How to Keep Going After Your Soulmate Dies

You may feel like you can’t go on when you lose your soulmate  — whether the loss happened because of death, divorce, or a difficult breakup. You feel your soulmate’s absence in your heart, stomach, and soul. Your loss lodges inside you because your soulmate was part of you, your daily life and your identity. How do you live after losing your soulmate?

“Remember to be heroically patient with yourself,” writes Alan Wolfelt in When Your Soulmate Dies: A Guide to Healing Through Heroic Mourning. “For grieving soulmates, this tends to be a mourning need that you can only begin to take on substantively after months (and possibly years) of acknowledging the reality of the death and embracing the pain of the loss.”

You will come through this. You will get to the other side of these intense feelings of grief and pain. Losing your soulmate changes you and your life forever, but you will start to feel joy and hope again. Here, you’ll find a few ideas on how to keep going after losing the love of your life…your soulmate.

Yesterday I wrote Are You My Soulmate? How to Recognize Lasting Love. One thing I failed to mention in that article was the sadness of losing the love of your life. The biggest, saddest, most painful thing about finding your soulmate is losing him to death, divorce, or a difficult breakup.

Life After the Loss of Your Soulmate

I wish I had a magic list of tips or easy fixes that will heal emotional numbness after losing someone you love — and I bet you wish that, too! But the truth is that there is no blog post or book that will erase the pain of losing your soulmate. Nothing you read will bring the love of your life back, or restore the happiness you once had. I can’t imagine how you feel, and I am truly sorry for your loss.

May you find hope, encouragement, and faith here. Read through the comments section below; know that you are not the only one who doesn’t know how to live after losing her soulmate. You may even find a tip or two that will help ease the pain. Hold on to your faith, and the belief that you will soon start to feel the glimmer of hope that you’re not alone!

Take a deep breath

Your life still has meaning, purpose, and love. You will come through the pain, and you will enjoy life and be happy again. It won’t be the same life you once had, but it will be enough for you.

Your whole life has changed. Your world has been rocked — shattered, even. You may feel like you’ll never recover from the loss or survive the grief you feel. The core of who you are has changed; you’re no longer the wife, girlfriend, or life partner you once were.

Losing your soulmate is one of the most painful experiences of your life. Not only are you grieving the love of your life, you’re also left wondering who you are without him. You will never be the same. Give yourself time to adjust to the idea that you aren’t the woman you were with him, and you don’t know who you’ll be now that he’s gone.

Learn about loss and grief

Your grief isn’t like anyone else’s grief. The loss of your soulmate isn’t like someone else’s loss — there is no comparing grief or heartache.

But if you learn how other people experience loss and how they get through grief, you’ll find ways to move forward. Reading other people’s stories, connecting with fellow widows or survivors will help you learn how to keep going after losing your soulmate.

Growing Forward She Blossoms Laurie Pawlik

I wrote a book to help women walk through loss – Growing Forward When You Can’t Go Back. Each chapter is based on a Biblical woman’s life because every woman in the Bible experienced loss, grief, and pain of some type. Nobody escaped it, because loss is part of living in this world. The more I write and think about how these women coped with loss, the more peace, acceptance, and freedom I have.

Just knowing that we’ve been struggling with death and loss since the Garden of Eden gives me faith, hope, and love. We’re all in this together. God loves us, He created us, and He hasn’t abandoned us. 

We don’t know why bad things happen, why we have to lose our loved ones…but we know He exists. And, we know He loves us so much He sent Jesus to die for us. And, we know He grieved His own loss…and this can help us grieve our own losses.

Start releasing some of your old habits

If you and your soulmate cooked dinner together every night or texted throughout the day, find ways to change your routine. You and he had traditions, rituals, ways of living that shaped your daily life — that’s part of living with the love of your life! But now that he’s gone, it’s time to reshape your routine.

Look at the habits you and your soulmate formed as a couple. What did you do together? Who were you, where did you go, how did you related to each other and others? You might want to keep going to those places with the same people…or you might want to gently break free and start a new routine.

Look up and meet the gaze of God

You are not alone. The pain you feel over losing your soulmate isn’t a sign that God doesn’t exist, or that He doesn’t care about you. Soulmates are a gift from God, a blessing that not everyone experiences. The soulmate relationship is a treasure that we cherish when we have it, and we surrender when it’s gone.

God gave you the gift of a soulmate, and He allowed your soulmate to be taken from you. You may never learn why you had to experience this loss…but if you hold on to the fact that God knows things you don’t know and is allowing your life to unfold this way for a purpose, you may find it easier to keep going.

Give yourself time to grieve. It’s scary to feel the anger, bitterness, disappointment and ache of loneliness but allowing it to go through you will help you heal. Get all the hurt out of you, keep pouring it out until you feel empty and drained. That’s when the miracle will happen: He will start to fill you up with hope, faith, peace, and acceptance. Little by little, God will fill your spirit with His love.

If you feel numb, read How to Handle Emotional Numbness After Someone You Love Dies.

Learn how to “mourn heroically”

How to Keep Going When You Lose Your Soulmate

In When Your Soulmate Dies: A Guide to Healing Through Heroic Mourning, Alan Wolfelt describes the pain – and the hope – of learning how to keep going when you lose your soulmate.

“Because your soulmate grief is larger than life, it will take larger-than-life mourning to move it toward reconciliation,” says Wolfelt. “It will take what I’m calling heroic mourning.”

When Your Soulmate Dies helps readers embrace the pain of loss, remember their soulmates, and develop a new self-identity. Wolfelt also encourages readers to search for meaning and receive ongoing support from others.

This book will help you muster the courage you need to move forward in your life with grace, purpose, and joy.

How are you doing? Feel free to share your experience in the comments section below. You could honor your soulmate by sharing memories, or say a prayer, or express your honest feelings about how sad you feel.

If your faith is shattered because you lost your soulmate, read Trusting God After a Heartbreaking Loss.

May you find hope and healing after your loss. May you feel your soulmate’s presence even now, even when you aren’t sure of anything but your own pain. May you find comfort and peace in Jesus — the comfort and peace that surpasses all understanding.


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35 thoughts on “How to Keep Going After Your Soulmate Dies”

  1. I have been grieving the loss of my former fiancé for 4 years. We were engaged for 12 years. He became comfortable with our commonlaw living arrangement, but me, being raised in the church, knew the importance of marriage and it was something I really wanted so I pushed the issue. As a result, we separated in June of 2016. We have two kids together, one is from a former relationship of mine, but he took her in as his very own and then we had our son. Life was near perfect until we separated. He was my soulmate, my cheerleader, and only he knew how to make me feel better. I had a hard time accepting the loss of our relationship. I lived for the moments I got to see him again. I found peace knowing I was still best friends with this man and hoped one day for reconciliation. Then, on September 20th, 2019, he was ripped away from me forever when he was in a tragic accident. I miss him everyday. I feel lost and so lonely without my best friend and soulmate. My heart is so broken and I have contemplated taking my own life, but my kids keep me going. I am grieving him all over again and I am destroyed. All I can do is cry. No one seems to understand my sadness. I am told all the time, “but you and him weren’t even together anymore”, like I dont have a right to feel this way. Truth is I never wanted to end our relationship in the first place and hoped one day we would be together again. Now I will never have that back. I dont know how to cope with this. I dont know how to go on without him.

  2. My soulmate of over 40 years of marriage passed away last summer after a bout with cancer. Caring for her and attending to her medical visits brought us closer and provided closure, as she knew she was dying. I accept her passing and am grateful she is out of physical pain, but the emotional pain continues for me. We did everything together and were very close. I have turned back to religion and have faith that God has a reason for her passing and my life on earth. I have joined numerous organizations and continued working to stay busy, but it feels like just busyness and not living my life. Do you have any thoughts on how to bring meaning back into my life? I am not looking for a relationship, as I don’t feel it would compare to my soulmate, and I want to honor her as well.

  3. I’m at a loss for words. I’ve thought I had come to accept the lost of my childhood friend that has indeed turned out to be my soulmate while he was living but it looks like I have yet to even accept it. I wouldn’t have PTSD if he’d survive that night. Thoughts of what could have been and being spared from abuse years ago are sometimes in my mind. The guy in question was a year younger than me yet he showered my younger self who has survived bullying in all forms saved sexual and low self esteem kindness, respect and understanding no one can ever replicate. I just wished I realised it sooner before his death from a fire incident while I was also under a life threatening asthma attack. I guess its actually possible for a soulmate to feel intense pain when the other half is in danger?

    1. I’m so sorry, Kendra. I can’t imagine how difficult and traumatizing it must be to grieve such a painful loss. Yes, I think we feel each other’s pain — especially soulmates who are united emotionally and spiritually. There are no easy ways to keep going when you lose your soulmate…only slow healing and deep self-compassion.

      I don’t know if it’ll help you to read Words of Comfort When Your Heart is Broken ( ), but you might find some consolation there. Reading through the comments of other readers who are experiencing the loss of their soulmates can be helpful.

      May you find peace, healing, and energy as you move forward. I pray for God’s love and compassion to fill your heart and heal your soul.

      With love and sympathy,

      May you

  4. The only thing worse than living without your soulmate is never meeting your soulmate at all. I never met or married my soulmate. I am in a good marriage, my husband and I have been married for 25 years. We raised two beautiful daughters and have one grandchild. But now I am looking back on my life and wondering what choices I would make differently. One of my daughters is pursuing her dream of being a Doctors Without Borders doctor. The other has a degree in theology and is married to a missionary. They have a son and are living God’s calling.
    I am only 50 years old and I feel like I never lived MY life, if you know what I mean. I married a good man but he’s not my soulmate. I don’t even know if I’d recognize my soulmate. How do you live the second half of your life when you don’t know who you are?

  5. My girlfriend text me she loved me and then 4days later she text me to let me know she found some one new.We,were together 3.8 years,it has been hard to accept and move on/let go.I,believe with God help it will be okay. She turn out to be cold hearted and very resentful because the truth is she wanted to get married and i wasn’t, I think probably the best for both of us.

  6. My soulmate was my dog snowy and I just don’t feel like living since I don’t know where to start looking I have a feeling she is in upper but my heart is shattered ….

  7. I waited for sex until marriage. I intended to be married until I died. I feel marriage is eternal under God. Two souls entwined forever. I worked massive hours and was a kind husband. Then a disease started destroying me. I agreed to give up my retirement to stay home and raise my children (one autistic). I was a very mind dad, and raised two from birth. They are now teens. I was an A student but quit college in the 4th year to take a good paying job. I paid for my wife to get a great education. I paid over half the house off. But my disease has beat me down. I had a kidney transplant. My wife has a good job. I worked long hours to pay the bills so she could job hop and advance. Her divorced friends told her she should divorce and find a better match. One dated young men for sex then found a man who made good money. Her mom offered to help pay for our kids college if she’d divorce me. She never liked me because I had no parents growing up and am a simple man. So a few days ago I was kicked out. I find myself living in a tiny rural hotel struggling to pay for food and gas. I cashed in my retirement to pay off family bills and have little left. I have an old car that keeps breaking down. Everything I currently have with me fits in a tub. I’m surviving off bread, water, and peanut butter. I can not enter my old home or contact my kids. I have no family of my own to turn to. She sayes the main reason she left me is my depression and talking about my past. My disease had almost killed me mutiple times. It caused small anerisms that triggered PTSD. I have flash back syndrome. As a child I was severly beaten for years, starved, sexually assaulted, and tortured. I am also high level autistic. I still love God, but I feel helpless, hopeless, unwanted, unloved, and unneeded. As a child I was beaten if I laughed or cried. My seperated wife sayes I don’t show enough emotion. Well I’ve cried more in a week than in over 40 years. She doesn’t think I’m really crying, and that I’m faking. I just can’t cry like a normal person. I have always wondered why God made me, due to my autism I’ve never seemed to be wanted by the world. I just can’t seem to fit in. And now I’m all alone again. I just keep laying in the bed curled up. I miss my wife and kids. I’m not strong enough to be alone. In fairness to my wife I did set alone when I felt depressed from the flashbacks. I did complain about my past. I just can’t seem to get over all the trauma my flashbacks keep making me relive over and over.

  8. I have lost a soulmate. Plus I am now taking care of an ex-husband who is slowly dying and I am now moving his 98 year old aunt in with me to take care of her as she has spent all of her savings on retirement living. So I have been hit 3 times with deep stress and I need help to keep me going in a positive direction. Your article was very helpful and I made notes of which I will follow in the future. Thank you.

  9. I feel so alone now my husband as died . I have children but they don’t bother with me. They never phone ,text or email me. The weekends are the worst. I wake up crying and seem to cry all day. Everyone is out doing things. They never involve me. My grandchildren ,all 6 of them, are the same. I don’t feel like going anywhere on my own because me and my husband did everything together. I just wish he would come back for me.

  10. I don’t know whether I should be here or not…but I seriously need to get this off my chest. 1stly, I’m from Asia, 2ndly, I don’t/can’t/never want to believe in god. That thing never existed for me…never. 3rdly, I’m gay & 4thly…actually here the story begins…I fell head over heels in love with one of my mother’s students (mother was a renowned lecturer). I always felt like I was a born adult & seriously I never knew what ‘childhood’ exactly means. Anyway…that was back in 1984. I was 8 & she was 23. She was the most magical/mysterious/breathtakingly beautiful goddess to me…only in human form. She was so kind, so awesome in every possible & impossible way…I knew I could never get over this in my entire life…& I never want to either. All I ever wanted for her is no matter where she is or who she is with…she should be always healthy, happy, safe & sound. She knew about my feelings…she could always read me like an open book, but of course we never talked about it. I avoided her as much as I could. I even deleted her mobile no…so I could never call her…not even by accident. I knew she married an artist, gave birth to a boy…& it was she, who was taking the whole burden of earning money…since her artist husband was too egoistic & could not earn even a dime. Her whole life remained a mystery…even to her best group of dearest friends. She was way too proud to let anyone help her or let anyone know the miserable life she was leading. In 2017 my mom died & I called her best friend to give the news & also to ask her that could she possibly give my goddess the news too on my behalf? Then…I got the news. She disappeared from the face of earth on 20th January, 2016. Lung cancer. Stage 4. Nothing could be done. I’m 43 now…I can’t take this burden anymore…I’m shattered in a million pieces & I know I’ll remain the same till my death. Nothing makes sense…I don’t care what happens…I just have this breathless urge to go & meet her…where she is now…I don’t think…I can cope with this much longer. I’m devasteted with grief…emptiness…misery…despair. I need to see her beautiful eyes again…that wonderful smile…that voice…that always felt like the ringing of a silver bell. I’m dying everyday bit by bit…wouldn’t it be better to go permanently instead? Without her my life always remained empty…but if that was emptiness…the dark void that is crushing, engulfing me now…just can’t be compared to anything else. I’ve literally nobody to talk to….nobody to cry to…I can’t even do that…tears don’t come. I’m always gulping down something inside my throat…but it never goes away. I posted this on reddit in a small hope…that somewhere someone just might feel ready even for a few moments to lend me a shoulder to cry my heart out…to break down completely. But, my post only met with dead silence. I don’t know…what to do…where to go…who to turn to anymore. I just want to die as soon as possible. If u guys think I’m not too disgusting…can somebody talk to me plz…?

  11. I’m so sorry for your loss – I can’t imagine the pain and grief of losing a soulmate. I don’t know exactly how you feel or how your life has changed, and I have a feeling you’ll never be the same. Your life has changed so dramatically, and permanently! You can never go back to being who you were and having what you had…and so, I suppose, you must move forward into a different you. A different life, a different way of being…and perhaps even a different type of peace, fulfillment, contentment, even joy.

    You may never be the same, but healing is possible. You may never look at life the same way, but you can adapt and adjust to a new way of being in this world. And, you may find love again! Especially if you’re open to different types of love — friendship love, kindred spirits love, dog love, horse love, cat love, even little droplets of love from strangers and people you don’t know well.

    Take good care of yourself. Be gentle and kind, and allow yourself to slowly heal and grow forward. Look up, and meet the gaze of God. Learn something new about Jesus; He has the power to change your life forever. Open your heart and soul to the Holy Spirit, who will strengthen and sustain you in ways you never thought possible.

    With His love,

  12. Debbie Mastantoni

    My soulmate(37) and I (35)parted ways 2 days before Christmas 2018. We were going back and forth day to day seeing each other and not and talking and then not. It has killed me inside. I have poured my heart out and not being reciprocated any more. It’s torture. We live 3 minutes from each other, hang out in all the same places. I feel like my world is caving in. I can function day to day but find myself overwhelmed with grief constantly. I’ve had to take days off and even leave early from work multiple times. I can’t get past this hurt. When I try to talk to people about this they’re like “oh yeah, soulmate ? “ “ that’s bogus, soulmates don’t exist. Or there’s no such thing” “ you’ll get over it”. I don’t feel like I ever will. It’s been 4 months and I can’t stop thinking or crying every day. I wish he were gone that way I wouldn’t be stuck in constant thought of what if or when . Problem with my soulmate is he isn’t awake, he doesn’t want me or believe we’re soulmates……. I’m very intuitive and I believe that’s why I know and he has no clue… so here I leave you in tears with the tremendous pain in my soul. This magnetic pull to him hasn’t faded and I wish it would. My emotional state is very fragile and ready to break.

    1. Debbie, your story is my story going on at the exact same time. My heart and soul feel ripped out. I say prayers we both recover and can live and love again.

    2. This is exactly the same for me. It’s been almost three 3 years since we broke up and been on and off a few times since but has been off for almost one year now.
      I still feel this deep pain inside. Even when I’m not crying I feel like my soul it crying still.
      I don’t know how much longer I can put up with the pain and how I can ever live a happy life without thinking about it every single day.

  13. Claudio is gone on the 30th of January.. after 14 years together.. He was my soulmate… my best friend… my Family… my partner in life and on the stage…. My everything… I’m 38 and he was 60… In one month a bad cancer took his life from me, from us… People keep telling me that I did everything to try to save him… living int he hospital with him and trying to relief his pain… but the fact is that.. now is gone.. and I’m so alone… I don’t know what I’m looking for… I don’t know how can I go on… My heart is hurting, I cannot breath, I don’t see a life, I cannot sing anymore, my voice is gone…. My life was in his life…. And his life was in mine… If I’m looking aound I don’t see anything that has a reasone: the job, friends, parents… nothing at all… I wanna die? I don’t know.. because He doesn’t want me to die, not know… but…. How can I move on if I lost everything… the hope, the joy, the smile… Is painful,,, so painful…

    1. I feel your pain. I lost my husband my soulmate of 30 yrs 3 years ago and still cry uncontrollably for him. But I supose ther is nothing for it but to go on. We have 1 son who is 22 and away from home at university and I am so glad that he is getting on with his life- but I am left at home feeling alone and quite empty. I don’t know why I am tellling you all this apart from the fact I do t want you to fee, alone in your grief. There must be a reason to go on if nothing else but to help others. Take care. Heather x

  14. I lost the love of my life, my true soulmate after 26 years of the most profound not of this earth love on Sugust 29, 2018. We didn’t have children together, but he took my children (one with Special Needs) as his own and lived and raised them. We never had a fight, not once. He was so precious every single day. The pain of losing him is so intense, I also just want to be with him and not here anymore. But, I would never see him again, if I took my life. So, I won’t. I cry every day and don’t see a life moving forward. I certainly can’t see being without him for a potential 30 years. I am shattered. I have been through a lot of painful things in my life, but nothing so painful as this. I will always be his wife and only his. There will be no other. He can’t be replaced. It also doesn’t help when people tell me he won’t be my husband in heaven. I don’t care what anyone says My God would not give me such a love, a not of this earth profound love like this, take him away and say too bad but it’s over. Nope, not My God. Most days, I just feel, I cannot do this without my husband. So lost, so broken, so alone. And half of me feel like I’m not even here.

  15. If anyone reads this they may have no sympathy for me but love is love so here goes: it’s been one year since my soulmate left my life. He’s not dead. He’s alive and about 40 minutes away from me. Thing is, he’s married. We had a soulmate love affair for 2 years. His marriage was not working decades before he pursued me. He was about to leave and BAM- he had a stroke that left him unable to communicate in any way with me. In order to protect him during this time, I have not done anything to put his marriage in jeopardy. It’s true love when you step back for the sake of another person even though every fiber of your being wants to help and know what’s going on. He’s only 57. A trial attorney. I cannot fathom what he is dealing with and it has killed my heart and soul not being able to help him. He always said I was his sunshine. He never liked being home. He has lost his independence. This situation has torn me into bits. I am just starting to put the pieces back but it’s slow. I never thought it would be this long before I heard from him. I am shocked that I’m still a mess. Unfinished business. We wanted to start a life together. It’s hard to describe dealing with ambiguous loss. He’s alive but it’s like he’s dead. I have read all the comments and my heart goes out to all of you. You could say I’m lucky because there’s always a chance I’ll see him again but he’ll never be the same man he was prior to the stroke. Life is truly unfair.

    1. I understand and I am very very sorry for your loss. You can hope your souls will find each other again. Believe me I know it doesn’t help now. When you feel your heart will explode because you can’t be near him. But That’s the only hope I have.

  16. My name is Tony. My wife went to Heaven on January 6, 2019 and I’ve just not been the same. She beat cancer by going to Heaven. We have a daughter who is 27. She’s coping with this much better than I am. I’m a pastor and a corporate technical trainer, so for the past 20 years my job has been to talk. But I can’t anymore. My voice is gone. I don’t talk to anyone. My wife and I closed our church some years ago and with her gone I’m alone for the first time. I really questioned Jesus and my faith when this happened. I’m better now but I still struggle each day. I just want to be with her right now. I’m 47 years old and I wish I could leave this earth right now.

  17. I am 35 years old. I lost my soulmate 16 years ago to a rare heart condition. I am half of the person I used to be. It still hurts today. I am married, but was never able to love again. My husband (of 12 years) feels it. He wants me to love him, but I am not able to feel that way about him. He has been incredibly patient. I love parts of him, but it’s just not the same.

    Were you able to love after your loss? Do you have any advice?

    …from my heart to yours.


  18. I still live with him because of our child. We broke up October 29th. I still feel sad no matter what I do; I cannot shake this feeling. I do not enjoy things anymore. It is the holiday season and I feel no joy. I put on a brave face for my child, but, the joy was zapped out of me that afternoon. I love him still the same even though he broke up with me and said that he fell out love with me. It is slowly eating away at me.

  19. My husband, lover, Soulmate my everything died on 24th August 2018. He was 85 years old. I am 75 years old. My life has collapsed around me and am now in a dark pit of despair. My Faith is in crisis and all that I now long for is death to swallow me up so that my darling husband and I can be together in eternity. There will never be joy in my life again. My grief is almost unbearable and when I have needed God, more than any other time of my life, he is nowhere to be found. However am I to survive such pain?

    1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Audrey. It must be so hard for you, especially when you miss your soulmate and husband with such intensity. I wish I had words to help you feel better or lighten your grief…but I know there are no words. When you lose your soulmate, it really does feel like you can’t live anymore.

      I get What’s Your Grief email newsletters….today’s article is called When Grief Goes From Just Plain Miserable to Problematic

      I don’t know if it’ll help you, but it helped others.

      How are you spending your days? I know nothing really eases the pain. How are you today?

      With love from Canada,

      1. Thank you Laurie for your kind words. I get up in the morning in tears, get dressed then go to my wonderful friend who lives near me. I come home for lunch and then if the silence in my home becomes too much I then go back to my friends for a while. In the evenings I stare at the television but don’t usually see what is on this. No one can prepare us for such agonising grief of losing one’s spouse and my loss and grief has changed me as a person. I am no longer judgemental. I long for the time when I am supposed to be “feeling better, as you will”. For now I cannot see beyond my grief.

    2. Hello Audrey,

      It has been 16 years for me. I took it one day at a time. One minute at a time. I felt so alone, so isolated. I was very young when it happened, I was so lost. Some days the only thing keeping me here was just the thought that I might not be able to see him if I chose to take my own life; that I would not be able to see him when I died, as some sort of punishment. Know that he still loves you, that he is watching over you and he is with you all of the time. Look for signs that he is trying to communicate with you….for me it was songs on the radio, a rainbow, a beautiful sunny day, just a day that felt like he was there. Talk to him, he hears you! Feel his love from the other side, it’s still there. Just breathe. Cry, it is a form of release, I cried for months, still do sometimes. Find little things that make you happy, try to focus on the positive. Cherish the memories you have and the time you had together.

      I also had to see a psychic medium to keep me looking forward and to clearly understand what he wanted me to know.

      1. Hi

        So sorry for you loss hope all is going well as Im well aware that healing is a process. Did the medium help?.

  20. I was with my soulmate, Gavin for 26 year’s and knew at 14 the minute I laid eyes on him, that he was it for me, I didn’t bother with anyone else, I let him know he was all my heart, body, mind & soul wanted, it was like nothing I’d ever experienced in my short life, and at the time, I didn’t know about soulmates, how could I? I was only 13 when I first seen him.
    Just before my 15th birthday, at the age of 14, he was mine, a love so strong my heart hurt at the thought of not being able to keep him.
    From our first time together, he was my other half, protector, lover, best friend and clyde to my bonnie, we went on to have 3 beautiful daughter’s who, also didn’t leave his side, they were all Daddy’s little girl’s and he was like no other father I’ve ever known, he took his girl’s everywhere and after 26 years together, and some life changing events, he slipped into a depression as did I and, I wasn’t able to save him from himself, something I’ll never forgive myself for.
    He comitted suicide, drunk with a mix of his prescription medicines, and life as I knew it was never the same.
    It’s coming up to 2 year’s without him and I am still the same as the day he died, I don’t eat, shower or leave the house, I stay in my Pajamas all day, and have no idea how to move forwards, I want so badly to follow him, but I just won’t ruin our girl’s, so I just exist for them, not live as I’ve forgotten how too and I am just a shell of the women I once was, I’m only 40 year’s old and wonder how in the world am I supposed to go on, for another 40 odd year’s without my soulmate, because, I’m living a nightmare, broken and shattered beyond recognition.
    All the friends I once had are all gone, I am alone besides my girl’s and instead of being their for them, they are having to be their for me.
    I’m letting them down and feel that they would be better off without me, but I know deep down I’ll turn them into me if I leave.

    1. Hello Coby

      I have been a widow since 24th August 2018 but it feels much longer. I am beyond devastated at the loss of my husband and Soulmate. We had been married for 44 years. His health had been deteriorating for about two years and finally succomed to cancer and Sepsis after a brave fight. I feel that my life is over and I yearn to be with him for eternity. Many folk tell me that I will, eventually, feel better in myself and that life will have some meaning again. For now, where is God when I need him? My Faith is in crisis and doubt that this will ever recover from what has just happened to me. You are not alone in your suffering and when we have nothing else we have hope.

  21. I have been divorced 2 times.I was married 15 yrs the first time and infedility ended it.Married 7 yrs the 2nd time and she left…said I didnt try to make enough money so she could stay at home.I went neary 6 years before I started dating.I always felt like I would know the one when I met her.One night on a dating site I randomly met her…my heart instantly told. Me she was the one I had been waiting for.We hit it off from the very start,better than anyone I had ever been with…I felt my prayers had finally been answered…life was good and we were both happy…planned on getting married by the following spring.I dont know what happened but after months of happiness she left.everytime we were together we had the best of times,never argued,just enjoyed each other…so now I’m lost and confused…my heart told me she was the one.I feel like my heart lied to me and God just let me think He finally answered my prayers.I have tried moving on,but cant .Everytime I’m with someone else,My heart yearns for her.I feel like I’ll go to my grave with her on my mind…I have prayed and seatched for answers,only to find complete silence from the one who promises to help and be with me…his word saysHe cares but so far in matters of the heart I’ve had nothing but hurt and let downs…so much for the promise of our needs being met

    1. Hi Jimmy,

      My thoughts after reading your story is that perhaps she was afraid of true love, scared of it for some reason; maybe she did not think that she deserved it. Were you ever able to find out why she left, could you talk to her to find out what went wrong? Keep your head up, keep searching for your love.

  22. My soulmate was taken from me on nov 16 lost and dont see my way thru all this darkness and pain..I wish God would reveal to me HOW this is supposed to help me live a joyful life when all i feel is pain and sadness..I miss My Ron. We were supposed to be married in Spring and in Spain

    1. I’m so sorry for your loss, Bea. You and Ron had a beautiful life planned, to be together in marriage…and now he’s gone. I can’t imagine the depth of grief and pain you must feel. I wish I had the right words to say, that could be a soothing balm to ease the pain in your spirit and soul.

      If you’d like to share memories of you and Ron, please feel free to tell me all about him! Sometimes writing through the pain can help, after you lose a soulmate.

      In sympathy, with listening ears,