You were created for more, but what? When, how? Figuring out who you were created to be is easy for some people, difficult for others. Some of us seem to know intuitively what we were created to do, why, how, and when. Others struggle to find their purpose or calling in life.
I’m 48 years old, and finally feel like I’m growing into who I was created to be. I wasted a lot of time chasing goals that grew out of my feelings of inferiority, insecurity, and fear. I always wondered what the purpose of life was, but I didn’t really think God created me to be someone or do something specific.
Things are different now. I started my She Blossoms blogs and books a couple years ago, and am realizing that God wants us to flourish and grow into who we were created to be! He wants us to thrive, to trust Him, and to find meaning and joy in our lives. One of the first and most important steps is to grow into who we were created to be. If you’re struggling to find your place in the world, you’ve come to the right place.
How do you feel about your calling or purpose in life?
Maybe you’re confused, scared, or lost. Maybe you always thought you’d be a writer, astronaut or doctor…and you’re a middle-aged store clerk with an unfulfilled purpose and unrealized dreams.
Maybe you were on the right track when you were young, but you got distracted or destroyed by a relationship, crisis, or accident. Maybe you don’t know who you were created to be because you listened to the wrong people, went down paths that were unhealthy or even deadly, and couldn’t figure out how to get back to yourself.
It’s time to create a better life.
Who You Were Created to Be
This article is part of my “She Blossoms Through the Bible” project. I’m writing an article for every chapter in every book of Scripture. By the time I reach Revelation 22:21, (“The grace of the Lord Jesus be with all the saints. Amen.”) I’ll have written 1,189 “Blossoming Through the Bible” blog posts! Yikes. Talk about stepping out in faith.
In this article, you’ll get a glimpse of who God created you to be. We’ll take a quick glance at Genesis 3 and see how it applies to our lives today.
1. God gives you freedom. This is one of my favorite things about God! He wants us to make decisions and take action in our lives. He gives us freedom to figure out who we were created to be, to take steps forward and sideways and even backward. Genesis 3 tells the story of Eve choosing to eat of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. She chose not to trust God. She chose to listen to the serpent and to trust herself. This was a mistake…and it was borne out of the freedom God gives us to explore this world and make decisions.
2. God seeks us. You’re here — not just on earth but reading this article about who you were created to be — because God is calling you. You aren’t here by accident. God is seeking you, just like He sought and talked to Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden. He asks questions, gives insights, and offers guidance for living a deep, healthy, good life. He welcomes your doubts, fears, questions and even your anger. He knows every emotion you feel, and He isn’t mad at you. He loves you and is seeking you right now.
3. God is a holy and just Father. I didn’t have a dad growing up; in fact, I didn’t meet my father until I went to Jerusalem, Israel when I was 29. I don’t know what it’s like to have a dad, but I believe good fathers set rules and discipline their kids when they disobey. A child who has complete freedom to do everything, such as live on chocolate chip cookies and bacon-flavored ice cream, will soon become unhealthy and unhappy. Good dads are clear about the rules, and allow the consequences to unfold when kids disobey. God is a good Father — even when we don’t understand or like the consequences of our choices.
If you’re serious about learning who you were created to be, learn more about God the Father. Develop a relationship with Jesus Christ. Seek the guidance and wisdom of the Holy Spirit (Ruach, in Hebrew). When you find them, you will find yourself.
1. You’re hiding who you really are. In Genesis 3, neither Adam nor Eve admitted the truth about what they did. They hid from God, which is natural. I hide from Him, too…and so do you. It’s easier to hide from God and people because facing our mistakes and weaknesses is hard. It’s shameful, embarrassing, painful. It’s easier to hide in the darkness than come out into the light. It’s also unhealthy and destructive.
2. You make mistakes when you listen to the wrong people. Eve made the fatal mistake of talking to the serpent instead of God or even Adam. Adam made the fatal mistake of listening to Eve and eating of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil instead of talking to God. When you’re growing into who you were created to be, it’s imperative to listen to wise, mature people! Talk to them about God’s will for your life. Ask how they figured out who they were created to be, what mistakes they made, and what they would do differently.
If you’re struggling with a breakup or loss, read When God Doesn’t Restore a Broken Relationship.
3. You don’t trust God. Do you trust God with your life? Are you asking Him to tell you who you were created to be? Maybe you’re getting nothing but silence from Him. That’s great! It means you have freedom to go in any direction that makes sense to you, as long as it doesn’t go against Scripture. You have the gift of freedom, and the wisdom of the Holy Spirit. Accept and use those gifts, for they are precious. Learn what it means to trust God to help you become who you were created to be.
Who You Were Created to Be
1. Read Genesis 3. What did God say to Adam and Eve about who they were created to be? How does this affect your self-identity and calling? Learn from Scripture. It is holy and inspired, and will help you follow the right path.
2. Refuse to set your heart on a relationship. One of the biggest mistakes women make is focusing on a man or a relationship to make them happy. I see this over and over in my She Blossoms comments: women are devastated by breakups, divorces, deaths, relationship problems. Grieving the end of a relationship or marriage is healthy — of course we should be sad and weepy when we lose someone we love. But if we’re devastated and unable to heal after a loss, then our hearts were set on the wrong thing. A man, a marriage, a relationship. I think this is part of the curse in Genesis 3:16. Read it, tell me what you think.
3. Take a step forward! What would you love to do with your life? Who do you want to be? Why did God create you — what are your skills, talents, gifts, curiosities, interests? God has given you freedom and power to make decisions, move forward, and have a deeper life. Jesus died so you could live in abundance, joy, peace and freedom. Don’t waste His death. Do something, even a little thing like researching a training program or searching for a job in a field you’re curious about. Be active and curious about who you were created to be.
If you could be anything or go anywhere, what would you do with your life? Your comments, big and little, are welcome below.
May you find courage, strength and joy as you take step three into who you were created to be! May blessings fall into your life, and may you seek a deeper relationship with Jesus. May the Holy Spirit bless you with wisdom and guidance as you walk boldly and bravely into the new season God has planned.
With His love,
P.S. If you’re struggling with a difficult decision or starting a new season in life, read An Easy Way to Stop Overthinking God’s Will.
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