What to Remember When You Feel Like No One Cares


If you feel lost and unwanted – like no one cares about you – hang on. I understand what it’s like to be abandoned, rejected, and alone. When you feel like no one cares, you don’t see the point in life. You don’t necessarily want to end your life…you just want the feeling of being alone to go away.

One of the most important things to remember when you feel like nobody in the world cares about you is that you are not alone. And, feeling alone is a natural – and even healthy – part of being human.

Below are seven things to remember when you feel like no one cares about you. You, me, we all were created with a longing in our hearts – a yearning for deep connection, true meaning, and sincere love in our lives. The feeling that something is missing and nobody cares is a simply part of being a healthy human being. Everyone feels this way at some point in their lives. It hurts, it sucks, I hate it…but it’s part of being alive.





Some of us feel like alone and like nobody cares most of the time – and this is partly what depression feels like (depending on the cause of the depressed feelings).

Your “lost and alone” feelings are actually a good thing, believe it or not! It means you’re in touch with your authentic self. You’re alive and real, self-aware and insightful. You’re not stuffing your feelings down or hiding behind walls. You’re actually allowing yourself to be real. It hurts, but being real is the best way to live.

I know it hurts, because I’ve felt the stinging pain of rejection and the lonely ache of abandonment. I can’t change how you feel – nobody can – but I will give you seven things to remember when you feel deeply lonely and alone.

7 Things to Remember When You Feel Like No One Cares About You

“My husband passed away five months ago and we have three kids,” says Christie on How to Adjust to Being Alone. “One is in second year of college and the two are in junior high school. It’s different talking to my kids rather than my husband. He had a lot of things to share with me, he was a very informative person and knew alot about business, general events, politics and new technology. Now I feel very lonely and sad. We used to talk before bed, share laughter and discussion.”

She adds that she doesn’t know how to move on without thinking about him all the time. “I am still crying but I’m hoping I will be back to normal life again,” she says.

1. You won’t always feel this alone and unloved

If you’re feeling unwanted and lonely because you lost someone you love, then you need to create a new “normal life” for yourself.

Feel Like No One Cares About YouIf you’re depressed because of a breakup, then you need to rebuild a new life that is more fulfilling and interesting than the one you left behind. If you’re devastated because you were rejected and you really do believe no one cares about you, then you need to take a deep breath and remind yourself of what is true, good, and pure.

This is work only you can do. What was your old life like? It’s time to let it go. What will the new normal in your life be? You can do this – you can recreate your life. And it may be even brighter and more beautiful than you can imagine.

2. You matter more than you know – so don’t believe the lies

Last night I was at a friend’s for dinner, and I told her that I want to move to a new city. Vancouver is beautiful, but it’s crowded and expensive and busy. I want to live more simply and quietly. My friend told me that I don’t know how much I’ll be missed by my friends and community here. I waved her away, saying that I actually haven’t connected with many people at all. She disagreed. She said I really don’t have a clue about how much I matter.

It’s the same for you: you matter more than you think. Maybe right now you feel unwanted and like no one cares about you, but deep down you know that there is at least one person in the world who cares about you!

Don’t believe the lies you hear that you’re not good enough, lovable, or valuable. Instead, believe in the love of God who created you and loves you more than you’ll ever know. When you feel like no one cares, simply look up. Take a deep breath. Open your heart and spirit to receive the love, power, and grace of Jesus. He is here right now, and He has never left you. Nor will He ever leave you! Soak up God’s love, for it is deep, eternal, and constantly available to you.

3. You’re feeling alone for a reason

The reason you’re struggling with feeling unwanted is because you’re actually tuning in to how you really think and feel. This is painful – but it is the best way to live! It’s the path to God, and to true fulfillment.

When you tell yourself “no one cares about me”, you’re being brave and strong enough to face your true feelings. Do you know how rare this is? Most of us distract ourselves from feeling unwanted and alone by surfing the internet, spending money, making money, doing drugs, seeking adrenalin rushes. Some of us don’t notice our feelings of being lonely because we’re caught up in our families, parenting, jobs, responsibilities, and relationships. But eventually the distraction is taken away, such as with a breakup or death of a loved one, which I talk about in Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken.

4. You are close to the truth – and your truest, deepest, most real self

I love that you’re here! You searched the internet because you feel like no one cares. You were drawn to the idea that “Nobody Cares About Me” because you need to reach out – and you’re honest about how you feel. This is good, even though it may not feel great right now.

Something is calling you. Do you perceive it? You are feeling unwanted and you are acting on those feelings because you have a purpose on this earth. You were put here for a reason, and these feelings that no one cares will help you find your purpose. This is happening for a reason. You found “She Blossoms” for a reason. This isn’t just about feeling unwanted and like no one cares about you…this is part of a deeper, more important calling on your life.



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Your job is to keep listening for that still small voice. To do that, you need to take time alone. “The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. Because only then does one feel that all is as it should be.” – Anne Frank.

5. You will get through this and be happy again!

It’s lonely and sad to feel like no one cares about you. It hurts.

feel like no one cares about meEven though I’m an optimist and I always look on the bright side without even trying, I know what it feels like to be alone in this world. It’s a gray, empty, sad feeling. I’m almost always happy, but even I have to admit that it’s terrible to feel unwanted, lost, and alone. I know how it feels: I spent my childhood moving in and out of foster homes. My mom is schizophrenic, my sister doesn’t want to have anything to do with me, and my dad lives in Israel. I didn’t even meet him until I was 27 years old.

Even Happy Positive Cheerful Energetic Me knows that these feelings are heavy, gray, and suffocating. One of the best ways to cope when you feel like no one cares is to remember that these feelings will pass. You will keep going even though you want to give up, and you will feel happy again.

6. You’ll feel better if you write about how you feel

Better out than in, is what I always say! Don’t suppress your feelings. It’s not fair – and it’s devastating – that you have to cope with the shadowy side of being human.

But you will make it worse if keep your emotions bottled up. Don’t swallow your feelings of being unwanted. Don’t hide the truth. Be honest with someone you trust when you feel like no one cares. And, LISTEN to the response you get. I bet you’ll hear people say they know how you feel, they feel the same way…and they love you.

But, don’t expect people to fill the hole in your heart and soul. Only God – through the love of Jesus – can do that. He created you, and He knows what you need. Nothing and no one else can care about you the way God does. Not relationships, parents, partners, food, sex, shopping, drugs, Facebook, or even Blossom newsletters can replace what only God can give you.

7. You can gain strength from an ancient source of wisdom

On 10 Ways to Figure Out What to Do With Your Life, I shared in the comments section that when I feel unwanted and like no one cares about me, I turn to Ecclesiastes in the Bible. There’s something comforting in the wise writer’s words, even though they’re full of pain and loneliness! Maybe that’s why it helps me. The writer – King Solomon – shares how meaningless life is, how lonely, sad, and alone he feels. He says nothing makes him happy, not money or wine or even wisdom. He ends by saying that the only solution is to fear God and obey His commandments.

Why that makes me feel better, I don’t know…I guess it’s because it helps me see that we’re all suffering, we all go through bouts of loneliness and meaninglessness…even people who lived more than 2,000 years felt the lostness and unhappiness we feel. It’s just part of being alive.

Let Go of the Past

I Feel Like No One CaresI wrote How to Let Go of Someone You Love: Powerful Secrets and Practical for Healing Your Heart to help readers cope with a breakup, divorce, or other loss of a loved one.

If you feel like no one cares about you, you may be holding on to a love that’s over. The pain of breaking up affects every part of your life: your daily routine, work, family relationships, friends, hopes and dreams for your future, and even your financial plans.

It’s time to let go of your belief that nobody cares about you, and that you’ll always be alone. It’s time to pick up the handle of faith, hope, and healing…and to start moving forward into a beautiful new season of your life.

Find God in the Waves

When You Feel Like No One CaresIn Finding God in the Waves- How I Lost My Faith and Found It Again Through Science, Mike McHargue describes the pain of unraveling belief. He tells the story of how his Evangelical faith dissolved into atheism when he studied the Bible.

His crisis of faith threatened his identity, his friendships, and even his marriage. Years later, Mike was standing on the shores of the Pacific Ocean when a bewildering, seemingly mystical moment motivated him to take another look. But this time, it wasn’t theology or scripture that led him back to God—it was science.

 

Write about how unwanted and alone you feel – you may find yourself feeling lighter and less lonely. Write about how it feels like nobody cares, here in the comments section or in your private journal. If you’re not into journaling, you might write a poem, draw a picture, create a collage, paint a wall. Share your thoughts. See what happens.

I encourage you to respond to other readers’ comments below if you feel led, and to share your experience. Writing often brings clarity and insight, and can help you cope with your feelings.



Your thoughts are welcome below! I don't give advice, but you can get free relationship help from marriage coach Mort Fertel.


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91 thoughts on “What to Remember When You Feel Like No One Cares

  • Joanne

    Alone, unwanted & no one cares, I have felt like this for a long time and drowned my feelings with binge drinking. Temporary online connections kept me distracted, I always pretend to be fine & happy in hopes to run into someone that would truly care, Every time I think I found that special one, turns out they just talked to me for the wrong reasons. There is no one I can talk to at all, no friends or family members anywhere near me, at work there’s just small talk which doesn’t help much. I am a good caring person, but seem to always care about the wrong ones, those that will take advantage of you. I’m scared to open up to anyone which makes things worse. It’s good to see that I’m not the only one that feels alone and unwanted, I am not sure on what to do, keep trying or just leave everyone alone ….

    • sarah

      It’s so hard isn’t it, everyone you find is doing so well and has loads of friends and busy lives,there are so many lonely people but you can’t seem to find them and feel a burden of just stupid trying to explain your silly problems…

  • Debbie F

    I feel alone on my days off even though I look forward to them. Both my cats passed away recently and I miss them so much. My spare time was spent cuddling with them, just being with them and the love we had.

    • Joanne

      Hi Debbie, once the time is right, go to your local shelter & save a life, I know your special new furry friend is already waiting for you.

  • Lashon Hayes

    Thank you I really needed to read this…everything you said was true… I need too get my self togather with my heavely father…. And pray more and find me a good church home…Thank you again for these encouraging words… Sincerely Lashon in California…

  • Phil

    I have felt like this for 20 years . 55 year old gay man, my partner died, my family has passed away. 20 years of dying relatives. MY siblings all gone, brothers died of cancer, sister of heart failure. Partner of leukemia. Nobody left and then unemployed. Life wasnt supposed to be this hard. Oh and I am an athiest too .

      • Barbara Smith

        Believing in yourself is a good idea.

        Have you heard of mirror work? You look in the mirror in the mornings and say I love you I love you I really love you many times. It may seem a bit silly but it works. The idea comes from Louise hay. I have found it helpful. Try to do it every morning.

  • Barbara Smith

    Point 7

    I think you feel better because you have got something to hold onto, a sort of guide. Reading the Ten Commandments and giving you a code to live by, regardless of what others are doing, should give a sense of stability and direction. Remember also to do as you would be done by.

  • Laurie Post author

    Thank you for being here – my heart is warmed by your willingness to open up and share how you’re feeling. It can be hard to be honest, and it takes strength to express how lonely life can get.

    You aren’t alone, and this season of your life will pass. You won’t always feel like no one cares about you…and you will start to feel the life, light, and joy of being alive again! You’ll forgive if you need to, let go of what’s holding you back, and move forward in ways you don’t think are possible now.

    What gets you through these bouts of feeling unwanted and alone? I find my faith – more importantly my relationship with God – to be the only way to survive life. If I didn’t have Jesus, I’d have an empty, meaningless life. I’m just so grateful to Him for His presence and faithfulness to me, for His love and grace, for His joy and freedom!

    If you haven’t met Jesus, take time to explore who He is. Don’t rely on people, possessions, or places to fill the emptiness. Nobody could ever care about you like Jesus does. That hole in your heart is made by God, and it can only be filled by God.

    How do you feel, what do you think? I welcome all your thoughts here – big, little, critical, supportive, agreeing, disagreeing – however you feel, you are welcome to share here.

    With the love of Jesus,
    Laurie

  • Jo Brinson

    Is this real or made up? I feel so pessimistic…..so lonely…….so overwhelmed…….I hate these bouts of loneliness and worthlessness…….BUT your 7 things to remember has helped me see some light…..THANK YOU for that……I am going to copy this and put it in my journal for future use.

  • Derek

    I have previously commented in this section before.
    My Wife and I are in the middle of a Divorce. We sold our home, & have approximately $90,000 in equity. Even knowing that (Me) her Husband of 15 years, the Father of our Son, is about to be homeless (Me). She and her divorce attorney utterly refuse to budge, or negotiate one iota on giving me any small percentage of my part of the equity to prevent me from living on the streets, or a homeless shelter! She is a Lady who always prided herself on being a Baptist Christian!
    Her actions have to be the most unGodly, & unchristian things I have ever seen!
    I know now that no one, I mean no one truly cares!

    • Mandy

      Hi Derek,

      Wow. Sorry you are going through that. I don’t know your wife or your situation, but I know anger makes people do and act in ways they probably wouldn’t normally act like. Still, I hope and pray things will work out for you. Just wanted to let you know that I will pray for you. I know we don’t know each other, but I hope you are able to get support from someone you’re close to, maybe friends or family? Believe me when I say I’ve been in situations where I’ve felt totally alone myself. If I didn’t have my faith, I don’t know what I would have done. God bless you and help you. I know you may not want to hear that right now, but I hope it helps you a little at least.

      • Derek

        Thank you Mandy. It isn’t like I’m unskilled to obtain a job. I am an Cardiovascular ICU RN, with a BSN, & over 23 years years of experience. She made statements about me, & now I cannot even get a job at Best Buy.
        I have asked myself and the Lord, how and why someone who was supposed to be my True Love, Wife and best friend, could do this to me!
        I have no answers! I cannot and will not be homeless..

      • Derek

        I am a Christian, but I also firmly believe in Karma. You will get back what you have put out to others, be it good or bad! My Wifes karma will not come from me, & I may not be around to see when it happens, but it will happen.

    • Stephy

      Hi Derek,

      My heart goes out to you. I can only imagine the deep pain you feel. I’m not married but I lost a dear friend who I loved. His girlfriend but now wife joined in persecuting me so much that I lost my group of friends. I never saw that coming one bit. I’ve prayed for understanding and realize that his wife really had ill feelings towards me.
      I guess what I’m saying is that pain is pain. And I too will not join in tearing him and his wife down. I hope and pray you will find miracles that you seek. Your ex may not think you matter but God knows you matter so much.

    • Barbara Smith

      Dear Derek,

      Get yourself some good legal advice. I don’t know how things work in the US but in the UK all assets are usually shared. Also a court will usually give you visiting rights to your son.

      So get yourself centred, rebalance emotionally and make sure you understand your rights. Accept your wife s behaving badly for whatever reason but stay calm.

      Don’t accept what her attorney tells you, get your own advice. Xx

  • stephanie

    Thank you for your words, I come from a cruel upbringing. I am relieved to here you speak of sharing our pain is necessary for healing. Honestly elementary schools should implements classes on the subject . I believe that we are in need of metamorphosis and it hurts.

  • Laurie Post author

    Thank you for being here, for having the courage and strength it takes to be authentic. You are sharing what it feels like when no one cares about you, and that takes a brave soul! You really are stronger, wiser, and more valuable than you think you are.

    The reason that an article like this can only help a little bit is because of God. The only way to really feel like somebody cares about you – to feel loved and valuable and cherished – is to accept that love from the God who created you. He loves you so much, He sent his son to die for you. The only way to truly feel worthy and cared for is to accept Jesus into your heart as your Savior, and to build a personal relationship with God. Honestly, that is the only way to feel grounded and tethered at the same time.

    Take time to explore the Roar of Something Greater. Get to know God, learn why He created you and what your purpose is. You will find more hope, joy, and meaning in your life by spending five minutes with God then you will with all the people in the world.

    What do you think?

    Blessings,

    Laurie

    • Mandy

      Hi Laurie. You’re absolutely right about getting to know God. If I didn’t have a relationship with Him through Jesus, I honestly don’t know what I would have done in some of the lonely situations I’ve been in. He keeps me grounded as well. He makes me feel like no matter how rough things get, He is always there to lend me His hand and keep me going, especially on the days when I feel like giving up. I read the Bible or even a few of my favorite verses, and they give me comfort. 🙂 One of my favs:

      “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and through the rivers, they shall not overflow you. When you walk through the fire, you shall not be burned, nor shall the flame scorch you.” -Isaiah 43:2 It makes me smile whenever I read this and gives me a sense of hope. I also know I’m never truly alone when God’s by my side. 🤗✝️❤️

  • SoloDolo

    I know my family loves me but I know beyond that no one else cares. I’m in grad school and I have a few associates and I’m trying to reach out to eventually become real friends with them but it’s hard and I don’t want to come off as clingy so I tend to take a more relaxed approach towards people. I am grateful that I have a family that loves me but I an longing for a real friendship or even a relationship that I can have with someone to just talk about life in general with. I guess I just long for a real emotional connection with someone. I’m 27 and I feel like if I don’t act fast and find a way to make friends then I’ll be alone for the rest of my life. It’s crazy to me that all my life I have wanted real friends and relationships but I have never been able to actually achieve or maintain it. I feel like there’s something wrong with me that the rest of the world can see and no one will tell me what it is so I can fix it. I’m not suicidal, I just know that if I died today it wouldn’t have much of an impact on anyone besides family and it saddens me. All I can do is keep being positive and trying to establish connections with people and just pray that one day I’ll wake up and see the life I always dreamed of in front of me.

  • Michael

    I’m so broken and alone my entire family has died all at very young ages , I have an older and younger sister , both have there own life’s my ex of 5 years cheated multiple times with several others and eventually leaving me for the last one she cheated on me with . leaving me completely alone . I fell so in love with her that it devastated me . now I’m completely alone and any friends I had hated her and now won’t talk to me. This article helped a little but I can’t help but to feel hated by all . I feel like giving up , I was stupid to think someone could love a mess like me . I must deserve this 🙁 . I feel like a loser.

    • Sanelisiwe Vundla

      Hi Michael

      I know this might not be the answer you’re looking for. But I’m here just to say you are No loser!! Yes it hurts, but you can’t take blame for other people’s decisions. The best thing you can ever do right now is look at yourself in the mirror get in touch with your soul by talking to yourslef. God loves and only he is able to make us content.

      Hope you heal soon:-) 🙂

  • HENRY UCHECHUKWU

    been the only child that looks so different n not hadsome made my mum hated me wit strong passion including all of my siblings pretending to d world that i was loved but only my dad showd me luv both in secreet n d open sincerly nw a lady i found recently captivted me wit so much care n affection has just left hating me wit greater passion dan my family did t hereby makin me feel so terible about my self but i do belivell

  • sally

    This article was helpful. I’ve been feeling really lonely. And I know I am blessed with three loving dogs. They are great. But the truth is I feel like I’m not very well liked at work by most of the co-workers. And after reading this article, I think its really more me than them. And how I’ve been feeling is normal. And it will pass. Thanks.

  • Laurie Post author

    Mandy, thank you for your kind thoughts! It really is comforting to hear from a fellow believer, especially when it feels like nobody cares. I can’t wait to check out your blog!
    Blessings,
    Laurie

    • Mandy

      Thank you for replying to my post, Laurie. I pray you have been well and have been feeling God’s loving care through friends and family and in all the different ways God speaks to us. I truly feel we should show our love and support for each other and for our loving Creator as well. I also want to thank you for reading my blog. Blessings and peace!

  • Laurie Post author

    I used to struggle with those feelings of loneliness all the time….like an empty feeling, that nothing could fill. Not even friends, family, or my husband! I called it existential angst.

    Weirdly, the only thing that helped me through the feeling that nobody cared about me was Ecclesiastes. It’s an Old Testament book of the Bible that talks about how everything is meaningless, a chasing after the wind. We all live for a brief moment, then die, and what’s the point?

    Reading Ecclesiastes ALWAYS makes me feel better, because it helps me remember that I’m not as alone as I think I am. And maybe no one cares about me because I’m not making an effort to care about anyone else.

    What makes you feel better? Happy, peaceful? Keep searching for those things and people – don’t give up! And maybe consider looking upwards, to the God who created you and loves you deeply…maybe He’s calling you in these moments of loneliness….

    • Mandy

      Hello Laurie,

      I am currently doing research about how to make the characters in my first book pop off the page, and I came across She Blossoms earlier. You not only answered my questions about how to go about writing my first book, but I know 100% that God led me to your blog. He truly does work in mysterious ways. I am grateful to have found your blog and have read a few of your posts already plus subscribed to your e-mail messages. I really appreciate all you have to say and can feel how much you want to encourage and uplift people. Thank you so much for this. 😊

      I also wanted to add that I completely get what you said about there being times we feel unwanted or alone. I’ve also felt the same way Solomon did in Ecclesiastes where I needed answers about my purpose in being here. I believe God was kind enough to answer my prayer, and I wrote about it too. I think sometimes we all need the reassurance you wrote about that it’s normal to feel alone at times, and when we do it’s not the end of the world. Thanks again for the encouragement, and I hope you have a wonderfully blessed day.

    • Derek

      I completely understand! I’ve asked myself, “if I were to die in my sleep, would anyone call to check on me? Would anyone miss me?” My answer was a resounding NO!!!

    • sally

      I hesitated after reading what you wrote. I hope you feel better by now. I have been feeling pretty low myself but after reading some other people’s feelings, I realize I am not alone and these feelings will pass.

    • elizaN

      me too, sure a few would cry for a day or two…. maybe remember me occassionally, but really….. I reach and reach and then I hold back, and then I reach and reach again wanting someone to reach back… but no one does not unless I force them to do so by telling them how sad I am. My own kids are too busy for me, they just roll their eyes. I am so done with taking a back seat to everything in everyone’s life. I’ve tried to force things, let nature takes it course, ignore it, but it’s always there.

      • Mandy

        Hi elizaN,

        I’m so sorry you have been treated that way. You deserve better than that. I can relate too. It’s so hard for me to open up and let people know I need attention or their support as it is, so when I finally do get up the nerve to, I often feel disappointed, unfortunately. In today’s world of technology, it seems as though people are so clueless as to how to reach out and just be freakin’ human beings anymore. It’s so frustrating. I think technology is both wonderful and a curse. People shouldn’t have to beg for love from people who should be gladly giving it to them anyway.

        I don’t know what your religious beliefs are, but on days I feel especially alone, I reach out to my Father in heaven Who has never disappointed or ignored my needs. Sometimes, I feel like He’s all I really have in this world, and I’ve often cried tears of anguish, frustration and hurt out to Him. I love that He doesn’t judge me for it. Don’t get me wrong, there are still days that surprise me and show their true beauty, days that nobody can tarnish no matter what they do or say to me. It’s for these days that I wait and know there really is more to this life besides disappointment and pain. I know sometimes hope can seem far away, but it always remains in the Lord and in people who know what you’re going through and will listen. I will listen if you ever want to send a message my way. I know we’re strangers, but we can still be friends if you want to. God bless you.

  • Brianna

    I feel selfish because I’m sort of seeking attention, but none of my friends have contacted me all summer and I know they aren’t busy with their Instagram posts saying “I’m bored”. I don’t know what to do I feel like no one remembers or cares about me, even my own parents are to swept up in other business that they haven’t really talked to me. Am I being selfish?

    • Mandy

      Hi Brianna,

      I don’t feel like you’re being selfish. It’s normal for people to want some attention from their friends or loved ones. I think sometimes it is hard to express how we feel about the lack of attention because we expect our loved ones to understand what we need from them instinctively. When we have to ask them for it, it may feel like the attention they give in return isn’t as genuine, but in reality I don’t think they mean to be busy or ignore us.

      People can be self-absorbed sometimes, but I think mainly they just don’t stop and think about how much their time is valued by others, like how you value your family and friends’ time. But, it doesn’t mean they don’t care. In reality, they probably don’t even realize how you’ve been feeling unless you’ve told them directly. Maybe you could ask one of your friends or parents to go to a movie or do something fun? Then, they’d definitely know you’d like to hang out and do something specifically with them. It could also help you open up the conversation for you to tell them how much you love spending time together and would like to do it more often. 😊

      I hope this helps. God bless!

  • Leslie

    These tips are not helpful and don’t truly reflect how someone alone feels. I wish someone who has been in this position would give tips

    • Mandy

      Hi Leslie,
      I understand how it feels to think nobody really cares and to feel alone sometimes. I have bipolar disorder and have gone through depression multiple times. I don’t know what your situation is, but what has helped me personally is counseling, writing in a journal (very helpful), praying (talking to God helps me a lot), watching or reading uplifting or inspirational things, laughing at funny stuff (Pinterest memes), and lately I have really been interested in Mindfulness. My counselor recommended it for reducing stress, anxiety and irritability and feeling better overall.

      I do want to say that the times I’ve felt the most alone are the ones where I couldn’t see a purpose for my life or what makes me special as an individual. But, once I started to think about what I’m really passionate about, what makes me tick, that’s what made me start to come out of the depression I was in at that time. Human beings were created for a purpose, and I truly believe that once we start to discover what that is, we start to feel less alone because we discover what we personally have to offer this world.

      Helping others is another way to really take the focus off feeling so alone. This is my own experience. Believe me when I say I know how difficult it is to feel alone and feel like there are no answers forthcoming, but they are there though. Sometimes, we just can’t see them right away because of the pain in front of us. Holding on to something (Someone) who is so much greater than myself and knowing hope exists even on the worst days is honestly all I had in some of the toughest times. But, I’m still here hoping and believing in better things! 😇

      Just to let you know, I am the type of person who rarely opens up to people, even the ones closest to me. I find it difficult to trust and have always had a hard time sharing my issues. But, I am at a point in my life where I realize how unhealthy this is and know deep inside that unless I allow myself to be at least somewhat vulnerable, I will never truly grow as a person. That’s why I was interested in She Blossoms honesly. I truly hope and pray you are able to find healing too. God bless you.✝

    • Barbara

      Tip 1.
      Reach out and ask someone to join you for a coffee in a cafe. If they politely decline, ask someone else. Don’t take it as a personal rejection, they may just be busy. Ask 3 people separately.

      Tip 2.
      Do some charity work/volunteering once a week. Give instead of waiting for someone to give to you.

      Tip 3.
      Try 7 cups of tea website. There is always someone there to chat online.

      Tip 4.
      I have found there are always 3 things you can do about any situation. You might not think so but it’s true. Write them down, do them and and you will start pulling yourself out of your situation.

      In a nutshell, take some action. You will feel better and maybe make some new friends.

  • Riken

    If I can just say something:
    Everyone here has listed their problems, which may very well be horrible. But the thing is we all have our own problems and sometimes getting so caught up in feeling sorry for ourselves for these problems is the reason that we close ourselves off from the world. Maybe we should try giving the world a chance by taking it on with open hearts and open arms. Maybe just give it one more shot and see where it takes us. Who knows maybe we’ll find the companionship we all long for. But if not, remember, we always have ourselves to give company. And trust me, no one can be your friend better than yourself.

  • Derek

    I know no one cares for me! My Wife has filed for divorce after 15 years & she is one year out of Chemo fir breast cancer where I took care of her for months!
    Two days after she told me she wanted a divorce, she made a false allegations to the Police. I am 49 y.o., I have 2 speeding tickets in my life. I was arrested without question from just her verbal statement.
    Since then, I have lost my job of 22 years at a local Hospital where I’ve worked as a RN. Literally all of my friends at work took her word as well, & turned their backs to me! Because of her false allegations, & the arrest. I am having trouble finding gainful employment as a RN. I am paying everything with CC’s, a divorce Atty. & a Criminal Atty. I also am having to pay Child support, & for half of our home payment that I cannot even go to! I have not seen my Son since late February of ’17. I cannot see, text or talk to him! My ENTIRE LIFE has gone beyond devastated! The only Family I had were my Wife and Son! Believe me when I say, suicide would be preferable to my existence!

    • Eleonor

      Derek,

      but You’re STILL LIVING! So, I suppose that is happening for a reason. And usually only for a GOOD reason. I suppose You just have to be as patient as You are and wait for it to find out. God never sends us such challenges that we could not handle. You’ ll see. Don’t give just yet. You’ll see.

      Stay strong and peace to You.

      • Eleonor

        And all in all, everybody,
        i do believe, that even all these comments are a already a sign, that You are not alone and that You DO EXIST and You’re not an empty spot. I suppose that You all do believe that You are worth more than this…than these daily feelings that You’re experiencing all the time. I pray that we will all eventually REALISE that the happiness is INSIDE us, because we are all happy AS MUCH AS WE ALLOW OURSELVES. We just need to step the first steps to make our daily lives change, to find new opportunities, new better places for our lives. I still believe the banal truth, that there is always a purpose for every individual. And that we only need to start finally searching for it, by acting.

        With true love,
        best wishes.

      • Derek

        Thank you Elonor! I wouldn’t really call what I am doing as living. I am just barely existing! Every day I hope & pray for some good to happen, but every day it just gets a little worse. I will be faced with a big crossroad & decision very soon! What will I do when my Credit cards run out? Will I be homeless and no employment??
        Stupid me! I keep praying my Wife will change her mind, & stop all of this nonsense! It’s a foolish thought, I know!

    • Eleonor

      Derek,

      I’m sorry for admitting it, but yes – it is quite a foolish thought to expect that Your wife will change her mind. She started all this, and perhaps there was a reason for her to do this (I don’t mean anything that is related to You personally, maybe she has her own plan and needed a pretext or something (I’m just innocently guessing, I can’t judge anyone especially without knowing the truth, but it’s not the matter now). I think, that right now the best solution might be for You not to expect something from her for things to change, but perhaps the only thing that is left for You right now is to do |Your best and struggle to make at least minor changes in Your recent daily life. Therefore, You might even prove to Yourself that YOU are still capable to manage and pull it through without being depended on someone else.
      Stay strong and try to find as much positive reasons for You to fight as possible. WE ALL HAVE A PURPOSE in our life periods. Perhaps, this is one of them for You.

      Best wishes

      • Derek

        Eleonor, I thank you for your blatant honesty. It is very difficult for me to continue forward, knowing that the only Family I have (Wife & Son) are not in my everyday life. I try to live with Biblical principles in my heart, with that I know I cannot remarry, nor can I ever be with another woman. I am trying to trust the Lord that whatever he is doing, is best for my Wife. My Son, and myself. Their happiness, with or without me is more important than my own!

      • Eleonor

        I understand that, Derek. I truly understand that You are more considered of your family’s wealth-being than your own and this is normal and commendable. You are a good man for having these unselfish feelings. I do encourage and support Your choice of living with Biblical principles, it is important that it helps You to go on and not to loose faith and hope. And You know what, maybe this could be even called as one of Your purposes of life. To keep this faith vital and share it (at least in Your thoughts) with the ones You care about.
        Just stay strong.
        God always treats us for believing in his fairness, especially no matter what happens.

    • April

      This happened to me, too. My husband filed a CPO against me and I was served by a sheriff at work. My husband claimed he feared for his life because I pushed him on the night I found out he had been having an affair. I weigh 110 and he is a 165lb black belt. It was ridiculous. I couldn’t see my kids for a week and had to live in my car. I don’t know your story, but I wish the best for you. I hope everything turns out OK. Someone has to put an end to these ex-parte orders that judges grant and ruin others’ lives.

      • Derek

        I am 100% with you April!! Your Husband and my Wife did what they did to gain an upper hand in the divorce, & it worked out to their benefit!! It’s simply amazing what people will do unexpectedly to others they allegedly loved!!

  • Victoria

    I feel like no one care, ever. Like I’m not good enough or worth it. Am I crazy Am I weird am I not attractive enough. I’m so tired of feeling this way…almost all my life already. What do I need to change I’ve tried already but I keep feeling worse and getting older. I’m scared to keep on living life, so alone and unwanted or loved. Please God help me Help us all.

  • Jackie

    I am so unhappy! I’m 47 married with 3 kids 19, 17, 16 but yet I feel so alone. I dedicated so much of my life to my family until I’ve lost me. My mom passed away in 03 but yet it feels like yesterday none of my siblings talk to me and I’m the youngest of 5. My dad remarried and is attending to his new life. My husband is not very helpful whenever I mention anything about how I feel he shrugs it off by saying “i just want everything to be about me”. This is a man who go above and beyond for everyone and everything except his family at home. We had a bad argument today and it was much of the same old, same old. He don’t give a darn about me I just make him look good at the right time. My kids are all grown up and don’t need or pay any attention to me. It seems the only thing anyone wants me to do is give, give, give. But I don’t have nothing left and no one realizes it. I’m not in a good place and haven’t been in a very, very long time.

    • Eleonor

      Hello, Jackie. I read Your message and I am sorry for the situation that Your experiencing. You do seem like a VERY strong woman, I can imagine how hard it is to care for everyone else and “not being able to see the daylight” with all these troubles, chores, worries and etc. I can understand how You’re longing for at least some time for Yourself. Away from everybody that ignores Your feelings. But, I don’t mean to judge and I’m sorry if I’ll sound to straightforward, I really don’t mean to offend in any way. I suppose that You have already answered Yourself what person is making You feel the most empty and who’s appreciation You’re lacking the most. I think You have to start making some changes in the relationship that is making You feel more empty. Relationships are meant to be fulfilling and spiritually educating. But You are just feeling plain and grey inside. This is not pleasant nor healthy in any way. Secondly, maybe You should just consider taking a vacation perhaps only by Yourself, or with the children if it makes you feel all right. But I am advising You to try and find an opportunity to be just with Yourself at least for a short time, just to hear Your own thoughts and feel Your true emotions. And try to think about possible solutions for the concerns that are dragging You down at the moment. You cannot allow to loose Your own self just for others, even for Your children, because You are still going to be the guide of their lives, and You will want to that guide because You will want them to be fully happy and proud of themselves and, not to loose themselves as well, no matter what.
      Do not loose faith, sooner or later everything ALWAYS turns out the way that is best for us.

  • Luisa

    This really helped me a lot. I started my own business and I am feeling unsupported by the team. I am always the one reaching out. I must learn some skills and no one seems to want too teach them too me. They are busy,

  • Anna

    Who am I
    This is not the question,
    I’m not someone to leave you guessing.
    I am but a breath away from the edge of A blade, a bullet, a rope , or a pill as a last hope.
    I’ve been captured, taken off ground, folded, molded into the shape I am now.
    But Who am I?
    They ask,
    Who am I, is the very task.
    I speak out in tongues, so clear as the message hung above. My feet dangle as the wind blows through the window.
    But Who am I?
    The water drips quietly as my mind slips away in agony.
    I’m finally at peace.
    But Who am I ?
    I meet in our special place, no thoughts are racing, left in your grace, I feel a rush of contentment, as You reach the answer.

    I am you.
    I am loneliness.
    I am sadness.
    I am suicide.

    (Written by AD, not suicidel. Just expressing poetic feelings as suggested) may we all heal from our struggles and find peace in this world.

  • Riya

    Hi Iam 21 years my dad passed away wen i was 17 and i live with my mom and elder sister
    My mom is neither interested in me or my sister nor loves us
    She leaves us alone n stays with her sisters
    I cry al the tym i feel so helpless iwas so close to my dad now i have no1 in this world i feel
    My sister has accepted her fate tells me this is how life z
    Ican feel loneliness increasing
    Even today we both r alone
    There z a wine shop beside my house stil idono how can my mom do this to us
    Atlest for our security also she does not care
    Im not understanding what to do

  • Mohanad

    Wow, all this stuff make’s my own problems seem like nothing, and so I should have no reason to feel this way, but it happens anyway. I have a really nice family and good friends (never had a girlfriend – I’m always shy or awkward when talking to them). However, my friends are only semi-close. I have no close friends, I rarely get a chance to visit my current friends, and I never had a sleepover in my life.This isn’t what I have a problem with, though. Every SINGLE TIME I need help from any of them, every single one of them bails out on me, with the most bs of excuses. Even my family does that! When I try to talk to them about my problems, they listen, but they just think I’m whining up a storm, and they don’t try to solve it (they don’t say that to my face, though). I’m usually an optimistic person that likes to help others, but when this happens, I get a sense of emptiness combined with increasing hatred to the way society has become, and so I look up things like “why did the world become like this” or “what to do when no one cares about your problems”, hoping to find some magical solution, and so I ended up here.

    Sorry if this doesn’t fit in the category of “real problems”, but I really hate this. Also, my religion (islam) makes me feel better, but I’m lazy and I procrastinate the point where I could go to hell because of not praying when I should. Procrastination and laziness are another topic, though, so you don’t need to help me with that.

  • sharon

    Man I can relate to these stories..Well I never had friends ,,I spent a lot of times with my parents . I have 4 grown children now my daughter doesbt like me so i have no relatiinship with her she turn out bad ,she cause so much trouble growing up ,i have 3 sons and the 2 oldest they call and the youngest i see .but the problem is i have no one but my husband and he doesn’t understand family ..my sister isnt right she is a pathological liar and she is terrible my parents move to California to be closer to my oldest brother and he has no time for them there in there 80 i miss my mom …and dad vut they left here .i found out 6 years ago i had colon cancer ..I have since been in remissiin after chemo but i have no one ..I cry so hard for friends and family but it hurts ,i love ppl and i try to be to everyone ..I feel depressed..I have a therapist..Im scared for my life ..Im so lonely ..My husband has depression and health problems ..Im scared because i feel i will die alone without family he is all i got ..Why dont ppl like me or care i dont bother no one at all ..I wish my daughter care so we can do gurl things but she dont ..Im by myself every day ..I pray that everyone on this forum find strength and love ..God plz rain down on us ..we need you i need u

    • Mohanad

      I’m just going to say this simply. You are not useless. In fact, you are very useful. You may have failed in some or many things before, but I assure you, good things will come. I have reached the point of hating life before, but I always held on to the hope that things will improve. And it has! It’s not a matter of luck, either. I remember somewhere in the quran, I read that with anything bad, something good comes after it (even if you don’t believe in what the quran says, it’s still true). Hang in there, and never, EVER lose hope!

  • sam

    Hello,Hi 🙂 Here,s my story..Advice please..I just had my second child 3 months ago and my first daughter just turned 18, I am the independent woman,not really my style to ask for money and help from anyone, but I feel alone and like nobody cares. i was unfairly dismissed at 5 and half months pregnant..still have no clue why I was informed to…EXPLORE other options in the area…I’m so heart broken about the situation and feel like I should get out now..but he won’t leave..I feel so alone as I don’t have anyone to talk to. My boyfriend’s favourite word is…I can’t do it! (and Trust me..wont even try, looking at a situation both ways…it’s so frustrating Advice…please..
    From: Highly Steel rested out mother

  • Laurie Post author

    I’m glad you’re here, and that you shared your feelings with me. I hear you, I hear how alone and unwanted you feel. I hear loneliness and sadness in your voice, despair and anxiety.

    I wish I had miraculous words that could make you feel less alone! But all I can do is tell you how I cope when I feel unwanted and like no one cares about me….I turn to the most lonely book in Scripture! I read about how life is meaningless, we all die alone, and everything we worked so hard for is lost. Life is short, like a vapor vanishing in a wisp of wind.

    For some reason, reading about the loneliness and meaninglessness of life in the book of Ecclesiastes in the Bible is what helps me feel not so alone!

    Probably because that book shows me that even thousands of years ago, the richest and wisest Teacher felt alone and lonely. They struggled to find the meaning of live, to feel wanted and like somebody cared about them…but they found nothing. No one.

    The truth is that you are not alone. You may feel alone and unwanted, but you’re never alone if you open your heart to the healing divine love of God. He is always there, waiting for you to open your heart and spirit, and humbly accept His grace and love. The comfort, strength, and energy that God offers is the only way to find hope and love in life.

    God works through people. We were created to be friends and companions, to journey through life together. If you feel unwanted and like no one cares, it’s because you haven’t found the right people to be with.

    Who have you connected with in the past? Is there any way you can reach out to them today?

    What makes you feel better when you feel low, down, and depressed?

  • minsha edwards

    hello, i am feeling lonely and hated unwanted right now and every other day, when i go to partys im the introvert that cant muster up the right thing to say to anybody and that leaves a stain on my reputation like im retarded i dont know how to talk to people but thats not the truth i use to be outgoing and feel like everything was going my way until a breakup and now i cant trust anyone and closed myself off from the world and cant seem to reenter the normal stratosphere of reality like im stuck in limbo i know im not this person but my uncontrollable anxeity keeps me from saying the things i want to doing the things i want to being the person i am that everybody loves but since ive closed myself off from a toxic realationship that made me feel worthless i cant seem to ever get back to the optimistic veiws i thought i once had about humanity and soceity and all its done is made me completly lonely and i dont even try anymore ive given up on life and i know this isnt who i am but im not sure who i am anymore im not sure if ill get a response or anything its just feeling like one of those days when evrybody hates me and making friends or future friends feels impossible im not sure if theres much advice you could give ….. by the way im a 20 year old male.

    • Terry Sabedra

      It just takes time to heal. You’re so young ,
      I wish I was your age again. 57 years old is not fun. I gain the experience and wisdom but I don’t have the youth to enjoy life anymore and people look at you differently specially a woman. 40 hours of a hard-working job wears me out and I just go home and recoup with my animals; they’re very good friends and they need us. My dogs and cat are good therapy I think they’ve made my life better more than friends in human form do anyway. I realize how they just love you unconditionally and always happy to see you as long as we treat them good and take good care of them they’re totally content. This gets my mind off of myself. Remember these wise words a preacher once told me … this too shall pass.

  • Koie

    Hi, I’m so excited that I have come across this article on what to do when it seems like nobody cares about you. I have struggled with anxiety and depression most of my life. I am a 46 year old female, with two beautiful children. I am divorced. My oldest daughter is out on her own and my youngest is a junior in high school. I only have my daughter part time. I am looking forward to responding to some of the emails, and my heart goes out to each and every one of you that feel the way I do. I am working full time during the day. Will return to website in the evening.

  • Ayushi

    Hello people, my name is Ayushi. I am 18 yrs old & I am an Indian. I feel like my friends & my family dont actually need me and I do feel like no one cares. I am the one in my class who mostly gets humiliated by two guys in my class. And both them have personal reasons to hate me. But this makes me feel that am I really worthless.A really good friend of mine dont have time to talk to me, she might have got bored of me or she enjoys the guys’ attention much more than my attention. I dont know but this actually makes me feel sad. And here at my home my parents think that I might not get good grades this year (in a competitive exam). They might do not believe in me. My sister has her own problems with her boyfriend so she dont have time to listen to my problems. One of my cousin is giving the same competitive exam & he is just too good at studies & I know he is gonna score well. My mother does not allows me to wear clothes my choice. My father is actually a duel faced person, i’ve heard him complaining about me at my back but then suddenly his behaviour changes as I entered the room. And he started behaving like he was something very admirable about me. My friends are getting better grades than mine. I am inclined towards a boy but cant trust him because last time I trust a guy I found him betting on me for few bucks. I know this is not a big problem, there are people who are facing much more bigger problems than this but this is making me sad. It makes me feel that I have no one around me. I am all alone. If there is anything then that’s fake, completely fake. And please tell me how to shut those mocking guys.

  • VanillaCupcakes

    I’m a 15 yrs old mixed Asian girl. I’m here crying in my dark bedroom because I feel like nobody cares about me. I’m so confused about some of my friends. They look happy and I don’t think they are like me, who cries on her bed in her dark bedroom. I want to be happy forever.. How do I avoid times like this? (depression) I’m lost here. I don’t know how to achieve my big dreams. My parents don’t actually care really even if you think Asian parents want their kids to get As. They also won’t help me and won’t listen to my problems. I don’t think my parents live like this when they were younger like me.

    I’m so curious. Is there any parents crying like this in his/her teen days? Or is just the 21st century babies problems/habit?? I’m really stressed out because why is everyone successful on their work and on internet? I hate sacrificing my happiness. Actually I have a lot more to say about feeling like no one cares but lets just stop here. Hope you understand.

    Love from me.

    • robert brito

      Dear friend, you are only 15, and while it may seem like things aren’t going your way, it takes time, no one arrives in this world complete, we have to learn about what makes us happy and foster that. The main thing is love yourself and forgive yourself. When a kid learns to walk or ride a bike or even learn to speak, they fall a bunch of times, but it is by making mistakes that we learn, the point is to not give up. If we gave up we would have never learned to walk, ride a bike or even speak! give yourself patience, you are growing and developing, give yourself room for trial and error, crying and sadness, while uncomfortable is part of maturing and at 15 you are still developing, don’t judge your self worth and value by what others are doing or having, you matter most, think about the accomplishments you have made no matter how simple or times that brought you joy, and create joy for yourself, as for parents, they are imperfect for everyone, most don’t have training of any kind on how to be a parent, parents should allow you to be learning and testing out life and know that you are loved and safe to be able to practice life. If your parents aren’t supportive then you must support your own efforts, and be around supportive people, don’t care what others think, what matters most is how you feel and providing good experiences for yourself. You are young and still getting to know yourself, there is hope, there are good things worth living and discovering and for looking forward to. Don’t expect everything to fall in being right away, it all comes in time.

  • Larena

    I’ve been with this Danny for15 yrs, we bought a marriage license but never used it. Our relationship was good why mess it up with a piece of paper. We were happy. Six months ago he was diagnosed with lung cancer, he died the end of December, my father also diagnosed with lung cancer a year before died two weeks after Danny.My world has crumbled. Danny was paid by an estate that was to be givin to his children when he passed. I am so alone now. When I met Danny I had my own yard service, was recently divorced as was he. He and I got to know each other very well. I stopped working and we spent 100% of our time together, he wanted it that way. He was paid by the estate a monthly income, so more or less he was considered retired at the age of 45, I was 38. He had 4 girls living at home my boys had already went off to college. We lost one daughter 4 yrs ago in a school bus accident. The other girls have married and we’ve got 12 grandchildren. The youngest is 19, when she reaches the age of 25 they (3) will split the estate that is worth almost 2 million dollars. When Danny passed so was I you could say. I don’t know what to do, where to go, my dads not even here to help me anymore, I have no income, I can’t stop crying, I’m lost. The estate paid for the funeral and head stone so I was told.and I was told to maybe get a job. Danny and I were in the car going to have a Ct scan done and he started hemmoraging and bleed to death in my car. I was driving 140 mile an hr and he died before I got him to the ER. I miss him so much.

  • Laurie Post author

    Thank you for sharing your experience – it takes a lot of courage to talk about how it feels when it seems like nobody cares about you! It’s truly humbling to be authentic and real, and I admire your ability to show your true self.

    My New Year’s Eve plans got canceled last night, too. We had too much snow and ice, which made the roads treacherous. I love God and believe He loves me…but sometimes it’s nice to have a person to actually talk to who is here in person!

    What are other ways you connect with people? I like to spend a lot of time alone, because I’m introverted. Being around people drains me, so I spend most of my time by myself writing, walking my dogs, or playing my flute. Still, I like to know somebody out there cares about and loves me 🙂

    Was there ever a time in your life that you felt truly cared for, and not so alone?

  • Carolyn

    Thank you for writing this article. i am alone in life. i am not really the cute or likable type. i never have been. I was going to a church gathering to spend with others.They canciled it because someone important had other plans. Very sad. Wrll it was never for me anyway. i just wanted to go.

  • ALICIA

    Thank you for this post. I was a pastor’s wife for 25 yrs. I found out he was having an affair. I tried for a year to make it work. One night we got into an argument. I just went to change into my pjs when I came back into the living room to get my phone he was on the phone with 911. I was siting on the couch texting my pastor as he told them I had a knife and was going to kill him.when the police came I honestly didnt think it would come to anything. When they sepeested ua I just told them like I just wrote. Well,he must have tols them some story. I was arrested and put in maximum securty. I had never had a traffic ticket. Of all the people I had poured my life into I didnt have one visitor in 8 months. The letters I did get even from fellow miniaters were hate one hoping I burned in hell for what I did. It was like in one hour a bomb went off and I lost my home,marrage,church we started and I loved,friendships,my dogs amd everything. When it was time for court I thought it was just him and I in the house I could push for a trial. My charge was felony assult. My lawyer said if I did they would push for attempted murder.I confused as nothing happened by we argued because I caught him on the phone with her and i left the room to go to bed. I asked who he had as witnesses amd he began liating my church people. I thought there was no way I was going to drag my church people into xourt andcause them chaos. So I had to plead guilty to felony assult wjich destroyed my career as a behavioral psycholgist working with troubled kids. So I spent 7 mo. I aolitary. I rwalized to make it ok to marry her,which he did,I had to be the bad guy so he could still minister. I always taught my youth groups that we are like a tube of toothe paste thhen we are squeezed whats really on the inside comes out. When I was mover to general population I emded up leading 24 womam to a relationship with God. I realized Im still who I am even were I was. When I got out I moved to Flint Mi to work in the innercity with my pastor. Its been four yrs. I has losty liscence for psy. Loat my 0 ordination. Due to the felony I just got a place to live. I have multiple sclerosis a camcer. So here I alone except for m service dog. I was pretty much at my end and was thinking of maling an exit.

    • Carolla

      DEAR ALICIA,

      Just want to ask if you are okay. I know you have been through a lot. Was thinking about you and wanted to reach out and let you know that. Life is not always easy or kind, but in the end you know who you are even if others do not acknowledge it . You can look in the mirror and know you do the right thing. Hold on! Find your self a reason. In the end you can make a difference to someone else. When I feel like this, I have a good cry, give myself a big hug and go and help someone else. Someone else is alway worse off than i am . Thank God! Hugs and much love Carolla

    • Natasja

      I can relate so much to you. I was an accountant and recently found out that i was pregnant when i told the father he left me and denied the baby. He was angry that I wont have and abortion he had me arrested on false algation pretty much the same situation as you. I was also place on max security. I was given the option of waiting 9 months for trial or pleading guilty to charges in order to get out of jail. I understand hlw you feel

  • Laurie Post author

    Dear Denise,

    It’s New Year’s Eve…are you spending it alone? I just wanted you to know that I’m thinking about you, praying for you, and wishing you all good things in 2017. Peace, love, joy, safety, and faith that it’s never too late for your life to unfold in beautiful and healthy ways…

    May you overcome those feelings of being unwanted, and may you learn that even when it feels like no one cares…someone out there is thinking about you.

    Take care of yourself.

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Denise

    Thank you for this site. So sad this holiday season. My father was terrible abuser. My mother hid. Only sib is brother who also participated in some. I grew up in Arizona and mother moved brother and me to Michigan after high school. Left friends. I became a nurse, later a psychologist. I didn’t remember what happened until a few years ago, when my mother died. I spent my life taking care of others and coming home so exhausted I had no ability to have a life. I never felt safe in a relationship so now 65 and no children or family. Relatives far away and not close. I don’t want to spend the rest of my life so alone. I help many others, but I have little left for me. On disability now, so financially bad situation.

  • Laurie Post author

    Dear SadAndLonely,

    Thank you for being here – I’m glad to hear from you! You are important to me — and I suspect you are more important than you know to your family. It sounds like they’re taking you for granted, that they just assume you’ll continue to do all those good things for them because that’s what you’ve always done.

    Sometimes we get trapped by our own expectations. I’ve learned in my own life that when I expect people to respond or act in a certain way, then I am often disappointed. But when I let go of my expectations and detach from the outcome…I don’t really care how people respond!

    When you find yourself feeling unwanted and like nobody cares, maybe you could try letting go of your expectations. Don’t expect your husband to do the things you always do…because you always do them. Don’t expect your mom to remember your birthday….because she’s not that type of mother.

    Letting go of your expectations is about grieving what you wish you had. You need to grieve the fact that your mom isn’t who you want her to be, and neither is your husband. They can’t give you what you need — or what you deserve.

    I’m sorry that your family doesn’t love you the way you yearn to be loved. You deserve more, and better! But this is who you have in your life.

    What changes can you make in your life, to bring more joy, light, life, and peace? You can’t change your husband or mom, but you can start identifying where your power lies and how to create happiness for yourself.

    What do you think?

    Blessings,
    Laurie

  • Sadandlonely

    I am the type of person that tries so hard for everyone . I buy presents on birthday’s . Take care of everyone. My husband doesn’t even pay for any bills. It’s ALL me. I throw my mom surprise birthday partys . My mom and I work together , I pick up her shifts when she needs me to. But no one except my 10 year old daughter even told me happy birthday. My own mother didn’t even so much as text me. She lives right down the road and her birthday is a week before mine and I made hers a huge to do. My husband always tells me I’m being taken advantage of and I’m too nice but honestly I think he does the same thing to me , if not worse. To top it off I know he didn’t forget because we got married on my birthday 10 yrs ago So it’s our anniversary too and he wanted his present (a gun) . I gave it too him. He did not get me anything. The next day my daughter asked him what did you get mommy for your anniversary/ birthday ? He said he was taking us to the circus . Something that I’ve been planning to do with my daughter . He means he was gonna grace us with his presence. Well he did go but the whole time he was saying , ” I hate this” ” I’m just here for you.” He actually stayed seated for about 4 or 5 minutes then left and said he was going to the bathroom. He never came back !! I kept texting him “where are you ? ” Finally a response that he ran into an old girlfriend and her kids. After an intermission he showed up and said let’s go , ” I can’t take this anymore. ” Wow it was such an awesome present sitting alone with my daughter downtown. I can’t take this anymore. I called my mom 5 times to talk. No response. I guess she was worried about it still being to close to my birthday and she may feel guilty. I’m ALONE . 🙁
    Now I’m leaving to go to work and take care of the mentally handicapped. At least I don’t feel like a nobody when I’m with them. Just a rant from a sad woman. Sorry . 🙁

    • Mandy

      Sadandlonely,

      I realize your response is an older one from last year, but I had to jump on here and say I truly hope and pray things have gotten better for you. The sad thing about some people is that they don’t know what they have until it’s gone, as the old saying goes. Some people must go through the life lesson of being treated badly themselves before they realize how badly they’ve treated others.

      I’m not saying we should treat people bad, just that some don’t get how blessed they are to be with a person who treats them so well either because they take it for granted or whatever other reasons there are. Although, I do believe in the power of prayer. I’ve witnessed God change people, ones I never thought would change.

      Faith helps me a lot when I can’t see the positive in a situation. In the meantime, keep being your awesome self because God sees the good you do, and He knows your character. Plus, you are setting a good example for your daughter, and that makes all the difference in the world too.God bless you!

  • Ciera

    Thank you for posting this because I feel so alone. I wish I still my Mum was still alive because she was all I had. There’s alot to this story but I feel completely isolated by relatives and I don’t why. I think I might book myself away for a Christmas break. I can’t afford it but I’ll try and look at prices now so I can save money for it.

    • Isa

      Ciera, I’m sending you a hug because I know how it feels!!!!!
      I also can’t really afford it, but I’m giving myself this xmas gift of a little trip.
      But I have changed my dates now. I’m going one week before xmas.
      I would feel so awfully miserable sitting alone in a hotel room on a xmas day.
      I’d rather be alone at home. Take heart. There must be someone out there for you and youll meet them. Love yourself.

  • Laurie Post author

    Thank you, Isa – it’s great to hear from you! I’m glad this post was comforting, and that you are beginning to see things more clearly.

    Congratulations on your Christmas break – that sounds wonderful. I love being alone; I recently spent 6 days alone in Hollywood, CA. Two of the days were in a Communicators’ workshop, but the other 4 days were just me, myself and I wandering around the city.

    Stay connected with God. He knows what you need, and He will give you everything your heart desires! Trust him, for He is working everything together for your good. He loves you deeply, and He wants you to be filled with peace, love, joy, and freedom.

    Nobody can love you the way God does – especially when you feel like nobody cares. Just keep dipping into His river of love 🙂

    Let me know how your Christmas break goes!

    • Isa

      Thanks so much for your heartfelt reply Laurie. Means a lot. It’s great that you enjoyed 6 lovely days in Hollywood 🙂 My Christmas break is in Bruges, Belgium. It was very spontaneous decision, but it filled my Heart with joy! I always wanted to go, so really I’m making my little Dream come true.

      Yes, God is my only consolation. I have not other family….but Him. He is my real Father.
      He’s there for me. He protects me and guides me.
      I need to spend more time with Him and hear His voice.

      Lots of Love xxx

  • Isa

    Just want to add that today did something that filled my heart with joy 🙂 I booked a two day Christmas break. At least now I have something to look forward to! It will be just me, myself and I, but I think it will be wonderful.

  • Isa

    Dear Laurie,

    You don’t even know how much comfort I found in your post…It was like receiving a hug from a friend.
    I’m trying to stay strong. I have no one. And I haven’t met him yet. My only consolation is my Faith and knowing that God watches over me.

    But I’m finding gifts in my situation…. It makes me strong and I begin to see everything clearly, seeing the Truth is a blessing. I know that God is holding my hand and helping me to find a way out of this….
    I have to accept my fate for now and keep my Faith.

    xxxx