You know you should trust God’s timing with all your heart, mind, soul and strength…but you’re confused. Why is life so hard, relationships painful, work difficult, and the daily routine so boring?
You’re told God created you for a reason, Jesus loves you, and the Holy Spirit is your helper and source of power…but it’s hard to actually live in faith. You believe in Jesus, pray regularly, go to church, and even read the Bible (except for the confusing parts 🙂 ). Why, then, is God taking so long to answer your prayers?
There’s nothing wrong with wanting love, healing, a healthy marriage, fulfilling job, good family, strong community. Those are gifts from God, signs of His love and blessing! And yet He seems to be withholding good things from you — even though He promised to answer your prayers. You want to trust God with your future, but how do you trust the Lord’s timing when you’re confused, scared, lost, doubtful, or just plain tired of waiting?
Your brain knows that “God’s ways are not our ways.” God is smarter than we are, and we have to trust that He is working all things for our good.
Your heart, however, is a different matter. You long for your prayers to be answered — and that’s normal. You wish you knew how to trust God’s timing, but you’re filled with confusion, doubt, fear, and frustration. Welcome to the club! I feel the same way and I know others do, too.
How Trust God’s Timing When You’re Confused
This blog post is part of my She Blossoms Through the Bible project; I’m writing an article for every chapter in every book of Scripture. I started with Genesis — beginning with The Reason You Were Created – Genesis 1 and ending with How to Live Like You Really Are Forgiven and Free – Genesis 50.
Enter Exodus! These tips for trusting God when your mind and heart are clouded with confusion and doubt are inspired by the women in the second chapter of Exodus. And Moses, too.
1. Pick up what God is putting down
The commentary on Exodus 2 in the Jewish Study Bible says the Hebrew men were inactive in opposing the Pharoah’s decree that all Israelite baby boys be killed. The Hebrew women — Moses’ mom, sister, and adopted mother (Pharoah’s daughter) — were the ones who saved Moses. God worked through these women’s personalities, life circumstances, positions and choices to save Moses’ life and free the Israelites from slavery. Did these women know that all they had to do was trust God’s timing? Did their faith carry them through the confusion, fear, anxiety and doubt? Maybe…but I doubt it. I suspect these Hebrew and Egyptian women simply responded by doing the next right thing in their lives.
What has God placed before you? Trusting God when you’re scared or confused isn’t passive or boring! On the contrary, God requires us to take action. He puts events, people, places and choices into our lives so we can partner with Him. Learning how to trust God requires you to take steps of faith forward in your life. What does this mean to you? If you’re trusting God for a relationship, then maybe you need to get emotionally and spiritually healthy first. If you’re trusting God for a job or financial security, maybe you need to consult an employment counselor or financial advisor. Don’t let confusion, doubt, anxiety or fear paralyze you. Learn how to trust God in active, healthy, wise ways.
2. Be bold
Hebrews 2 describes (all too briefly) how bold, courageous, smart and radically risky the Hebrew and Egyptian women were! Moses’ mom hid him until he was three months old, then put him in a basket in the Nile river. She trusted God even though she had no idea how Moses would fare. Moses’ sister initiated conversation with the Pharoah’s daughter — a risky move for a ten or twelve year old Hebrew girl! The Pharoah’s daughter decided to adopt a Hebrew boy baby even though her own father decreed all the male infants be killed. Don’t you see how brave these women were? Maybe they weren’t consciously trusting God’s timing — maybe they weren’t even confused. And yet they changed the course of history.
How can you be as bold as a ten year old Hebrew girl living under Egyptian oppression? You may not be a slave under a Pharoah’s rule, but you’re scared of or oppressed by something. We all are. We live under a constant barrage of “you’re not good enough, fast enough, productive enough, skinny enough, beautiful enough, smart enough.” We’re oppressed by social opinion, peers’ judgements, familial criticism. Most of all, however, we’re oppressed by ourselves. We hold ourselves back from radically, wildly, wholeheartedly following Jesus! Why? Because we’re scared of what people think. We let fear, confusion, doubt and insecurity prevent us from trusting God with our lives.
3. Be confused…and trust God anyway
Moses knew injustice when he saw it. Hebrews 2:12 tells us that he struck an Egyptian dead and buried him in the sand because he was beating a Hebrew. Hebrews 2:13 tells us Moses confronted two Israelite neighbors who were arguing. Hebrews 2:17 describes how Moses saved seven Midianite (Ethiopian) women from mean shepherds. Moses knew he was created to save the Hebrews and was probably confused when God didn’t bless his efforts. Moses was doing what God designed and destined him to do; he must have felt confused and dismayed that it didn’t go well. The problem was that Moses was acting too soon. He was moving too far ahead, too quickly and impulsively. Moses didn’t wait for God’s timing. The Lord made him wait for the right season.
Take your confusion, fear, and doubt to God. Learning how to trust God while taking small steps forward can be confusing and even scary. What if you go too far, too fast? What if you pull a Moses? Also, trusting God’s timing is hard when we want good things, things that are healthy, helpful, and healing for the world. Why wouldn’t God want to bless us or answer our prayers now? What is He waiting for? Trusting God is especially confusing when He says He loves us and yet allows pain, grief, and suffering into our lives.
Tell God how you feel. Talk to Jesus about your confusion, fear, and doubt. Bring the Holy Spirit into your reluctance to fully trust God. Ask the Lord to increase your faith, to decrease your fear, and to bless you with love for Him as your Creator — not Him as your gift giver.
If you strive to grow your personal relationship with Jesus, you’ll struggle less with trusting God. You may still feel confused, scared, doubtful or impatient…but you’ll have an overwhelming sense of peace, love, joy and faith. And your life will be deeper, more joyful, and more beautiful than ever before.
What do you think about my tips for trusting God’s timing when you’re confused? Maybe you have some insight into Moses’ life, the book of Exodus, or the Egyptian oppression of the Hebrews. Your comments — big and little — are welcome below!
With His love,
P.S. Are you struggling to make a decision or find the right path in your life? Read an Easy Way to Stop Overthinking God’s Will for Your Life.
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