How do you survive your first Valentine’s Day as a widow? After your husband dies any Valentine’s Day is hard, but the first February 14 is particularly painful. These ideas for coping with Valentine’s Day after a husband’s death are inspired by a reader’s comment and question. February 14 is hard not just because she’s a widow, but because it’s also their wedding anniversary.
coping with loneliness
A reader asked how I cope with the fear of traveling solo — especially since I’m going to India alone in less than a week! I’m not a single female traveler, nor am I widowed or divorced. On the contrary, I’m a happily married woman going on a spiritual pilgrimage into the second half of life.
Most tips on how to stop feeling bad about yourself are surficial, meaning they only skim the surface of the problem. They don’t dig up the roots of why you feel bad about yourself. Nor do they help when you’re crushed under the heavy darkness of thoughts like “I feel bad about myself” or even “I hate myself.” Surficial tips aren’t good enough.
Being alone on your birthday isn’t just lonely, it’s also a little embarrassing. I spent my 34th at a neighborhood pub, sitting at the bar, feeling sorry for myself and wondering how to be happy alone. After a glass of wine, I admitted it was my birthday to the bartender and the guy sitting a couple stools down…and they not only bought me drinks and appetizers, they sang “Happy Birthday.” Several times.
No matter how clear it was that you don’t have a future with someone, it’s still not easy to just stop thinking about him after a breakup. These ideas will help you let go of those harmful thought patterns and start changing how you think, feel, and live each moment of your life.
Feeling lost and unwanted – like no one cares about you – is surprisingly normal! Every human being, no matter how loved or happy they… Read More »What to Remember When You Feel Like No One Cares