What do you give someone whose mom died? These sympathy gifts and ideas will comfort and support someone after the loss of a mother. I also included sympathy messages and ideas for condolence cards and funeral or “celebration of life” books. It’s hard to know what to say to someone who lost a mom; these ideas and gifts will help.
The Woodstock Inspirational Amazing Grace Chime is one of my favorite gifts for someone after the loss of a mother. It’s comforting and uplifting idea that will help with the grief and healing. This wind chime consists of six silver color aluminum tubes, a laminated bamboo top, and wind catchers that are stained a cherry color. They’re precision tuned for superior sound and designed by professional musician Garry Kvistad. Here’s what someone said after receiving this sympathy gift for the loss of a mother: “What a wonderful and thoughtful gift to give for any occasion, but what a treat to receive one in remembrance of a loved one. Such a delight to listen to! What an awesome way to think about my mom; listening to one of my favorite hymns, sitting outdoors, letting the gentle music calm me.” If you aren’t sure of the “Amazing Grace” aspect of this wind chime is suitable, consider a more generic wind chime.
A family death is painful, and it doesn’t seem like enough to say how sorry you are. But, remember that simply saying “You have my deepest sympathies on the passing of your mother” can be a huge comfort.
Acknowledge their grief and pain, and you show them you care about the loss of their mother. Ask if they want to talk about their mom. Letting them cry and talk about how it feels to lose a mother is the best sympathy gift you can give.
Here’s a thoughtful poem to put in a sympathy card:
“Those we love don’t go away
They walk beside us every day,
Unseen, unheard, but always near
Still loved, still missed and very dear.”
Since finding the right words of comfort is almost as difficult as finding the right sympathy gift idea, I sprinkled several sympathetic sayings throughout this article.
What Do You Give Someone Whose Mom Died? 17 Thoughtful Gifts
These gifts that express sympathy after a mother’s death range from personal to practical items, to give you a wide variety of ideas to think about.
Remember that your gift of sympathy can say more than your words. Your actions are meaningful and important, and your simple, quiet presence will comfort your friend. Below, you’ll find a collection of thoughtful sympathy gifts for the loss of a mother, ranging from general expressions of compassion to more intimate gestures of love, support, and spiritual healing.
1. Tea for two (three, if you count mom)
I love the idea of a Teabloom Teapot Gift Set even if your friend isn’t a daily tea drinker. It’s more than just a sympathy gift – it’s an invitation to talk, connect, and share memories. This teapot can come with your handwritten invitation to visit, cry, and share memories of your friend’s mother. Loss needs to be remembered and honored, and an invitation to talk can be a wonderful way to express sympathy and support. This is an uplifting sympathy gift because it focuses on friendship and life, instead of going deeper into the pain and grief.
Give your friend the teapot, an Teabloom Blooming Tea Flowers, and schedule a visit in a month’s time. Remember that grief after the loss of a mother doesn’t disappear quickly, and many mourners want to remember their mom. The memories are always at the surface, wanting to be shared. A wonderful sympathy gift is to be the person who wants to hear about the mom who is no longer here.
Research shows that the risk of a heart attack is extremely high for the bereaved in the days and weeks after losing a loved one, whether it’s the loss of a mother, a spouse, or even a coworker. Maintaining a healthy lifestyle is difficult for someone whose mom died; your friendship and invitations for tea will help her grieve and heal.
If you are searching for sympathy gifts for a death that hasn’t happened yet, you may want to read Thoughtful Gifts for Someone Who is Dying. I know it’s sad and difficult to think about buying a sympathy gift before the loss of a mother or another loved one, but in some situations its appropriate and even healthy to acknowledge the end of a life.
2. A sympathy candle, for comfort and warmth
The Sympathy Comfort Candle is a lovely sympathy gift, especially if you include a message about eternity, meeting again, and a lost mother’s spirit and soul after death. The death of a mom is one of the most difficult good-byes we ever have to say, even when we’re not close with our moms. A candle symbolizes warmth and comfort, hope and healing.
The bereavement gift you choose depends in part on the relationship you have with your friend. It also depends on her personality. But, no matter how you choose to express your sympathy after a family death, remember that your presence and hugs are what count most. The more you listen and are available to your friend, the more comforted she’ll feel.
3. Sea Glass fine art poster
The Sea Glass Fine Art Heart Poster is a beautiful, uplifting symbol of love after someone’s mother dies. It’s both uplifting and memorable, and won’t drag your friend’s heart down when she sees it…and when she remembers the mother she lost.
This sympathy gift is part of the The Heart Poster Collection, which is a collection of award winning photography from world famous photographer Donald Verger. His work is collected by people around the world – but that isn’t as important as how this poster makes people feel. It’s a symbol of healing and hope – which is what someone whose mother died really needs.
4. Memorial Stepping Stone for Mom’s Garden
If your bereaved friend is a gardener or just enjoys spending time in the yard, the “Those We Love Don’t Go Away” Memorial Stepping Stone is a beautiful bereavement gift idea. Engraved on it is this poem above, which is a wonderful sympathy message for the bereavement card. This is Amazon’s choice for “funeral gifts”, which means it’s an often-given sympathy gift after the loss of a mother or other loved one.
A garden stepping stone is a lovely sympathy gift for someone whose mom died – especially if she loved gardening, flowers, or even landscaping. This gift includes a message of hope and remembrance. It isn’t just a bereavement gift for gardeners, it’s for anyone who has even the smallest yard or balcony. It can be hung inside or outside, which makes it a flexible gift after the loss of a mother.
What to say in the sympathy card about the loss of a mother: “You are in my heart, thoughts, and prayers. I wish you all the strength you need today and in the days to come. May you be blessed with the peace that surpasses all understanding, and may you rest knowing your mother will always be part of your life.”
5. Holiday Memorial “Gift From Heaven” Ornament
The Merry Christmas From Heaven Ornament wasn’t my first choice when I was searching for sympathy gift ideas for the loss of a mother. But it received so many positive “comforting sympathy gift” reviews on Amazon – and I realized that this gift can be given to the whole family after a a mom dies. Holidays are the most difficult times after the loss of a mother; a sympathy gift that helps people cope with Christmas or other holidays would be especially thoughtful.
This oval pewter ornament makes a wonderful gift not only at Christmastime, but as a gesture of remembrance in the days and weeks after a loss. It’s a gift for everyone after the loss of a mother in the family, and can help you say “I’m sorry your mom died” in a way that acknowledges the holiday season.
This sympathy ornament features the last four verses of the “Merry Christmas From Heaven” poem and arrives gift-boxed with a complimentary poem card:
“I love you all dearly,
Now don’t shed a tear,
I’m spending my Christmas
With Jesus this year.”
The poem is under copyright (1990) by John William Mooney, Jr.
6. Heartfelt “Piece of My Heart” Sympathy Ornament
The Engraved Remembrance Heart Personalized Ornament can be given at Christmas, but it isn’t just an ornament for the tree. “A piece of my heart is in heaven” is a sentiment that is appropriate for any time of the yer.
I like this sympathy gift because of the family aspect. You may only know one member of the family, but are probably other relatives who are grieving the death of this mother. By giving an ornament that can be shared with the whole family, you express your regret and condolences to everyone. This is a powerful gift that says “I’m sorry you lost your mother” to the entire clan, and can be comforting for everyone.
7. Hand-Painted Angel Figurine
The Sympathy Angel Holding Stars in the Sky is etched with the words, “Perhaps they are not Stars in the sky, but rather openings where our Loved Ones shine down to let us know they are happy.”
This is a sympathy gift that comforts and eases the loss of a mother because it helps us know we aren’t alone in the universe. If your friend’s mom believed in God – and if your friend does, too – then knowing that she’s in Heaven with the angels is comforting. She is resting in peace on the other side, and her family will join her one day.
8. Willow Tree “Forget Me Not” Carving
The Willow Tree Forget Me Not is a lovely sympathy gift for a coworker or friend. The Willow Tree figurines are beautiful, and speak in quiet ways to heal, comfort, protect, and uplift the recipient’s spirits.
Expressing your compassion after the loss of a mother may feel awkward because death is difficult to talk about; a touch of beauty and love is the best sympathy gift you can give. What do you say to someone whose mom died? “I’m sorry you lost your mother.” Your simple, sincere sympathy is the best gift you can give after the loss of a mom. If you feel helpless and uncomfortable talking to someone after their mom’s death, you’re normal. It’s awkward and sad, and it can be difficult to find the right sympathy gift. Below you’ll find lots of ideas and tips for expressing your condolences.
9. Personally Inscribed/Engraved Comfort Candles
This Personally Engraved Memorial Sympathy Candle Holder says, “If Heaven Wasn’t So Far Away, We Know You Would Be Here Today. It’s made of solid cherry wood, and holds three votive candles; the glass holders are included at no extra charge. What makes this a good gift for someone whose mom died? It can be displayed on a desk at work or a windowsill at home. It’s simple, elegant, and meaningful.
Here’s hte personal touch: you can have your friend’s mother’s birth and death dates engraved on the candle holder. This memorializes and honors the loss of a mother in a more personal way. I featured a different type of comfort candle on my article about another type of family loss in How to Deal With Regret After Someone You Love Dies.
What to say in the sympathy gift card after the loss of a mother: “You are in my heart, thoughts, and prayers. I wish you all the strength you need today and in the days to come. May you be blessed with the peace that surpasses all understanding, and may you rest knowing your mother will always be part of your life.”
10. Tear Soup (a book about loss and grieving after a family death)
I discovered Tear Soup: A Recipe for Healing After Loss by Pat Schwiebert and Chuck DeKlyen at a Grieving Loss seminar. It’s a sad, touching story of grieving loss in a slow, meaningful way. It’s one of those sympathy gifts that helps people grieve by spurring tears, which can be difficult for many. But, as painful as it is to grieve, it’s important to cry and say goodbye. Tear Soup is both comforting and helpful after the loss of a mom or other family member. The gift of tears is healing.
Tear Soup is a beautiful coffee table book for all ages. It’ll help family members and friends understand what loss feels like, and how to go through the grief process. If your friend is a parent, this sympathy gift is especially powerful because it helps kids grieve the loss of grandmothers and great-grandmas.
11. Plush Comfort Blanket
The Chanasya Warm Hugs – Positive Energy – Healing Thoughts – Super Soft Throw Blanket is a comforting, compassionate sympathy gift. It’s also a practical idea because it lets a mourner know she can take time to be still, grieve, and think about her mother. A mom’s death is one of the most difficult losses a person can face; this gift gives them permission to hide, grieve, sleep and process their grief. It’s like giving a stuffed teddy bear, but not as childish.
This is one of my favorite gifts in my 17 Gift Ideas for After Mastectomy Surgery article – a soft, comforting, warm, cozy blanket. After I had surgery, all I wanted to do was curl up in a soft warm nest and sleep. Same thing after my grandma died.
12. Clinging Cross (a Christian sympathy gift for the loss of mother)
The Wonderful Clinging Cross: Handheld Comfortable Cross is designed to perfectly fit in anyone’s hand. This sympathy gift after the loss of a mother is a constant reminder that God is near and real.
This is a sympathy gift I’ve never heard of, perhaps because I’m not Catholic. I wasn’t sure I should include it on my list of sympathy gifts after the loss of a mother because you can’t give this to just anyone! But if your friend is Catholic, this would be a beautiful gift after the loss of a mother.
Here’s the poem that accompanies this Christian sympathy gift:
When my mind is fuzzy
And my eyes are dim with tears
I need to feel Your presence, Lord,
And know that You are near.
When my heart is racing
And my thoughts have such a sting,
I tightly grasp this little cross
And prayerfully I cling.
It’s not a magic piece –
This cross Your father planned,
But when I cling to it I feel Your nail-scarred hand.
The better you know someone, the easier it’ll be to find the right sympathy gift after their mom died. But what if you don’t know the person well? Here are a few ideas for people you don’t know well, but you want to say “I’m sorry your mother died.”
13. Sympathy Gift Basket
The Great Arrivals Sympathy Gift Basket, In Loving Memory includes a lovely bereavement card, snacks that are easy to share and eat, and free shipping.
I’m a huge fan of giving gift baskets, because they (usually) keep for a long time. They can be shared with others, if your coworker doesn’t want the items in the gift basket. If you know your coworker well enough to visit at her place, you can drop the gift basket off in person – along with a nice bottle of wine.
14. A memory book for the funeral or celebration of life
A Celebration of Life, In Memory of Your Mother is a journal that has one page for every guest to make a note in memory of the deceased.
This Celebration of Your Mom’s Life is appropriate for a celebration of life or a more serious funeral. It’s a good gift when you don’t know what to give or say when someone’s mom dies. If your friend needs help planning her mother’s memorial, this “In Memory Of Your Mother” will help with the service.
15. A “One a Day” Memory Jar – Sympathy Gift for the Loss of a Mother
The KindNotes Keepsake Gift Jar of Messages for Condolences, Bereavement, Passing, Loss, Funerals is a creative way to honor a mom’s death. It’s a beautiful keepsake glass jar, filled to the brim with linen decorative cardstock envelopes, which can be displayed and treasured in the office or at home.
This jar contains Vintage Letters – 31 positive and encouraging sympathy messages to be opened each day of the month. Or, the recipient can reach for a sympathy note anytime they feel sad and need a little pick-me-up. This is a unique and thoughtful way to comfort a friend or loved one during difficult days, through the power of words.
Sample Messages – which can also be used in a sympathy card for the loss of a mother:
- Gone from our sight, but never from our hearts.
- May the love of those around you help you through the days ahead.
- Do what you can, with what you have, where you are. – Theodore Roosevelt.
- May your heart and soul find peace and comfort.
- The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. – Helen Keller.
- Rise above the storm, and you will find the sunshine. – Mario Fernandez.
I love this sympathy gift idea because it will remind the person of your support and compassion, long after the mother’s funeral is over.
16. Fresh Flowers? A Traditional Sympathy Gift When Someone’s Mom Dies
The Fresh Orchids Sympathy Bouquet of Flowers isn’t sombre or depressing, like some funeral flowers can be. A bouquet of flowers is a heartwarming, uplifting way to express your sympathy and support after a mother dies. It’s a gift that brings life and light, freshness and beauty.
Should you give a sympathy bouquet of flowers to someone whose mother died? I’m not sure. My father-in-law died last month; the family received four ornate bouquets of flowers. They were beautiful but they required a lot of upkeep: deadheading the dying blossoms, changing the water, deciding what to do with the vases. Another problem was the strong, overpowering scent of the flowers. Giving a sympathy bouquet of flowers isn’t the best idea after the loss of a mother – but it depends on the family. If your friend or your friend’s mom loves flowers, it may be a great gift! But it wasn’t the best gift when my father-in-law died.
17. Flowers for a Mother’s Funeral
Bouquets are classic sympathy gifts for the loss of a mother. Flowers aren’t my personal favorite idea, but they are traditional. And they bring hope and healing to some families – and that’s what we need after a mom dies.
If you want to give someone a sympathy bouquet for their mom’s funeral or memorial service, here is a list of flowers and their meanings:
Dark Crimson Rose…..mourning
Immortal Flowers…….unfading remembrance
Red Poppy……………eternal sleep
Tea Rose…………….I’ll remember always
White Carnation…….to honor the loss of a Mother
White Rose…………..to honor the loss of a Father
Zinnia…………………in memory of a dear friend
Sending the right type of flowers can help you express sympathy for the loss of a mother in ways that another gift can’t. Condolence flowers portray compassion, support, and other sentiments that are difficult to put into words. The ritual of giving flowers has strong history in funerals and after the loss of a mother because the flowers themselves carrying meanings.
If you have any thoughts on these sympathy gift ideas after a death in the family, please comment below. I especially welcome tips for giving gifts of comfort and peace to people who are bereaved.
For more ideas, read Sympathy Gifts to Say You’re Sorry After a Family Death.
May you find the right sympathy gift and idea for comforting someone after the loss of a mother, and may your love and condolences shine through your heart and spirit.