Hearing someone you love say “I don’t love you anymore” may cause you more pain than any other words you’ve ever heard. The rejection and abandonment is heartbreaking. The loss and shock is unbelievable. I know how it feels, but I have no quick or… Read More »How to Accept the Most Painful Words You’ll Ever Hear
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Taking care of your elderly parents requires a surprising amount of energy, time, and resources. If you don’t have energy, you don’t have the patience, compassion or love you need to be a good caregiver. These tips will help increase your energy level and ease… Read More »Caring for Elderly Parents? How to Get More Energy
Coping with abusive parents is hard even if you can escape by going to school, work, or to a friend’s place. But how do you survive the abuse when you’re stuck in the house? You can’t just pack up and leave home – especially if… Read More »How to Cope With Abuse When You Can’t Leave Home
How do you survive your first Valentine’s Day as a widow? After your husband dies any Valentine’s Day is hard, but the first February 14 is particularly painful. These ideas for coping with Valentine’s Day after a husband’s death are inspired by a reader’s comment and question. February 14 is hard not just because she’s a widow, but because it’s also their wedding anniversary.
Most kids don’t remember the first time they met their father because they were tiny little babies. But what about daughters like me? I didn’t meet my dad until I was an adult in my 20s. I had no idea how the meeting would go — or even if my father wanted to meet me! But I went to Israel anyway. If you’re getting ready to meet your dad for the first time, you may find my “the first time we met” story encouraging.
A reader asked how I cope with the fear of traveling solo — especially since I’m going to India alone in less than a week! I’m not a single female traveler, nor am I widowed or divorced. On the contrary, I’m a happily married woman going on a spiritual pilgrimage into the second half of life.
Some of us want to go home for the holidays, but can’t. Home isn’t what it used to be. Others of us don’t want to go home for Christmas, perhaps for the exact same reason. Home isn’t what it used to be.
Most tips on how to stop feeling bad about yourself are surficial, meaning they only skim the surface of the problem. They don’t dig up the roots of why you feel bad about yourself. Nor do they help when you’re crushed under the heavy darkness of thoughts like “I feel bad about myself” or even “I hate myself.” Surficial tips aren’t good enough.