Choosing your own adventure is fun in a storybook – and it’s thrilling in real life! Here are three tips for creating a life that will help you Blossom into the woman you were created to be.
I’ve been dragging my blogs around in circles for a couple of years, trying to figure out what I want to write about and who I want to serve. The professional bloggers say it’s better to create a niche and write for a specific audience – but I get bored when I focus on one thing. So I’ve been choosing different adventures and failing, moving a step forward and three steps backward.
But something new has sprouted. It’s been slowly dawning on me that I’m not following all the advice of the professional bloggers…and yet I’m still in the game! I’m not implementing their rules and strategies…and yet I’m more joyful and peaceful than ever. I’ve learned how to choose my own adventure in real life and on my Blossom blogs, and it has made all the difference. Come, see what I mean…
Here on SheBlossoms, we splash around in the four most important oceans of your life: Creative You, Healthy You, Connected You, and Daring You. Today, our focus is Daring You – because Helen Keller said life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all.
How to Choose Your Own Adventure in Real Life
While I could write a whole ebook on this topic (and maybe someday I will!), I’ve narrowed it down into three specific steps:
- Remind yourself daily of your destiny
- Learn the rules and get good advice
- Start choosing your own adventure in real life
These steps can apply to anything in your life. You must learn how to choose your own adventure whether you’re learning how to let go of someone you love, starting a business, or coping with a major life change. Maybe you’re moving overseas or simply trying to create a better life for yourself.
This is real life, and you can choose your own adventure.
1. Remind yourself daily of your destiny
“Somebody ought to tell us, right at the start of our lives, that we are dying,” said Michael Landon. “Then we might live life to the limit every minute of every day. Do it, I say, whatever you want to do, do it now.”
But somebody DID tell us that we’re dying! We’re constantly reminded that our lives are speeding by, and that we will die. “Our days on earth are like grass – like wildflowers, we bloom and die,” says the writer of Psalm 103. “The wind blows, and we are gone – as though we had never been here.”
Reading this makes me so happy because it reminds me that I get to choose my own adventure in real life. The weeks and months pass by so fast; every day somebody says, “I can’t believe how fast the summer went. Where did the time go? It seems like just yesterday that he was born, or she was starting school, or that my dog was a puppy. And now, look…it went by so fast.”
Every day, remind yourself that your moments are fleeting. Don’t spend your precious time on websites that drain your soul, don’t waste your energy worrying about things you can’t control, don’t allow your thoughts to make you miserable.
2. Learn the rules and get good advice
My Blossom blogs are my purpose in life. They’re also my only source of income! Blossom is my passion and my business, and I want to see my blogs flourish and thrive. I want to connect with my true self and authentic voice, and I want to encourage women to do the same.
So, I listen to two or three podcasts every day: Joyce Meyer when I’m running at 6 am, a professional blogger or business writer when I’m walking the dogs at 11 am, and either Rob Bell or an SEO (search engine optimization) strategist when I’m walking the dogs at 4 pm.
And I get a lot of advice. I actually think there is such a thing as overlearning – and I’m definitely guilty of overthinking! The problem with getting advice and learning the rules is that we get trapped. We think we have to do things the way people say, or the way our family has always done things, or the way others have tried and succeeded.
Here’s the blogging business advice I hear over and over:
- Build a community on Facebook and start a tribe
- Get active on social media
- Interact with your community, feed your tribe, stay present on Twitter/Pinterest/Facebook/Instagram/GooglePlus
- Specialize, and create a niche for your business
- Develop an editorial calendar if you’re a blogger or writer
- Use social sharing apps and hacks, such as Meet Edgar and Buffer and HootSuite and Facebook
- And 1,000,000,000,000 more ideas, strategies, hacks and apps
These tips for running an online business or blog are helpful…but they aren’t part of my adventure. They can’t be! I’ve been struggling to “be a presence” on various social media sites, and I hate it. I understand that Twitter and Facebook can increase the success of blogs and businesses, but I’m not a social media person. I just can’t do it, and my attempts to follow that advice have been confusing and distracting me from what I’m really meant to do.
3. Learn how to choose your own adventure in real life
The only way to choose your own adventure – to create a meaningful, fulfilling, exciting-to-you life is to do SOMETHING. Choose a path, and take the first step. Yes, it’s scary. No, you’ve never done this before.
You won’t be okay. You will be better than okay – you will Blossom!
Remember, however, that before you implement my last tip on how to choose your own adventure, you need to ground yourself in the first two steps. Know that your days are passing by really really really fast. It doesn’t matter if you take a risk and fail, if you dare to explore a new path and get lost in the jungle. It doesn’t matter if you trip and fall in front of people – and it doesn’t even matter if the laugh at or mock you. They will die, you will die, and it will all be forgotten.
When you’re choosing your own adventure, ground yourself in good advice. Know what the rules for starting a business or having a healthy pregnancy or building a strong marriage or creating a new irrigation system are. Learn from people who’ve gone before you – especially smart people who’ve failed.
And then choose your adventure one step at a time. Listen to the still small voice that is underneath the roar of Facebook. Look upwards and inwards. Connect to God, or whatever you call your Higher Power or source of wisdom.
“I do not want to get to the end of my life and find that I just lived the length of it. I want to have lived the width of it as well.” – Diane Ackerman.
How will you Blossom?
If you feel stuck in your career, read How to Find Your Dream Job – 5 Simple Steps.
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