistent and sincere, you’ll experience the joy, peace, freedom, hope and love that surpasses all understanding. Learning how to walk in faith is a lifetime process, and God will never let you down.
  • 17 Awesome, Affordable Gifts for Your Girlfriend’s Parents
    You’ll quickly find a perfect and affordable gift for your girlfriend’s parents here. Whether it’s her mom’s birthday or her dad’s retirement party, this list will make your online shopping excursion easy and painless. Bonus: you’ll find a gift that will make your girlfriend and her parents love you even more than they already do! The Moments of […]
  • 20 Gift Ideas for Your Boyfriend’s Mom and Dad
    Finding the perfect gift for your boyfriend’s parents can be stressful – unless you shop with a light-hearted, joyful attitude. This list of gifts to buy his mom and dad will give you lots of ideas and options.
  • It’s Time to Heal Your Heart and Be Happy Again
    You’d be surprised how many people feel heavy-hearted, yet hide their sadness and despondence. My ideas for healing your heart will show you that you’re not alone. Heavy-heartedness isn’t fun — but the good news is you will find a light, joyful heart if you look in the right place.
  • Who Did God Create You to Be?
    You were created for more, but what? When, how? Figuring out who you were created to be is easy for some people, difficult for others. Some of us seem to know intuitively what we were created to do, why, how, and when. Others struggle to find their purpose or calling in life.
  • What Did God Create You to Do?
    What does it feel like to do what you were created to do? Maybe it’s the blissful, easy, lose-track-of-time feeling of finding your flow while working alone. Maybe it’s the secure, familiar feeling of fitting in with a group, such as with a team of teachers or soccer players.
  • Have You Discovered the Reason God Put You Here?
    What were you created to be and do? If you can’t figure out your purpose on earth, you’re in the right place. Here, you’ll find the reason you were created. We’ll start in the beginning and walk — one step at a time — into our purpose.
  • 6 Signs You Should Give Up on a Relationship
    When you’re getting mixed signals in a relationship, it’s hard to know if you should give up on your boyfriend or keep going. Sometimes giving up on a relationship is a mistake – and you don’t want to call it quits too soon! These tips will help you decide if you should move forward or […]
  • 5 Signs God Hasn’t Stopped Loving You
    You feel like God doesn’t care about you – or maybe even hates you – but deep down you hope you’re wrong. These signs God hasn’t stopped loving you will help you see Him more clearly. You’ll see the truth about about His feelings for you, and you might even find new ways to relate […]
  • How to Stop Feeling Useless
    “He makes me feel useless and stupid,” said one of my She Blossoms readers. “My life is empty and meaningless, and I’m worthless.” I know the feeling, except it wasn’t a man who made me feel useless and stupid. It was my mom. I grew up feeling like I wasn’t good enough. I wasn’t pretty, […]
  • How to Carry On When You Had No Time to Say Goodbye
    The book No Time to Say Goodbye changed how I see the grieving and healing process after loss. These valuable lessons for carrying on when you didn’t have time to say goodbye will help you let go of someone you love. While this book focuses on the surviving the suicide of a loved one, it […]
  • 7 Ways to Be an Emotionally Strong Woman in Your Relationship
    Emotionally strong women are confident, healthy, and happy. They know what they want in their relationships and life yet they aren’t pushy, aggressive, or mean. Many women want to develop emotional strength—but they don’t know how. Even women in good relationships are looking for tips on emotional health. Here’s a comment and question from one […]
  • Letting Go of a Relationship You Want to Keep
    You want to hold on, but you have to let go. Letting go of a relationship you want to keep is one of the hardest things you’ll ever do. It’s also one of the healthiest. I just finished writing the fourth edition of How to Let Go of Someone You Love. I wrote it because […]
  • How to Stop Worrying What People Think
    You know what you want, but you’re worried about what people think. Maybe you don’t know what you want, but you still worry what people think or how they’ll respond. I get it! I’m struggling with an important decision right now, and I have to keep remind myself to stop worrying what people will think. […]
  • When You Doubt What You Believe
    How you cope with doubtful thoughts and feelings affects your whole future – not to mention your present experience! What do you do when doubt fills your mind and overwhelms your emotions? Your ability to move through doubt determines whether you fail or succeed. Doubting is normal, no matter what you believe in or how […]
  • Blossoming into Life With Mary – Growing Forward
    Are you blossoming into life or wilting in the heat? It’s time to walk boldly into the new season God has planned for you! And who better than strong Biblical women to grow forward with? This article—Blossoming into Life with Mary of Nazareth—goes hand-in-hand with the last chapter of my book Growing Forward When You […]
  • Growing Forward with Mary Magdalene
    How did a “demon possessed” woman heal and become the first person who saw Jesus? Mary of Magdala is one of my favorite Biblical women in Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back (but let’s be honest, I love them all! Except for Naomi. I had a hard time with her, as I mention in […]
  • Renewing Your Purpose With Esther – Growing Forward
    If you know the purpose of your life, you’re one of the lucky ones! The rest of us are searching for and renewing our life purposes. Just when I think I knew the purpose of my life, bam. God zigs right and I’m left scrambling. Luckily He always waits for me to catch up. This […]
  • Reviving Your Heart With Hannah – Growing Forward
    Coping with infertility is one of the most painful struggles in life. My husband and I are childless; we discovered we couldn’t have kids a few years after we married. It took a long time for me to fully accept the fact that I’ll never have a child. It hurts, and sometimes I still feel […]
  • Blossoming With Martha and Mary – Growing Forward
    They blossomed into who God created them to be, our Biblical sisters Martha and Mary of Bethany. Jesus didn’t force them to become who they weren’t. He accepted these women for who they were, and encouraged them to grow into their personalities, gifts, abilities, preferences. Are you an introvert or an extrovert? In Best Jobs […]
  • Starting Over With Ruth – Growing Forward 
    How do you start over in a new country? You don’t know the language, culture, food or norms. Even if you move with your family, you have no social connections. Starting over is one of life’s most stressful events, filled with moments of loneliness, isolation, and even despair. My two biggest experiences with starting over […]
  • Uprooting With Naomi – Growing Forward 
    I have to confess that Naomi wasn’t my favorite biblical woman to write about in Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back. I struggled with so much sadness and grief when writing about her life! Not because of Naomi herself – though she was so bitter she actually renamed herself Mara (a Hebrew word for […]
  • 7 Ideas for Christians Who Don’t Fit In at Church
    If you don’t go to church because you don’t feel like you fit in, you’re not alone! A She Blossoms reader recently asked for tips on finding a church that is friendly, accepting, and loving.
  • Digging Deeper With Hagar – Growing Forward 
    Hagar was Sarah and Abraham’s Egyptian servant in the Bible. Hagar was also a single mom. And she’s my second favorite woman in my book Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back. I grew up with a single mom, and I didn’t meet my dad until went to Jerusalem, Israel when I was 29 years old. […]
  • Going Through Infertility With Sarah – Growing Forward
    Sarah and Abraham struggled with infertility for ten years. She eventually conceived Isaac, but it was a long, difficult journey. I understand the pain of trying to get pregnant but being disappointed month after month. I know what it’s like to accept a childless life. In How to Overcome Hopelessness After an Infertility Diagnosis, I […]
  • Recreating and Replanting with Eve – Growing Forward
    Eve was the first woman in the Bible to lose a child, and the grieving process hasn’t gotten easier through the ages. Eve’s losses were heartbreaking. She was the first woman to lose her home, identity, and plans for the future. She suffered one son’s death and another son’s estrangement. We know Eve as the […]
  • How to Fall Asleep on Dark Sleepless Nights
    When you can’t sleep, the night is lonely and dark. Sleepless nights seem to last forever, don’t they? Every minute gets worse. If you have chronic insomnia, you know exactly what I’m talking about! I feel your pain — not sleeping is terrible. I was inspired to write this article when I couldn’t fall asleep […]
  • When Your Life Has No Purpose or Meaning
    When you lose your purpose, life feels flat and meaningless. These seven tips will help you cope with the feeling of having no life purpose, and give you ideas for moving forward into a new season. “One day, mustering up every ounce of courage she could find, she simply left,” write the authors of This […]
  • 5 Tips for Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back
    You know your life will never be the same, and you’re struggling to move on. You’ve come to the right place! These tips will help you grow forward when you can’t go back. I call them “Blossom Tips” because they’re about planting seeds, nurturing growth, and flourishing in a new season of life. “See, I […]
  • 4 Secrets to Surviving an Empty House and Lonely Heart
    Your life will never the be the same after you lose someone you love – and neither will you. These tips on how to survive an empty house and lonely heart after a loved one’s death will help you see you’re not alone, and give you hope for the rest of the day. One of […]
  • Healing After a Secret Relationship Ends
    In my article about dealing with secret relationships, I describe the problems arising when you hide who you’re involved with. Here, you’ll find tips for healing after a secret relationship ends. You couldn’t talk about the relationship while it was happening, and now that it’s over you may feel ashamed or embarrassed. Hang on, my […]
  • When You Tried Everything to Heal Your Heart
    “I tried everything to heal the grief but nothing works,” said a reader. How do you heal a broken heart that refuses to get better? These thoughts may help, especially if you feel like you tried everything to heal your heart after losing someone you love…but nothing worked. I was inspired to write this article […]
  • 4 Meaningful Ways to Hold on to Hope When You’re Lonely
    Hope will get you through the lonely nights and dull days. Maybe you believe this – but how do you actually find and hold on to hope when you feel alone, lonely and abandoned?  The easy answer is to create healthy relationships, love, marriage and companionship. Those are good things, but they won’t erase your […]
  • Remembering the Past Without Feeling Ashamed or Guilty 
    What if you could remember your past without shame or guilt? Imagine the freedom of learning from your mistakes, regrets and failures without feeling ashamed or guilty. How light your day, how easy your night, and how joyful your moments! “Memory is frequently the bond slave of despondency,” writes C.S. Spurgeon in Morning & Evening: […]
  • 4 Steps to Recovering After an Unexpected Marriage Breakup
    Some relationship breakdowns are expected and even planned; others are sudden and shocking. These steps will help you recover after a marriage breakup that’s left you stunned, lost and confused. In my “She Blossoms” blog posts, I typically begin with a reader’s comment and five Blossom Tips to help with healing and moving forward in […]
  • How to Deal With Guilty Feelings After Your Dog’s Death
    Even if you didn’t cause your dog’s death, you still feel guilty. It’s a natural response to pet loss. If you accidentally killed your pet dog, you’ll be overwhelmed with guilty feelings. Here, you’ll find help dealing with the pain and grief. I am so sorry for your loss. It’s heartbreaking to cope with a […]
  • Where Was God When This Happened to Me and My Family?
    Death, divorce, difficult diseases, natural disasters – even devastating breakups – are heartbreaking. Asking where God was when Something Bad happened to you and your family is normal. It’s healthy to question God and express your anger, grief, frustration and hopelessness! This helps you heal and build a personal relationship with Him. Here’s what one “She […]
  • When You’re Forced to Move to a New Home
    The first time I was forced to move to a new home, I had no choice. I was seven and going into foster care! But what do you do when you’re forced to leave your home as an adult? You know you “should” be coping better, but you just can’t seem to let go of […]
  • 5 SMART Ways to Pray to God for Help, Healing and Hope
    While there’s no single “right” way to pray for help, hope and healing, our prayers to God could always use a booster shot. These five tips reveal the SMART way to pray to God — and they apply to all situations. I was experimenting with the idea of praying to Jesus with the SMART goal-setting […]
  • How to Figure Out What God Wants You to Do 
    What job does God want you to take? Where does He want you to go in your career, and for how long? Here’s how to figure out what God wants you to do with your life; these five  “Blossom Tips” are focused on career and job decisions, but can be applied to all of life’s […]
  • How to Stop Being So Hard on Yourself 
    Maybe you’ve been forgiven by someone you hurt, but you can’t stop beating yourself up. Maybe you believe God forgives other people’s mistakes and failures, but you just don’t know how to stop being so hard on yourself. Maybe you can’t forgive yourself, even after searching for tips for letting go of the past. Maybe […]
  • From Believing in God to Having a Relationship With Jesus
    What’s the difference between believing in God or a Higher Power, versus having a personal relationship with Jesus? A “She Blossoms” reader inspired me to write this article; below is her question about belief in God versus having a relationship with Jesus. In this article, you won’t find complicated theological arguments about why believing in God […]
  • Helping Your Sister Through Grief After Her Husband Dies
    How do you comfort your grieving sister after the death of her husband? These five ways to help a family member grieve are inspired by a brother’s comment. His sister’s husband died several months ago, and she hasn’t been coping well with the grieving process. “Thanks so much for writing about feeling scared to grieve on […]
  • What to Do When You Lose Confidence in Yourself
    No matter how self-confident you are, it’s normal to occasionally lose confidence in yourself. If you’ve recently experienced a breakup, job loss, relationship conflict or some other failure (real or imagined), your self-confidence is even more likely to falter. Here, you’ll find my favorite ways to rebuild your confidence and renew your self-esteem. The most […]
  • 5 Ways to Overcome Your Fear of Not Having Enough Money
    Financial fears are the scariest fears for many of us – and the most difficult to overcome. The roots of money fear extend back to our childhood, sometimes beyond our ability to even remember why we’re so scared of not having enough money. “Financial considerations are a big thing,” says a reader on our She […]
  • How to Survive Your Birthday When You Aren’t Happy
    When you’re sad, lonely or grieving a loss, celebrating your birthday is the last thing on your mind. These tips for surviving a birthday when you aren’t happy are inspired by a reader who recently lost her husband… “I’m turning 40 and experiencing my first birthday as a widow,” says Melanie on 12 Creative Ways […]
  • How to Trust Your Intuition When Dealing With Toxic Coworkers
    You may be setting yourself up for more — and worse — work problems if you don’t learn how to trust your intuition when you’re dealing with toxic coworkers. These five Blossom Tips won’t miraculously make your job the happiest place on earth (even if you actually do work at Disneyland), but they can change […]
  • Healing Wisdom for When Your Dog Dies
    In How to Fix a Broken Heart, Dr Guy Winch offers healing advice to help you cope with grief when your dog dies. This is one of the most thoughtful, informative books on pet loss I’ve ever read; it explains why grief over a dog’s death isn’t given the time or attention its due. A […]
  • What to Do When Grief Overwhelms You
    Unexpected waves of grief overwhelm you at unexpected, sometimes awkward times. Coping with setbacks in the grieving process when you’re home alone is one thing — but what do you do in the grocery store or at your kids’ school? Nothing prepares you for this part of the grieving process. You are not alone. They […]
  • When You Feel Like You’ll Never Get Over Your Cat’s Death
    Your cat isn’t “just a cat” – so don’t let anyone make you feel foolish about the grief you feel after your cat dies. If you feel like you’ll never get over your cat’s death, you’re not alone. I know how you feel — and so does my reader, SG. Here’s what she says about […]
  • How to Deal With Your Mom’s Disappointment 
    Disappointing your mom and dad is the hardest part of growing up – even for grown adults! I’m over 40, and I recently disappointed my mom by deciding to spend my Christmas holidays volunteering at a camp for adults with developmental disabilities. “I dreaded telling my mom that I was dropping out of school,” says […]
  • The 5 Invitations – Moving Through the Grieving Process
    One of the best books I’ve read on how to move through the grieving process is called The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully by Frank Ostaseski. Here, I share five different tips from his book for moving through the grief and healing process. “In the old days, people used […]
  • How to Stop Feeling Sorry for Yourself 
    I grew up in and out of foster homes. My mom struggles with schizophrenia, my dad lives in a land far away, and I have no close family. It took me a long time to learn how to stop feeling sorry for myself — but once I put my self-pity down, I began to Blossom. […]
  • The First Valentine’s Day After Your Husband’s Death
    A reader recently commented that she’s coping fairly well with her husband’s death, but Valentine’s Day is coming. And that changes everything. She just got through Christmas, and now she has to deal with the pain and grief of Valentine’s Day. “We got married on February 14, exactly one year after he proposed,” she said. […]
  • How to Cope With Your Fear of the Unknown
    When we know what to expect in the future, we can prepare. This gives us control. But what if we don’t know what the future holds? How do we cope with fear of the unknown? “Thankfully, I still have my husband,” writes Beth on Help and Hope When You’re Living Alone After the Death of […]
  • How to Rebuild Your Relationship With God
    A reader asked for help getting closer to Jesus. She didn’t turn away from her faith – and she attends church regularly – but she wants to build a stronger relationship with God. As I brainstormed tips for rebuilding a relationship with God, I actually ran into a problem with Him. It was technically a […]
  • 3 Blossom Tips to Help You to Stop Dwelling on the Past
    It’s not healthy to completely forget the past, but you can’t keep dwelling on the pain. These Blossom Tips to help you move forward in your life — whether you’re adjusting to a breakup, death, or difficult life change. First, here’s what a “She Blossoms” reader called Florrie says about healing after a difficult breakup: […]
  • How to Accept the Truth About Your Relationship 
    Accepting the truth about your relationship is easier if you have something bigger, better, and more beautiful to hold on to! Here’s how to accept the truth about your relationship, plus tips for moving forward in your life. “I need to let him go, yet I can’t find the courage,” says Lee on How to […]
  • Why Doesn’t God Intervene to Protect Us?
    If God loves us so much, why doesn’t He protect us from pain and suffering? Why doesn’t God intervene when Christians are suffering, struggling, or sad and lonely? You’re not alone if you’re wondering where God was when something bad happened to you. You’re not the only one questioning where God is. One of our […]
  • How Do You Live After Losing Your Soulmate?
    You may feel like you can’t go on when you lose your soulmate — whether the loss happened because of death, divorce, or a difficult breakup. You feel your soulmate’s absence in your heart, stomach, and soul. Your loss lodges inside you because your soulmate was part of you, your daily life and your identity. How do you live after losing your soulmate?
  • 3 Ways to Find Peace When You’re Anxious and Afraid
    Two readers recently asked for tips on how to find peace when you’re struggling with anxiety and fear. I know well those anxious, fearful feelings — they were unwelcome visitors on many a dark night. I’ve tried several ways to find peace; below, I’ll share three of my most Blossomy tips for fighting anxiety and […]
  • How to Focus on What Really Matters in Your Life
    Sometimes, figuring out what really matters in life is the easy part. Survival, love, relationships, safety and security, feeling valuable, and living a meaningful life are things that matter to all of us. The hard part staying focused on the things that really matter in your life. “I recently had back surgery,” says Sherry in […]
  • 7 Ways to Live Happily as a Single Woman in Your 40s 
    Maybe the single life when you’re a woman in your 40s is a dream come true – or maybe it’s your worst nightmare! Perhaps it’s a little of both. Maybe you feel like a failure because you’re not in a successful relationship, or you feel like a success because you escaped an unhealthy marriage.
  • How to Stop Complaining About Your Ex After a Breakup
    Coping with a breakup is more difficult and painful when you bury yourself in complaints and criticisms about your ex-boyfriend or ex-husband. These tips on how to stop complaining about your ex after breaking up will help you move on in peace, healing, and freedom. “After all of the heartache, change, and uncertainty you’ve faced […]
  • 3 Tips for Transitioning to a New Stage of Life
    Transitioning to a new life stage is difficult even if you chose to make the move. No matter how exciting or perfect your new life is, you’ll still find it difficult to transition. This is normal, so don’t be too hard on yourself if you’re having trouble settling in. I received a message from one […]
  • 7 Ways to Renew Your Interest in Life
    Your spark has dimmed, nothing motivates you, you have no interest in life, work, family or friends. How do you renew the zeal for living that you once had? Lots of ways, such as learning how to play! Stop taking yourself — and your life — so seriously. Put down the burdens you’ve been carrying […]
  • How to Cope When Your Husband Dies Unexpectedly at Home
    Nothing prepares you for the grief and shock when your husband unexpectedly dies at home – no matter how old or healthy he was. I can’t imagine how difficult it is, or how much pain you’re in. I’m so sorry for your loss. While you won’t find instant healing or magic tips for coping with […]
  • When You Know It’s Over But Can’t Say Good-Bye
    Sometimes you know things you wish you didn’t know – such as the fact that your relationship is over. And, sometimes you can’t say good-bye because it hurts too much. Even though you know your relationship has to end, you may be scared or reluctant to let go because you think you’ll never learn how […]
  • How to Heal Your Body After a Breakup
    Finding happiness after a relationship ends isn’t just about healing your broken heart. Here’s how to heal your body after a breakup, plus a summary of the different ways breaking up affects you physically. Your heart feels broken after you break up with someone – but did you know your body feels the physical effects […]
  • Healing Your Heart After Losing Your Dog
    “My dog died and I can’t get over it,” she said. “How do I overcome this pain and feel normal again?” The truth is that you never ‘get over it’ after you lose your dog. Your heart, soul, and spirit have experienced the unconditional and amazing love of a dog – and you’ll never be […]
  • Sympathy Gifts to Say You’re Sorry After a Family Death
    These sympathy gifts and ideas will help you say “I’m sorry for your loss” after someone dies. Whether it’s a sudden death in the family or an expected death due to an illness, all losses are shocking. We know we’ll grieve a family member’s death, but we’re often unprepared for the depth of the pain […]
  • What to Do When it Feels Like You’re Losing Everything 
    One loss – a death, breakup, job loss – is difficult to handle. But how do you cope with multiple losses in your life? Heaps of pain? Oodles of suffering? One ton of bricks after another, falling from the sky, crushing your heart and soul and spirit and body? In my care group last night, […]
  • How to Keep Going – Even When You Want to Give Up
    Giving up isn’t really what you want to do – but the problem is you just don’t know how to keep going. Take heart, for here you’ll find the strength, courage, and hope you need to fight those “I want to give up” feelings. My first teaching job was in Africa, at an American school […]
  • 5 Ways to Deal With Guilt and Grief After Rehoming Your Dog
    Deciding to rehome a dog – or give your pet away – is painful and sad. You’ll find no judgment here, only understanding and compassion. I know how you feel because I had to rehome my dog a few years ago. The decision was agonizing. Here, I share tips on how to deal guilt and grief after rehoming your dog.
  • How to Forgive Yourself for Not Doing More
    Don’t let guilt and regret consume and overwhelm you. These seven practical steps on how to forgive yourself for not doing more will help you heal, let go of the past, and move forward. Who knows — maybe you’ll even start to plant the seeds and nurture the conditions that will help you Blossom into […]
  • How to Be Happy Even Though You’re Childless
    Coping with childlessness is like grieving the loss of a loved one: you never “get over” the pain. But you can be childless and still have a happy, fulfilled, and even joyful life. My husband and I first started dealing with infertility 10 years ago. Grieving was a process that took a long time and […]
  • What to Do When You Can’t Stop Wanting a Baby 
    Whether you’re childless because of infertility or miscarriages – or you simply ran out of time – the hard truth is you’ll probably never stop wanting a baby. The sadness, disappointment, and heartbreak never really goes away. That’s the bad news; I thought it’d be good to get it out of the way. But there […]
  • 7 Reasons the Grieving Process Takes Longer for Some People
    Dealing with grief after losing a loved one takes time – but why does the grieving process take longer for some? These reasons for prolonged grief will help you understand grief better, which will help you heal after loss. It’s a myth that time heals all wounds. Perhaps your little physical wounds — a paper […]
  • Hope for a New Beginning When You Don’t Want to Be Alone
    How do you create a new beginning when you’re scared you’ll be alone for the rest of your life? Whether you’re alone by choice or circumstance, these ideas will give you hope and encouragement. You’ll also find sprinkles of inspiration to help you Blossom into the woman you were created to be! Take a deep […]
  • How to Get Through the Night When You Feel Sad and Lonely
    The nights are the worst, aren’t they? Dark, quiet, sad and lonely. These tips on how to get through the night when you feel sad and lonely – or depressed because of a breakup, divorce or death in the family – will help you cope. At the very least, they’ll show you you’re not alone! […]
  • 7 Ways to Stop Feeling Like a Failure When You’re Over 40
    Your life took a wrong turn somewhere along the way. You never thought you’d feel like a failure over 40 – maybe your career is empty, your relationships disappointing, your heart broken because of a betrayal or loss. Maybe your family is expressing their disapproval or disappointment with you. Guess what? You are not alone…and […]
  • Do You Struggle to Let Things Go? 5 Ways to Live by Faith
    You know letting things go – past hurts, people you love, plans you create, places you long for – is freedom. But HOW do you let things go and live by faith? These tips are inspired by a question a member asked in our She Blossoms Facebook Group. First, here’s the quote about letting things […]
  • Why You Have No Energy When You’re Grieving
    You have no energy because grief is exhausting, yet you need energy to survive the stages of grief! Here’s how to re-energize your body through the grieving process. Feeling bleak, tired, and even physically exhausted are normal signs of grief — which means you can’t completely avoid them. But just because it’s normal to have […]
  • How to Help Your Mom Leave an Abusive Relationship
    Here are the 7 most important things to remember when you’re searching for advice on how to help your mother leave an abusive relationship. I was inspired to write this article for a teenager who asked for help getting out of a bad relationship when you have nowhere to turn. “I am 16 and trying […]
  • 5 Gentle Ways to Stop Grieving and Start Letting Go
    You’ll always remember your loved one, you’ll be comforted by your memories, and you’ll even feel joy again! It’s time to learn how to stop grieving and start letting go of your loved one. Here, you’ll learn the difference between grieving your loss and letting go of someone you love. “Thank you for these ideas […]
  • 6 Ways to Deal With Guilty Feelings When You Move On
    You’re normal – and even healthy – if you’re ready to let go of the past, but you feel guilty for moving on. These tips will help you find courage, strength, and freedom to walk into a new stage of life! “Letting go means something has to open in your head and in your heart, […]
  • A Quick List of Inspiring Adventure Travel Blogs for Women
    When I asked for travel destination ideas on my “She Blossoms” Facebook Group, I got everything from the Yukon in Canada to Machu Picchu in Peru! So I decided this week’s Blossomy Bouquets absolutely must include inspiring adventure travel blogs for women like me, who need a few ideas and encouragement for their next vacation. […]
  • 6 Practical Ways to Find God’s Call on Your Life
    You were created for a purpose and God has a plan for your life…but what is it? These tips for finding what God has called you to do are inspired by a “She Blossoms” reader called Kelly. He wants to discern God’s call on his life, and asked what was helpful for me. “I found […]
  • How to Deal With Regret After Someone You Love Dies
    The grieving process hurts worse when you regret things you said or did while your loved one was alive, doesn’t it? You have no way to apologize or make amends. And you can’t change how you acted in the past. These ideas for dealing with regret after someone you love dies are inspired by a […]
  • 4 Ways to Take Control of Negative Thoughts – Today!
    Are you dwelling in the past or worrying about the future? Whether you’re struggling with negativity because of things that happened in the past, or worries about what life will bring later today, tomorrow, or next year – you can learn how to stop negative thoughts that seem to take control of your life. And, […]
  • When You Miss Your Dad – Help and Hope for Fatherless Daughters
    Father’s Day or not – life is no good when you’re missing your dad or growing up without a father, is it? I know, because I’m one of those fatherless daughters who was raised by a single mother. I didn’t even think I was missing my dad because I never knew him! I didn’t meet him […]
  • How to Be Happy When You’re the Black Sheep of the Family
    Are you an introvert surrounded by extroverted family members? Then you’re the “black sheep of the family”! Here’s how to be happy when you’re the only introvert in a tribe of people with extroverted personality traits. On our She Blossoms Facebook Group, I asked if our members had more introverted than extroverted personality traits. The […]
  • 10 Tips for Healing a Broken Heart From Women of the Bible
    Ask Eve, Sarah, Mary Magdalene, Naomi, or Hannah how to heal a broken heart, and you’ll discover oceans of comfort and healing. These women of the Bible share tips for healing broken hearts, letting go of loved ones, and stepping into a new season of life. Here’s how to get through your pain and heal: know that […]
  • How to Survive Life After Losing Someone You Love 
    I am so sorry for your loss. I’ve walked through the valley of the shadow of death, and I know how hopeless it feels to search for ideas on how to survive life after the loss of someone you love. These tips are inspired by a reader’s comment on my article for grieving widows — […]
  • What to Do When You Feel Empty and You Don’t Know Why
    One of the most popular internet search terms is “I feel empty.” If you struggle with feelings of emptiness and you don’t know why, I have good news for you! You are not alone. You are normal. The person sitting next to you on the bus or in the library or on your sofa at […]
  • 5 Ways to Find Peace in a Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship
    While researching my book Blossoming After Loss, I discovered several healthy approaches to difficult mother-daughter relationships. They’re refreshing and healing – and they may help you navigate your interactions with your mom. These tips for finding peace in a difficult mother-daughter relationship are inspired by Naomi’s strong connection to her mother-in-law, Ruth. “Their [Naomi and […]
  • What to Do When You Can’t Stop Eating…and Eating…and Eating
    I know how you feel! If I get a whiff of a chocolate chip cookie, I can’t stop eating until I devour the entire tin. Here’s what to do when you can’t stop eating; I learned how to overcome mindless overeating the hard way and you may have to, too…but at least you’ll know you’re not alone. […]
  • 7 Tips for Overcoming Fear of What People Think About You
    The best way to overcome your (completely normal) fear of what people think is to do things that make people think about you. Yes, it’s counterintuitive. And yes – it works! Here’s how I’m successfully overcoming fear of what other people think of me, and how you can find the same freedom, peace, and joy […]
  • How Letting Go Helps You Heal and Blossom
    These 7 practical tips for letting go of the past will help you heal, flourish, and even Blossom into a new season! Your past is an important part of your life because it helped shaped who you are today – for better or worse. But, the past can also hold you back from being who […]
  • How to Be Alone After Years of Marriage
    You’ll never find quick or easy tips on how to be alone after years of marriage, but here you will find comfort and healing. These ideas for surviving life alone when your spouse dies are inspired by these beautiful comments from a widow named Ken: “My wife died recently, we were married for 37 years,” […]
  • How to Play the Flute on Stage When You’re Nervous and Scared
    The tricky part of learning how to play the flute in public is you don’t necessarily know how nervous you’ll be until you actually start performing! Playing with a teacher – or even in a school, community, or concert band – is one thing, but playing any wind instrument on stage can be a terrifying […]
  • How to Stay Positive When Your Life Sucks
    No matter how rich, smart, hot, or spiritual you are – sometimes life just sucks. Here’s how to stay positive on your worst days, how to make your life more meaningful, and how to be happy when you feel sad, tired, and droopy. This article was supposed to be a new and improved version of […]
  • How to Heal the Pain After Losing Someone You Love
    The grief, shock, and sorrow you feel after losing someone you love can seem unbearable. These ideas on how to heal the pain won’t magically make life better, but they will help you see that you’re not alone. “I was and am still overwhelmed with grief, anger and resentment after my husband’s death,” writes Holly on […]
  • 25 Odd Jobs and Hobbies That Make Money in Creative Ways
    These “odd jobs” and hobbies are also the most unusual careers and creative ways to make money. Why drag yourself to to work every day when you can be enchanted by your job? In How to Start a Life History Writing Business, I describe how I turned my writing hobby into an actual career. Writing […]
  • Comforting Prayers for the Loss of a Beloved Dog or Cat
    Believing in heaven or an afterlife doesn’t erase the intense pain of a dog or cat’s death, but it can help. These prayers for the loss of a pet will comfort and help owners cope with the death of their dogs or cats. With great love comes great suffering. While the grief of pet loss can last […]
  • Comfort and Hope After Your Husband’s Unexpected Death
    When your husband dies unexpectedly, your whole world is instantly and forever changed. Nothing is the same, yet everything continues the way it was before. It’s bewildering and shocking, isn’t it? Here, you’ll find comfort and hope from women who know what it’s like to unexpectedly lose their husbands. First, though, I want to share […]
  • When You Have Nobody to Love on Valentine’s Day
    Feeling like you have nobody to love on Valentine’s Day? You are not alone. Here you’ll find several suggestions for coping with being alone and lonely on February 14; this article was inspired by a reader who says she never has somebody to love on Valentine’s Day. “Every year I dread February 14, especially since […]
  • Help Finding Part Time Jobs for Seniors and Retirees
    Whether you’re searching for work because you need money or social interaction, here’s what you need to know about finding part time jobs for seniors and retirees. I was compelled to compile this list of job opportunities for a retired reader, who said… “I’ve always dreamed of being a writer, and getting published in national magazines and newspapers,” […]
  • 10 Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Dogs and Dog Lovers
    These Valentine’s Day gifts for dogs and dog lovers include ideas for dog walkers, trainers, obedience teachers, and veterinarians. February 14 is for furry friends and canine companions – not just human couples! I saw the Furbo Dog Camera: Treat Tossing, HD Wifi Cam, and 2-Way Audio on Shark Tank (or was it Dragon’s Den?). Furbo is a remote, interactive […]
  • Coping With an Empty Home When You Miss Your Best Friend
    A cat or dog dying isn’t just “pet loss.” You’re living in an empty home, you’re missing your best friend, and you may be wondering if you’re normal because you feel like you can’t cope with the grief. Here, you’ll find hope and help getting through the pain of pet loss. These tips are inspired […]
  • How to Overcome Hopelessness After an Infertility Diagnosis
    Overcoming feelings of hopelessness and depression is easier when you tune in to the right channel! Here’s how to find joy, hope and peace after a diagnosis of infertility or ongoing fertility problems. “Women helping women” is the theme of this article; I share 10 tips on how to overcome hopeless feelings from women who […]
  • How to Stop Feeling Guilty and Ashamed About a Choice You Made
    Whether it was last summer or 20 years ago, it’s time to learn how to stop feeling guilty and ashamed of yourself, what you did, or how you reacted to someone or something. These tips are inspired by a reader who really wants to help others deal with guilt and shame…but she feels like she’s […]
  • How to Tell Someone You Were Sexually Abused as a Child
    Maybe it’s time to tell someone that you were raped or sexual abused, but who? And how do you say “I was sexually abused as a child” or “He molested me”? Telling someone you were sexually abused or raped won’t be easy, but you need to tell what happened so you can heal.
  • 9 Ways to Survive Abusive Parents When You Can’t Leave Home
    When you’re a child or underage teenager, you can’t just leave home if your mom or dad is abusing you. These tips on how to survive abusive parents when you can’t move out of your family home are inspired by a reader who said… “You gave words of wisdom for adults whose parents try to control them,” […]
  • 10 Ways to Solve the Most Difficult Mother-in-Law Problems
    Do you feel like your mother-in-law (MIL) hates you? Or maybe it’s the other way around! Here’s what you need to know about dealing with a critical mother-in-law, plus the best ways to solve difficult problems with your in-laws. “I have been married for over 25 years and have had many ups and downs with […]
  • 12 Employee Appreciation Gifts That Will Make Your Staff Happy
    Happy staff members are productive and positive! These employee appreciation gift ideas will make your online shopping excursion fast and easy. Many of these gifts can be bought in bulk – and yet they are personalized so each staff member will appreciate both the fairness and the thought you put into his or her gift. […]
  • 8 Pet Sympathy Gifts to Ease the Pain of a Dog or Cat’s Death
    A sympathy gift will help ease the pain of pet loss; these heartwarming pet memorials and gifts include ways to say goodbye after a beloved dog or cat dies. Grieving pet loss is a sad but important way to heal – and these sympathy gifts and pet memorials will help. This isn’t just a list […]
  • Vroom! The Best Gifts for Car Enthusiasts and Guys Who Love to Drive
    You’ll find the perfect gift here, in this complete guide of 19 best gifts and ideas for car lovers and auto enthusiasts. Ranging from practical driving gifts to unique automobile ideas and experiences, this gift guide will make your car buff happier than ever. These gifts for men who love cars range from the practical (car chargers […]
  • Think You’ll Be Single Forever? 7 Ways to Be Happy Anyway
    Yes, the thought of being single forever is lonely and even depressing. But wait! The good news is you can learn how to be happy anyway. At least 7 ways. Maybe more. This article is for all the single women and men who are 40+ and worried that their singleness will last forever and ever […]
  • 7 Secrets for Surviving a Lonely Christmas 
    You may feel alone, but my tips on how to cope with the “holiday blues” will comfort and cheer you! Here’s how to survive a lonely Christmas, with inspiration from one of my favorite Christmas quotes: “Isn’t it funny that at Christmas something in you gets so lonely for — I don’t know what exactly, […]
  • 10 Things You Need to Know About Traveling in Vietnam
    These travel tips are more than a list of the “best things to do in Vietnam.” Rather, here’s a summary of what I learned while on vacation in Vietnam and things I wish I’d known before I traveled from Ho Chi Minh City (still called Saigon by many locals) up the coast to Hanoi. My husband […]
  • How to Find God and Change Your Life Forever
    You’ll find two parts to this article: 1) how finding God will change your life; and 2) 10 practical tips for changing your life from a successful businesswoman who has made millions of dollars helping women change their lives. I love to include both spiritual and practical tips in my writing, because that’s who I am […]
  • 12 Warning Signs of an Emotionally Abusive Boyfriend
    It’s not always easy to recognize the signs of emotional abuse in a relationship – especially when you’re in love. Here’s how to know if your boyfriend is emotionally abusive, inspired by a reader’s question about her boyfriend. “Is my boyfriend abusing me emotionally? I’m not sure and I don’t know how to break up […]
  • How to Find God and Heal Your Broken Heart
    You’ve heard that God loves and heals the broken hearted, but how does He actually work? When will He heal you, and why is it taking so long? Here’s how to find God and how He heals broken hearts. I was inspired to write this article for a reader who is searching for God’s healing in […]
  • 7 Tips for Dealing With Controlling Parents
    Whether you’re an adult child or living at home (or an adult child who lives at home!), these tips on how to deal with controlling parents will help you see your situation – and your mom and dad – differently. I was inspired to write this article for Andy. “Growing up, my parents always had a way of […]
  • How to Deal With Depression When You Can’t Get Pregnant
    Here are the most common signs of depression in women, plus tips on how to deal with depression when you can’t get pregnant. Take heart: you WILL feel alive and happy again! “My partner and I have been trying get pregnant for seven years,” says Roo on How to Be Happy as a Childless Woman – […]
  • How to Stop Feeling Guilty About Starting a New Relationship
    These tips for overcoming guilt when you’re dating will help you settle into joy and start a new relationship with peace. You may feel guilty for a variety of reasons: you’re taking time from your kids, your kids may feel threatened by your new relationship, your ex-husband may be jealous or hurt, your in-laws may […]
  • 10 Highest Paying Jobs for College Students
    This list of the highest paying jobs for university and college students will help you find work. I also share a few tips on how to get hired and things to remember when you’re looking for employment as a college student. You may be tempted to start your own business or work from home, because both […]
  • 7 Practical Ways to Forgive Yourself for Past Mistakes
    Yes, you can learn how to forgive yourself for your past mistakes. Your failures are behind you; you don’t have to carry them anymore. You learned from your mistakes, and you’re stronger, kinder, and wiser now. To make peace with yourself and be happy, you need to learn how to forgive yourself. These steps towards […]
  • How to Recover From Loss and Survive Grief
    “I can’t get out of bed,” may be all you can think when grief washes over you. These ideas on how to recover from loss during the grieving process are inspired by a widow who not only lost her husband, she lost her identity. “I feel empty,” says MW on Living Alone After the Death […]
  • How to Get Over a Breakup When You Don’t Have Closure
    Knowing how to get over a breakup isn’t simple – and it’s even more difficult when you don’t have closure in your relationship. These tips are inspired by a reader who can’t accept that her relationship is over because she and her ex didn’t have closure. The most important thing to remember about getting over a breakup […]
  • How to Start a Life History Writing Business
    One of the first businesses I started was writing life histories, so I was excited to discover that a friend is considering starting her own memoir writing business. “How much did you charge to write a life history?” she asked me in an email this very morning. What lovely memories that simple question raised! As […]
  • 10 Tips for Eating Healthy When You Don’t Make Much Money
    Yes, you can overcome obstacles to feeling and looking great – even if you’re on a low income! Here’s how to eat healthy when you don’t make much money, plus motivation to follow through with what you already know. This article was originally called “How to Eat Healthy on a Low Income”, but as I […]
  • How to Guard Your Heart in a Relationship
    Guarding your heart – whether you’re in a new relationship or a mature marriage – will not only protect your emotional health, it’ll help you build a strong, healthy bond with your partner. This post was inspired by two things: a reader’s comment on How to Cope When He Says He’s Not in Love With […]
  • How to Find Your Dream Job – No Matter How Old You Are
    Tinker, tailor, soldier, spy? These 5 steps to finding your dream job will help you figure out where you’d happily work today, tomorrow, and beyond retirement. “My dream job is working with animals,” says Kathy on Best Jobs for Introverts and People Who Like to Be Alone. “But I never went to veterinarian school, which is […]
  • 7 Steps to Forgiving Someone Who Broke Your Heart
    You might find it easier to forgive if you change your mindset instead of relying on your feelings. Here’s how forgiveness works best, with inspiration from a painful family estrangement I faced, the book Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff in Love by Richard Carlson, and a sprinkle of the Psalms. Forgiveness isn’t a feeling; it’s a deliberate […]
  • 13 Classic Storybook Character Costumes for Halloween
    Ok, I admit that there are many more than 13 classic book and literary Halloween costume ideas on this list, but who could pass up the use of Number 13 for an October 31 blog post about Halloween costumes? 🙂 Kicking off this list is Evil Winged Monkey from the Wizard of Oz. In the original […]
  • 15 Beautiful Halloween Costumes for Plus Size Women
    You don’t have to be skinny to be beautiful! These plus size Halloween costume ideas and shopping tips will help you find the right outfit for October 31. You’ll look awesome and feel comfortable in your Halloween costume. The Deluxe Designer Collection Anne Boleyn Costume Dress and Headband is a gorgeous gown from the Henry the VIII period. It’s […]
  • 40th Birthday Gift Ideas That Will Surprise and Delight Her
    Whether she’s glad or sad to be turning forty, you’ll make this a celebration to remember with these delightfully surprising 40th birthday gifts for women! The Anuschka Hand Painted Leather Handbag is first on my list of 40th birthday gifts for one reason: it will make your “birthday girl” feel cheerful, artistic, pretty, and loved. Even though it’s […]
  • How to Cope When He Says He’s Not in Love With You
    You won’t find magic for making the pain disappear when he says “I’m not in love with you anymore”, but you will find comfort and healing in these 10 tips. You are not alone. I feel your pain, and I know what it’s like when someone says they love you no more. It’s such a […]
  • What You Need to Know About Making a Career Change at 40
    Changing careers when you’re older than forty is a big decision; these 10 tips summarize what you need to know about making a career change at 40. Robert Herjavec and Richard Bolles are bestselling authors and successful businessmen who share career advice, cautions and strategies for switching jobs. “Start by being honest with yourself,” writes […]
  • What You Need to Know When You Call a Shelter or Safe House
    Do you want to leave your husband, but have nowhere to go? Here’s what to expect at a women’s shelter. I worked at a safe house for women and children, and know how to prepare to leave an unhealthy and abusive relationship. If you’re in an abusive relationship, know that you are not alone! I’m inspired to […]
  • Causes of Gurgling Noises and Stomach Problems in Dogs
    Poor doggy! Diarrhea, indigestion, stomach making noise (gurgling), and no appetite are all signs of upset stomach in dogs. These suggestions on how to deal with your dog’s stomach problems are based on my experience with my terrier Georgie. Georgie’s tummy was upset for almost a full year before I finally figured out what was […]
  • Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken
    This collection of words of comfort will lift your spirits and heal your soul. When your heart is broken, you need warmth and companionship – and the feeling that you’re not alone. “When I lost my husband, I felt as if I did not want to go on,” said Kerry on Starting Over in Your 60s – After […]
  • How to Find a Career – For Introverts Who Like to Work Alone
    You love working alone – and you want to love your job, right? Here’s how to find the right career for people with introverted personality traits. The first step to finding a job for introverts is to learn what introversion is, and how their personality type affects their career and work choices. Here you’ll also find […]
  • 3 Tips for Choosing Your Own Adventure in Real Life
    Choosing your own adventure is fun in a storybook – and it’s thrilling in real life! Here are three tips for creating a life that will help you Blossom into the woman you were created to be. I’ve been dragging my blogs around in circles for a couple of years, trying to figure out what I […]
  • How to Stop Crying When It’s Over 
    When it’s over – a relationship, an important time in your life, an unexpected death – you feel like you’ll never stop crying. Here are four ways to get through the grief and let go of the pain. Yes. Yes, you will laugh and live fully again! You will rise and stretch, and you will […]
  • How to Make a Difficult Decision in Your Life
    Deciding to move to Africa for three years wasn’t easy, but it was one of the best decisions I ever made! Here’s how to make a difficult decision in your life – both by looking backwards at what you’ve learned and forwards at who you want to be. I decided I wanted to live overseas […]
  • What to Do When You Feel Ugly and Sad
    No matter what you look like, you will have “ugly days.” We all do – but we don’t have to let our ugly feelings make us sad! I wrote this article for Allayah; she’s a teen reader who commented on my post about a rare disease that causes severe skin problems and joint pain. “I’m […]
  • How to Feel Better About Yourself
    The best way to feel better about yourself is to learn where your sense of self-worth comes from and how to increase it. Here’s a quick self-worth test to help you get specific about how you see yourself, plus three tips on how to feel better about who you are. First, I have to tell […]
  • How to Ask for What You Need in Your Relationships
    These five steps will help you ask for what you need in your relationships. If you haven’t learned how to ask your partner, family member, boss, or neighbor for what you need, you’ll never feel confident and peaceful with the people in your life. After considering all the comments in 8 Signs He Doesn’t Love You […]
  • 4 Ways to Hold on to Your Faith When Love Hurts
    When you’re hurt by love, should you give up on the relationship or hold onto hope for healing? These four tips on how to keep the faith when love hurts will help you do both without losing your heart, soul, or sanity. This article is inspired by a reader who asked for help deciding what to […]
  • How to Deal With Your Fear of Being Alone
    Your fear of being alone is powerful, and can keep you trapped in an unhealthy relationship, bad job, or difficult situation. But the good news is that there is something even more powerful than your fear of being alone… “I have been married for six years and it was never a smooth relationship,” says Michelle on […]
  • Everything You Need to Know About SheBlossoms
    SheBlossoms is one of the best online relationship support groups for women! Why? Because we focus on changing the only thing we can control: ourselves. We know that the best way to navigate rocky relationships is to get emotionally and spiritually healthy. Here at SheBlossoms, we dig into the four most important aspects of emotional […]
  • How to Reinvent Yourself When You Have No Guarantees
    The idea of reinventing yourself is tempting, but the scary part is that there aren’t any guarantees that you’ll like your new self, new job, or new life. So how do you reinvent yourself in the midst of uncertainty and fear? “Thank you for this article,” says Jan in response to How to Find Your Dream […]
  • How to Stop Your Out of Control Binge Eating
    Food has been your first choice when you feel out of control, and now you’re ready to learn how to stop binge eating. Binging (and purging) isn’t the healthiest response to stress and anxiety, but it is a common way to cope. Here’s how to stop binge eating when you feel scared, anxious, or overwhelmed. We […]
  • How to Get Out of the Rut You’re Stuck In
    Yes, you’ve been stuck in a rut – but you’re already starting to get out. No, it won’t be as easy as eating popcorn and watching Netflix while surfing Facebook…but it will be worth it. Imagine how amazing you’ll feel when you discover that getting out of a rut isn’t as hard as you think! “I’ve been married […]
  • How to Stop Playing Mind Games in Your Relationship
    Learn how to stop playing mind games and start relaxing into your relationships – it’ll change everything! Here’s how to release your grip and be authentic, joyful, and peaceful with the people in your life. After I wrote 5 Examples of the Mind Games People Play in Relationships, I realized I didn’t offer any tips […]
  • How to Survive When You Have No Money
    Having no money and no family makes it hard to survive – much less Blossom! These tips on how to survive with no money are inspired by a reader. She asked for practical survival tips and emotional help with her relationship. “What makes things really hard is that I am a black woman and there […]
  • How to Stand Up for Yourself – and Blossom!
    Yes, you can learn how to stand up for yourself without offending your loved ones, coworkers, neighbors, or pets. Here, you’ll find helpful quotes from Martha Beck and an inspiring story about being called something I don’t like by a man I love. “I felt too weak and scared to stand up to people who hurt me […]
  • 5 Tips on How to Create a Better Life
    Oh yes, you can! These tips for creating a wildly better life than the one you’re now living are limited by only one thing: the boundaries of your own imagination. Why? Because a better life begins and ends with you. Dare you Blossom? I’m inspired to share my thoughts on how to create a better life […]
  • Not Quite Sad or Lonely…What Depression Feels Like
    Depression feels different to different people; these examples of what depression feels like are from JK Rowling and other women who often or occasionally feel depressed. How can you get rid of depressed feelings? It depends on the cause or type of depression – as well as your personality, genetic makeup, and physical health. In […]
  • How to Pray for Healing in Your Body
    Your body was created to heal, but this world is breaking it down. These steps to healing prayer are powerful; they focus on acceptance and surrender to God’s protection, love and will for your life. Learn how to pray, to heal, and to grow upwards in freedom and joy. Learning how to pray is itself healing […]
  • A Simple, No-Cook Ulcerative Colitis Diet Plan
    In the 20 years I’ve had ulcerative colitis, I’ve experimented with many diets. Here I share the best ulcerative colitis diet plan for women that I’ve found so far. It’s not a formal diet – it’s just the foods that help keep my colitis from flaring up. Did you know that the bacteria in your […]
  • How Do You Come Alive When You Feel Dead Inside?
    When you feel nothing and all you can think is “I feel dead inside”, you start to believe you’ll never feel alive or happy again. Hold on, because these feelings will pass! Your life won’t always feel so lonely, empty, or meaningless. I don’t have magic tips or miracle solutions that erase the dark feelings […]
  • How to Be Happy Single When You Wish You Were Married
    Not being in a romantic relationship is lonely and sometimes depressing. And, trying to find ways to be happy single when you wish you were married can feel futile. I have a few practical tips for coping…but first, here’s a comment from a reader that has stuck with me for a long time. “Once you […]
  • How to Love Yourself When You Don’t Feel Good Enough
    Your search for “how to love myself” is how it starts. These 7 tips for loving yourself will help you feel happier, healthier, and more hopeful – especially if you feel like you’re not good enough. Your relationships will improve and you’ll have the strength you need to face whatever comes your way. On How to Feel […]
  • How to Study When You Can’t Focus – College Students
    It’s a common problem for college students: you have to study, but you can’t concentrate or focus on the material. These 8 tips on how to study when you can’t focus are kicked off by a college student. Jess is studying engineering, and has learned how to manage the stress that accompanies exams. “My solution to dealing […]
  • 5 Practical Ways to Cope With Childlessness
    There are no quick tips for coping with childlessness and finding ways to be happy. But, your life might turn out better than you imagined – and you can Blossom into a woman you didn’t expect to be! Here’s how my husband and I cope with being a childless couple – we didn’t choose not […]
  • How to Safely Treat a Dog’s Scratched Eye
    Here’s how my veterinarian treated my dog’s scratched eye, plus tips for dealing with eye scratches in dogs. Georgie has been to the dog veterinarian twice for eye-related problems: once for a scratched eye, and once for an eye infection. I researched how to treat dog eye injuries and symptoms of cornea or retina problems […]

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  • About Laurie
    Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen My name is Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen; I’m a full-time Master of Theological Studies student and writer. I created my She Blossoms blog family 10 years…
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  • Healing From the Pain of Pet Loss
    The grief, loneliness, and regret of saying goodbye to a beloved dog or cat is surprisingly painful. You never “get over” the loss of a…