Learning whether you have mostly introverted or extroverted personality traits will increase your self-understanding and improve your relationships. Here’s one thorough “introvert-extrovert test” and two shorter personality tests to help you see where you stand on the introverted-extroverted scale.
Feeling like you’re being punished by God is normal for two reasons: 1) life is filled with difficult losses, terrible tragedies, and dry stretches of boredom and loneliness; and 2) you are human, which means you screw up. You make mistakes, hurt others, fail to live up to your own standards, and let people down.
Finding facts about how to break toxic relationship patterns is easy; dozens of books and articles teach couples and families how to change bad relationship habits. Much harder is finding the energy and strength you need to put knowledge into practice!
How do you cope when you feel like everyone is rejecting you? Abandoned by your best friend, betrayed by your husband or boyfriend, rejected by your family members — what to do when you feel like you’re all alone in the world?
Saying no without feeling guilty is hard for many people. For Christians like me, learning how to say no without guilt or self-condemnation is practically impossible! Especially when I could say yes if I really wanted to, because I have resources to accommodate the request.
Maybe somebody said, “It’s not you, it’s me” while breaking up with you or ending a friendship. Maybe you yourself have even said it! “I’m sorry, but our relationship isn’t working out. You didn’t do anything wrong. It’s not you, it’s me.”