No matter how clear it was that you don’t have a future with someone, it’s still not easy to just stop thinking about him after a breakup. These ideas will help you let go of those harmful thought patterns and start changing how you think, feel, and live each moment of your life.
Are you searching for God’s will for your life? You want to follow Jesus but you’re worried you’ll miss the mark. You’re starting to overthink every decision, step, future plan…and you feel paralyzed by indecision and anxiety.
Feeling like you’re being punished by God is normal for two reasons: 1) life is filled with difficult losses, terrible tragedies, and dry stretches of boredom and loneliness; and 2) you are human, which means you screw up. You make mistakes, hurt others, fail to live up to your own standards, and let people down.
Finding facts about how to break toxic relationship patterns is easy; dozens of books and articles teach couples and families how to change bad relationship habits. Much harder is finding the energy and strength you need to put knowledge into practice!
You don’t want to burden others with your problems, but you’re struggling to cope. When does “I don’t want to be a burden” become unhealthy? At some point, your desire to protect your family and friends doesn’t just backfire, it creates serious problems in your relationships.
No relationship is perfect, and brutal honesty isn’t always the best policy. Neither is pretending to be happy in a relationship that needs pruning, weeding, or a fresh new field! To grow and flourish, healthy relationships need to be tended with love and care.