“I miss my mom,” was all I could think on the plane from Montreal to Vancouver. It’s not Mother’s Day and I’ve never been sentimental, but watching a French mom soothe her toddler to sleep made me miss my own mother.
Finding facts about how to break toxic relationship patterns is easy; dozens of books and articles teach couples and families how to change bad relationship habits. Much harder is finding the energy and strength you need to put knowledge into practice!
You finally figured out what you’re meant to do in life (or who you’re meant to marry, or what job you’re meant to have). Maybe you’ve even finally found God’s call on your life! How, then, do you deal with discouraging family members or friends?
How do you stop being a “control freak” who wants everything to be perfect? First, be kind to yourself. You’re trying to control people because you love them and want the best for them—and that’s good! There’s nothing wrong with wanting the best for your partner, family, friends and coworkers.
You’re in “survival mode” when your family is dealing with a health, financial or relationship crisis. These easy ways to get through hard times will help you and your family cope with the most painful, difficult seasons in life.
No matter how unhealthy or even abusive your family is, your heart sinks when you realize you can’t go home. Your family is part of who you are. Nothing will ever change the impact that your home, home, and childhood had on your life.