These tips on how top stop being a critical, judgmental Christian are creative because they don’t revolve around your attitude. Your judgments won’t stop if you focus on “how to be a better Christian” — in fact, the more you focus on you, the more judgmental you’ll be.
How do you cope when you’re depressed and sad because you feel ugly and unloved? Maybe you feel ugly because someone called you a bad name. Maybe you feel unlovable because of a breakup or divorce. Maybe you feel worthless because you aren’t as pretty or skinny as your sister, best friend, or neighbor.
Of course you feel angry at God for not answering prayer! He lets bad things happen every day: death, infertility, earthquakes, fires, floods, and even “little” things like depression, divorce, drama at home, work and school.
Believing something is true — such as the fact that you are forgiven if you follow Jesus — is different than living like you really are free. You can believe in God and still live in bondage. Brokenhearted Christians do this all the time.
Are you ready to give up on God? Maybe you feel like He has already given up on you. Maybe you don’t believe God cares about what you’re going through. Perhaps you want to give up because you don’t feel Jesus’ love, comfort, or presence.
Your sister hurt you. It won’t be easy to forgive her, but forgiveness is the healthiest choice you could ever make. Forgiving a toxic, unhealthy, or even abusive sister isn’t about becoming a better person or even restoring broken family relationships. It’s about healing your heart, spirit and soul so you can move forward with freedom, peace, and joy.