How do you survive your first Valentine’s Day as a widow? After your husband dies any Valentine’s Day is hard, but the first February 14 is particularly painful. These ideas for coping with Valentine’s Day after a husband’s death are inspired by a reader’s comment and question. February 14 is hard not just because she’s a widow, but because it’s also their wedding anniversary.
disappointment with God
Many widows never get over the loss of their husbands. Sometimes even the healthiest woman can’t seem to shake the grief and pain of loss. These ideas for coping with grief that never never ends are inspired by a She Blossoms reader.
Feeling like you’re being punished by God is normal for two reasons: 1) life is filled with difficult losses, terrible tragedies, and dry stretches of boredom and loneliness; and 2) you are human, which means you screw up. You make mistakes, hurt others, fail to live up to your own standards, and let people down.
You had faith in Jesus, but how do you love God when He lets you down? Maybe you hoped a relationship wouldn’t lead to divorce, a loved one wouldn’t die, a home wouldn’t be lost, or a dream wouldn’t be shattered forever. But you lost something you love, and you’re disappointed in God.
Changing the way you see God will change your life, your relationships, and every experience you have. Yes, you will find happiness and even joy when you change the way you see God! But how do you experience God in a different way? How do you revive a stale relationship with Jesus Christ and renew your connection with the Holy Spirit?
Unhappy, even depressed Christians are surprisingly common. Believing in God, praying and walking with Jesus doesn’t guarantee happiness. In fact, Christians who believe God will answer their prayers the way they want are even unhappier than unbelievers! Why? Because they’re disappointed when God doesn’t give them what they want.
Of course you feel angry at God for not answering prayer! He lets bad things happen every day: death, infertility, earthquakes, fires, floods, and even “little” things like depression, divorce, drama at home, work and school.
It’s easy to praise Jesus when life is good. But how do you love God when you’re coping with cancer, grieving a death, or just not feeling His presence? And how important is it, anyway? After all, it’s not like loving God is a commandment or anything.